Hey! This is quite a random topic but maybe there are others who have experience and can relate.
I got married and had kids way before the other people in my generation of the family. Now I am a mom and a wife with a career and “established lifestyle” and I’m finding it hard to relate to siblings and other family members who are not in the same stage of life as me. I know this is not uncommon, but I guess I just wonder if I’m making enough (or the right kind of) effort.
See, I got married before the age of Instagram and TikTok and Bumble and Hinge…and I’ve been told (and wholly believe) that I just simply have no clue what it’s like to date in this current day and age.
There are girls younger than me in my life who I deeply care about, who casually date and I admittedly don’t know how to relate to them. I married young, I married the first person I was even in a serious relationship with! We got lucky but it makes me feel…out of touch. I don’t want to be out of touch.
Does anyone have any thoughts or resources, blogs, books, ANYthing that could help me relate to those in my life who are just living a totally different romantic life than the one I have lived? These are special family relationships and I don’t want them to just fall apart.
persimmon / 1281 posts
I met my ex husband before most social media and dating apps but found myself single in 2019 so I got a taste of what it’s like now. I recommend listening to U Up? Podcast. Modern dating advice for dating and relationships in 2022. Very informative!
apricot / 398 posts
Can you just listen with curiosity and affirm their struggles without offering advice or judgement? If these are people you care about, I don’t think you need to relate to them to hear their experiences and validate them. It’s probably good experience for parenting teens and adults.