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Just posted!
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I'm so happy that so many of you are posting about this on Facebook. I just can't do it. I'm too embarrassed to "out" myself on Facebook I guess. All of my close friends know about our infertility and using IVF, but I just don't feel strong enough to post anything about this on Facebook. That in itself, actually upsets me-that I'm too embarrassed to do so.
But props to all of you who are saying something!!!
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@Honeygold89: @alohaorchid: @mrswin: @T.H.O.U.: @swedishfish: Thank you!
@ladybee: Sure, you can use it.
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I just scrolled through FB to see if anyone had posted anything... I'm not comfortable posting personally right now. Maybe down the road, but not quite there yet =/
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I posted this blog. And it got one measly "like."
But, I still like this post! 
http://www.addingaburden.com/2014/04/five-ways-to-support-friend-with.html -
I added words to my previous pic, if anyone wants to use it.
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@Mrs. Pinata: I like that article! I'll be sharing, thanks!
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@Jenn23: *hugs* I feel exactly the same way that you do! One of my best friends knows some of our struggles, some of dh's friends and family know too because of what he went through in the past and it makes me feel so uncomfortable. I can absolutely never tell my family what we're going through and I just don't want to out myself. It's a double standard really because I also wish it was something that was more widely discussed.
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@alohaorchid: I know, I think it is just like certain mental illnesses like depression and such in that people tend to keep these things to themselves and their is even a stigma or shame that goes along with these things. Even though infertility is SO common, most people don't talk about it. I wish it could be talked about as routinely as any other medical issue to make it less uncomfortable. I'm so glad so many Bee's here are mentioning it on Facebook, but I just can't do it!
Edit: Oh, and I'm sorry you can't talk to your family about it.
Glad you have support from friends, though!! That is so important!!
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@alohaorchid: @Jenn23: Yeah, it definitely took a while for me to work up the courage to post. I gradually came out. First, I posted to my female friends because they would hopefully understand. I got amazing support and was so thrilled to see everyone thinking of me. Then a few months later, for NIAW, last year, I posted to everyone, including men! Eeek! But once again I got overwhelming support from men and women! So I'm officially out. It feels good not to have this secret inside. I only post IF stuff about 2-3 times a year, so I'm no where spamming everyone about it. I'm sure some people find it weird that I'm airing this stuff out, but whatever, they can unfriend me if they don't want to see it. I don't need or want their friendship if they think that way anyway.
Also, I did make sure my husband was okay with it before I posted. He was worried at first but he saw how supportive his friends and our friends were and so now it doesn't really bother him.
I do completely understand others who want to keep it private. It's hard and you don't want your friends all up in your business... especially about having sex and the fact that you can't make something that should be easy. So I'm supporting those of you who want to be more private about it.
I posted something really subtle here. http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/officially-infertility-awareness-week-april-21-to-27#post-732682
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I just want to vent for a second. :\
Today I posted the article @Mrs. Pinata shared with us yesterday to Facebook and I got a comment. He said (exact words): "Man I hope I'm infertile! Some people are so lucky."
I responded with "You could get a vasectomy."
He posted back "There is a chance it'll screw up your finish. Some things are sacred."
I wanted to come back with something like, yeah some things ARE sacred, like not calling people who are unintentionally childless, something you clearly take for granted, "Lucky".
Instead I just said: "... Well at least it's clear that my posting this isn't pointless."
I wish I could reach through the computer screen and punch this guy in the face.
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@pui: Ugh, idiot! I'm so sorry.
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@pui: that is so horrible!
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@pui: Oh my gosh. Who is the guy? Friend? I would be beside myself with anger. That is just such a horrible thing to say to somebody!!! I would remove him from your Facebook!
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@pui: That guy sounds like a tool!
My ex husband got a vasectomy and didn't tell me about it until 2 years later...
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@pui: I'm sorry, what?! I think there's a whole host of people who would line up to punch that guy in the face.
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@alohaorchid: wow...
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@Jenn23: Comparing it to mental illness is exactly how it feels! Thank you
I could never, ever tell my family about this, which makes it so much more difficult. I hear from them all the time about how I need to start having kids and my mom constantly talks about my future kids. It's frustrating!@bluestriped bee: I'm actually envious that you are "out" and able to talk about it to more people! I wish that I could be in that position. That's so great that your friends and family have been so awesome and supportive!
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@Jenn23: Yeah I've already removed him. I see no reason to keep him as a friend.
But props to all of you who are saying something!!!
But, I still like this post! 
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