So I know that my C section will be scheduled sometime around my 39th week.
Last night I woke up and suddenly wondered what we do if it’s a weekday. My 3yo has school 9-12 M-F. My mom will be here to stay with him so I’m not worried about childcare. More about logistics - does he still go to school the day of? The day after?
Part of me (most of me) thinks his life should remain status quo but then it also seems weird to have such a huge life-change and remain status quo. Know what I mean?
I guess if he doesn’t go to school what else will he do...he won’t be at the hosptial with me all day at every day. So school makes sense?
And here’s a sub-question because I’m too lazy to start a new thread - if they did go to school the day of or next day, did you send any kind of treat? Like “I’m a big brother!” With cupcakes or lollipops or something. Our school is all for parents bringing treats in for all sorts of things. And I think it might make the day special for him and he’d be proud?
grapefruit / 4278 posts
I had a scheduled induction, so we took him over to my parents house the night before. They got him up and dressed and to school on time and picked him up at his regular time and brought him to the hospital to meet his sister. He went to school the next day also, since it didn't make sense to have him sitting at the hospital all day. We didn't do a treat, but I think that could be a fun idea.
cherry / 202 posts
My c-section was scheduled for a Friday at noon We did drop older brother (3) off at daycare that day. We had grandma and grandpa pick him up after nap. It was early evening by the time they all arrived to meet baby, which worked as it gave me a few hours to recover before seeing everyone. It worked really well!
We did not send treats to our in home daycare, mostly because it's not the norm in our area. Sounds like a sweet gesture!
squash / 13208 posts
DS went to DCP the day of and my mom picked him up at his normal time and brought him to the hospital to see us. He went to DCP the follwoing days as well - I wanted him kept on his schedule.
pear / 1767 posts
My induction was scheduled for early on a Friday morning so my son stayed at my parents house starting on the Thursday night. I left it up to them as to whether they wanted to bring him to school or not since it was just one day and it was preschool and they opted to go to a museum and do other fun things. We never brought treats to school but I did bring his baby sister to pick him up once I got back from the hospital and he loved showing her off at pick-up as everybody oohed and ahhed over her.
nectarine / 2458 posts
I had my c-section scheduled for Tuesday morning. DH dropped DS off at school that morning and then came home for a bit before we both headed to the hospital together. DS stayed at school the whole day and my mom picked him and brought him to the hospital around 5:30pm. We pretty much followed that routine all week where he would come by for a visit after school. We went home on Friday so by the time the weekend came we were all back at home together. All in all it worked out really well for us.
DS didn't bring any treats or anything, though I think that's a really cute idea. He did wear a new big brother shirt though.
ETA: I think keeping DS1 in school was really important for him. He seemed really overwhelmed by the changes in the hospital but school said he was fine while he was there. So I think the consistency helped him a lot to cope with the big changes and also see that not *everything* was going crazy.
persimmon / 1111 posts
When my sister was born (planned c-section), my dad dropped my mom off at the hospital and then dropped me off at school. Around lunch a local florist delivered "It's a girl!" balloons for the entire class. My dad picked me up, drove me to McDonalds, and then I got to meet my sister. I went to school the rest of the week and all through my mom's maternity leave. It was really nice to keep a routine because there was so much change at home.
With my LO we are not having a planned birth, but our plan is to drop him off at daycare when I go into labor (it is a home daycare and they will take him overnight). He will go to school the next morning and my mom or husband will pick him up to meet his brother. He will go to school for the rest of the week because he needs consistency and because he doesn't eat well or nap well for anyone but me or daycare.
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
Yes. DD2 was born on a Tuesday night and DD1's schedule was the same. The only difference was grandma put her to bed, but DH came home around midnight and woke up with her the next day. She didn't come to visit either; I was debating, and DD2 ended up in NICU anyway so that was decided for me. They met at home and I felt like keeping her world "normal" was the best.
cantaloupe / 6085 posts
I wasn’t scheduled, but she went to school both days i was in the hospital. First day my SIL took her and then after that my mom was there and handled everything from there and drove her to school. I didn’t want to upset the schedule. We didn’t do anything special at school, but baby brother brought her a toy when he came home and she got home from school.
pomegranate / 3895 posts
My daughter was born on a Wednesday, which happens to be a day that he doesn't have school and is with the nanny. He spent his day like normal and then my mom brought him up to see her once we were settled. He spent the night with my mom and went to school the next day like normal. He didn't have anything special at school, but her picture was posted outside his classroom to announce that she was born and he was a big brother.
We did have a present for him at the hospital from her, which was super clutch because it ends up babies get boring to 3 year olds pretty quick.
pomelo / 5563 posts
I scheduled my C-section on a weekday specifically to make it easier for my older son. My parents stayed with him and yes, he still went to daycare - I figured that with not having me around for a few days, it would be best if he kept his normal routine. So my parents dropped him off and picked him up, and then my husband drove home for dinner and bedtime and then came back to the hospital. He didn't come to the hospital because he was only 2 and I thought it would be too confusing to come see me and then have to leave again. We didn't send anything to daycare because they don't allow outside food, but we did buy him a big brother present "from the baby".
cantaloupe / 6171 posts
My parents stayed at our apartment and kept lo1's schedule the exact same--she went to school, except I think one day they picked her up early (at 3 instead of btw 5-6) so that they could bring her to the hospital to visit without it getting too late/interfering with dinner time. We didn't do any treats at school but our center makes poster versions of email announcements to put on the door of the center and the classroom. Our center also incorporates pictures a lot in kids' play, so she had a special "necklace" (laminated pic with a string attached) made with our pic that she wore and could look at when she missed us. They also had made a "R is going to be a big sister book" and we had a copy at school and home that she read a LOT. And, she wore her special hospital visitor sticker (they have a special big sister/brother one!) like all week haha
Oh and we did the "baby gives lo1 a gift" thing but she didn't seem to care about that stuffie, she was way more excited for the actual baby than I thought she would be! like ran past me in the hospital and went straight to lo2
grapefruit / 4361 posts
No personal experience, but I'd def send him to school to keep the routine as same as possible, and I think the treat is a special way to celebrate the day
nectarine / 2784 posts
ahh your baby will be here so soon!
With my scheduled induction, my inlaws were watching my daughter and they kept her schedule the same. I was in the hospital thurs- Sunday so for the weekend I left them a list of optional activities, and they visited us twice as well. Bringing treats for school is a great idea! Does he have a “big brother” shirt you could send him in?
grapefruit / 4584 posts
My kids’ schedules remained totally normal during my scheduled induction.
Treats weren’t allowed at our school; we sent the girls in “big sister” T-shirt’s and armed with a pic of baby the next day, so they got lots of attention.
cherry / 202 posts
I wanted to add that we did keep him home until the Thursday after baby was born, so he skipped daycare Monday - Thursday. He just went the day of birth. We were released from the hospital on Sunday, and spent the next few days bonding as a family. Big brother went back to daycare the same day my husband returned to work.
pomegranate / 3438 posts
I wasn't a scheduled induction or c-section and my son was in preschool when DS2 was born. I went into labor on a Monday night, my SIL came to stay with him and he stayed home with her that day. The next day we returned to his normal schedule, although DH did pick him up early to come visit us in the hospital.
We did not bring treats for the class.
pomegranate / 3272 posts
DS2 was born on a Friday and DS1 went to school that day. He didn't come to the hospital to meet his brother until the next day since the baby was born in the evening. He made sure that he brought a cupcake to the hospital b/c it was his brother's actual birthday. So cute. But we didn't send him to school with anything
eggplant / 11716 posts
Mine wasn't scheduled but I had my second at around noon. My mom was in town and staying with us for childcare, but my older LO was also in a summer camp program. We kept her in the camp the regular hours that day and the next day.
I *think* I remember that I gave birth on a thursday, so then it was the weekend and LO1 was home with us. Then she was back at camp the next week. My mom would take her and pick her up, and then would help me with errands/cleaning/cooking/newborn stuff during the day while DH was at work (he went back to work immediately and took his paternity+some vacation after my mom left).
ETA: we didn't do anything special--no toys from baby, no big sister gear (except some books we read leading up to baby 2), and LO1 adjust exceedingly well. Never any jealousy or issues.
persimmon / 1345 posts
When lo2 was born, it happened to be during teacher workday and then Presidents’ Day. I would have preferred it being school hours to keep routine but oh well. She ended up going to various friends houses or childless friends would come pick her up from hospital and take her for ice cream or something nearby.
No treats but I did email the teacher so that when she did get back to school, she got some extra loving.
pomelo / 5720 posts
I don't have a c-sec scheduled but if it happens during the week we plan to keep our other two kiddos in their normal activities, as much as possible. We did this with my son when my daughter was born and I think it helped with the initial transition. If it happens on a weekend this time (due tomorrow!) we will just have to wing it as we will be relying on family and friends to keep the kids occupied during the day.