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I'm sorry you're having a rough time I'm the same with leaving LO, I really only feel comfortable with her being with her Dad so I'm useless for advice.

I know it doesn't help you in the meantime, but LOs are really adaptable so hopefully like krsmall said, it will just take some getting used to for her, then she'll be more at ease while away from you.

Hang in there

I'm sorry you feel like this. I've been back to work for 2 1/2 months and still hate leaving him have you tried a Sippy cup? The have the transition ones for 4+ months

So sorry to hear about this. I went back to work when Baby X was 12 weeks old, and worked until he was 7.5 months (when I quit to go back to school). While I was working, some things that helped--

I had a post-it on my computer listing the reasons why it's good for me to work "He's spending time with other people who love him. Both me and baby being comfortable with other caregivers means that DH and I can go out for dates and trust that things will be ok. Working gives me something to talk to DH about, besides the number of poops I dealt with in a day...." So while it's hard, I just reminded myself over and over of the good things that came out of me working. And it got easier over time. Baby X still cries when I leave him with DH and my MIL, but he gets over it and in the end, it's better for the sanity of all of us if he has a few caregivers instead of just one.

As for feeding-- Baby X took the bottle, but he isn't wild about it, and barely took it for the first month or 2 after I went back to work. What helped us was making the bottle really warm-- not scalding, but warmer than you'd think was ok, but that's how he wanted it. Also, switching to the faster flow nipples helped. I've always had a faster let-down, so matching your let down might help.

And also-- I know it doesn't help you now, but even when I was home, Baby X was a horrible napper. It wasn't until 9 months or so that his naps really got into a good groove. Just give it time.

Glad that it helped. You'll figure things out and it will get better. Promise.

Big hugs, mama. You are totally doing the right thing. Yes, going back to work sucks. I know it. I am away from M 48 hours a week and it is so, so hard.

I can't help but wonder if there is anyway you can get some help elsewhere or have a sit down with his parents and explain that they are doing more harm than good. I would be so angry if the person I was leaving my lo with wasn't doing what was best for my lo. Especially if it was grandparents!!

I would definitely do what @winniebee suggested. Just offer the bottle over and over again. If she gets hungry enough, she will take it.

Have you tried having your husband offer the bottle on weekends and you pump (somewhere out of the room) to try and get her used to the bottle?

I'm sorry you're going through this.