I'm 8 weeks postpartum, fit into some of my pre-pregnant clothes, but have a diastasis recti so my shape is a little different, and skin is looser in the midsection. My body feels mostly my own, but I do have a history of eating disorder and body issues that DH is well aware of. He's been very positive about my body postpartum, in general, when it's just the two of us.

Now my little sister is visiting this week to see us and the baby. She is sort of promiscuous and flirtatious and wears very revealing clothing all the time. I'm always sort of uncomfortable with her interactions with DH and they both know this, but it somehow becomes a conflict every time we're all together. I gave her a dress code when she visited me in the hospital because I really didn't want to deal with it in that moment. She's also a massage therapist, but I've told DH i prefer he not get massages from her because it makes me uncomfortable and I don't trust her.

Anyway so today the two of them ran some errands together where they might see some friends who haven't met me, and sister and I joked about how they'd think she was me. DH's response was something about how it's so obvious that she hasn't had a baby.

This really bugged me.
Felt like he was comparing our bodies and implying that mine was somehow damaged in a way that would be obvious to strangers. When I told him in private to please be more careful on this subject because it's sensitive for me, he deflected and said I was looking for a conflict. And then he later, over dinner with my sister present, repeated a similar statement about her being so clearly not post-baby. He also asked her for a massage because he pulled something while lifting things during their errands.

Am I crazy or is this really as maddening as it feels?