So.... I feel like a horrible person for even bringing this topic up, but I can't be the only one in this situation.

I gave birth to baby #2 in May. My husband gained about 20-30 pounds when I was pregnant (he's probably gained 40 since we got married 6 years ago). I've lost the baby weight. I actually weigh less than when I got pregnant. Not a brag - I have worked hard exercising and watching my diet, even though it's very difficult to fit in with 2 young kids, work, etc.

My husband doesn't seem too interested in losing weight. He eats pretty unhealthily, doesn't exercise. He's had a recent physical and everything was fine. (I had sort of hoped the doctor might mention something to him)

I love my husband regardless of his size, but I do feel like I am somewhat less physically attracted to him because of his weight gain. (and maybe it's less the weight gain, and more the fact that he doesn't seem to care about it?)

Anyway, I feel TERRIBLE for even saying that. And if he were to tell me "I'm less attracted to you because you haven't lost the baby weight, you should try harder", I would be upset. So I do not want to say anything to him. I guess I am just looking for some solidarity or techniques for me to get over it or move past it.

Edit - I do try to cook healthy food at home, etc. but there's only so much I can do, you know?