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@Coco Bee: this is just a random thought, but coud it e your smell in your bed that he loves? Since he will sleep there on his own? What if you wore or slept with the sheets or blankets he will be using. I don't know if it will help, but that's the only thing I could think of.

I would buy a new bed and move into the nursery

Sorry, no wisdom here, just wishing you guys luck!

@Coco Bee: How about buying a crib and placing it in your room? I don't know, I'm just throwing out a bunch of ideas. I totally know how tough it can be. Does LO like car rides? What used to work for us is driving until LO fell asleep and then carrying her in the house still strapped to her carseat.

@Coco Bee: Also, I just counted - when we sleep-trained LO, she was exactly 14 weeks and 4 days old.

Does your LO show any signs of self-soothing? Like, sucking fingers/thumb? Do you swaddle him? Does he take a pacifier?

@Coco Bee: Oh, my thought was to just start having him learn to sleep in the place he'll end up sleeping for good. Like, getting rid of the co-sleeper altogether.

@Coco Bee: For me I can't do co-sleeping.... my baby is 4 months old now and has been sleeping in his crib in his own room since he was 1 month old (or younger, I forgot), per our pediatrician's suggestion.

When we first came home we moved his crib to our room. Then after our pediatrician told us to move him back to his room, the first night was quite brutal. He would cry and cry and we were so busy having to go over and sooth him. However the 2nd and 3rd night he got used to it and he was able to sleep in his own room just like he was in our room.

Another thing is we don't let him fall asleep in our arms. Pediatrician says always lay him in his crib awake so he learns to fall asleep on his own. It was a brutal 2 months before he learns how to sooth himself to sleep, but now he falls asleep in his own crib with no problems.

He still wakes once or twice at night, but I went over and fed him and he falls back to sleep pretty quickly on his own. (Knock on wood I didn't jinx anything)

So for me, I think you have to be heartless and do the transition: put him back to his crib to sleep. It is going to be hard but the pain is also short - maybe a few nights of crying. Then he will know oh this is how it is supposed to be. Like ripping off a band-aid. To me it is better to train him now then when he's 1 or 2 years old and is still in your bed, or if the baby becomes one of those kids from the Super Nanny show where they kept getting up and cry when the parents try to put them to bed...etc.

I dunno.... that's my 2 cents....

If it's cozy that he likes maybe try a cozier swaddle blanket? This polar fleece one is magic for my LO. He likes to rub his litte chin on the collar area as he falls asleep, plus it has a really easy-to-use swaddle, which makes him feel like he is being held. Here it is: (http://www.amazon.com/SleepSack-Micro-Fleece-Swaddle-Cream-Small/dp/B001D7JO1U)

My friend has one who likes to rub her face on snuggly things too and although it's not recommended, she rolls up her baby's coziest blanket and puts it next to her LO so she can rub her face in it while she goes to sleep.

There are some less harsh sleep training methods... one of my friends did one where she was constantly picking up the baby, calming her and putting her down until the baby was worn out and went to sleep. Seems exhausting to me but I guess it works for some people!

I forgot to mention that my LO (4 months now) also used to HATE the crib. Somewhere between 1-2+ months old he would cry every time we place him in it as if we were punishing him and putting him in prison. I think that may be similar to your baby not willing to sleep in the co-sleeper let alone his own crib, which I really don't know why. However, they really do get used to it. We have a bedtime routine and I would say the exact same thing everyday before the bath, "We'll first take a bath, then we'll eat, then we'll go to sleep!" and he understands. By the time when we put him to his crib he is usually pretty happy, knowing that he's getting ready for the night of sleep.

So hang in there, and yes buy a crib. It will be painful but he will sleep in it eventually, with a smile on his face. Your baby will grow up to be a little person and sleep in his own bed anyway, he's not always going to be in your bed! I'd do it now before he gets older, starts crying and climbing out of the crib himself if you know what I mean. It will be wayyy harder if you wait until then.