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Brief update before I run back to work:

Ultrasound was normal. A bit of compression towards the top of my uterus, but nothing of concern. My doctor wants to wait until after my HSG on Friday to make a plan of action. He "forgot" that we have been TTC (*grumble grumble* - it's in my file and a big part of why I had an appointment today!!!!!!) so he seemed pretty shocked when I told him this is the 17th cycle we're on. He pretty much said, "yeah, you need to be pregnant by the fall." THANK YOU. Basically, if my tubes are clear, he wants us to try naturally for a few more months. If there are any tubal issues, he wants to schedule the lap. I'm almost hoping (ok, maybe that's the wrong word....) something comes up on my HSG because I'll be so annoyed if we have to wait x number of months doing the same damn thing we've BEEN doing!!

I so wish an RE was covered by my insurance :-\

So it looks like I don't have any decision to make... Nurse at the RE just called - I'm surging as we speak. Way to speed things up body! So looks like IUI isn't happening (no results yet) and no need for a trigger. I don't even know if we could do IUI if we wanted to since I'm already surging? Anyone have any idea? Always something here, LOL!

@doxielove: could you explain that you're ready to move forward and don't want to try naturally any longer? (I'm assuming that is what you want.) What other testing have you gone through so far?

@LindsayInNY: My first reaction was no, it's too late, but then I realized I really don't know! Some people do back to back IUIs, so there are doctors out there you see a benefit of doing an IUI at a later time. For me, my husband is to abstain for a day to get as high of a count as possible, then the sample is provided and they wash it, and I have the IUI done an hour later. All that is to say it takes a little planning.

@CupQuakeWalk: what makes him think your uterus is misshaped? I like that he lays out a plan for you like that. My kind of doctor!

@Happygal: It's always nice to have something to celebrate! This IF thing is tough on the guys, too, sometimes ...

@MrsTal: LOVE the room!!!

@LindsayInNY: Maybe it's meant to be? I think unless they tell you different, now might be the time just throw caution to the wind and BD...

@Happygal: I would think timing would mean IUI tonight or tomorrow? But we don't have results back so we're going to do it the usual way instead... Hopefully the Clomid helped beef things up a bit (that sounds pervy...)!

@FliegepilzHut: I thought the same thing. How ironic of timing?! We're going to BD it up tonight/tomorrow and let fate decide...

@LindsayInNY: fx for some fruitful BD! unless you have male factor issues, the clomid is probably going to make more difference in your odds than the IUI. as in, still a good shot!

@bhbee: that's what I always thought too. What other benefit is there for an iui? I mean, if his SA checks out then how is it any different than normal TI? I kind of just want him to give me a trigger shot and let us do TI but since insurance covers it anyway, I told our re to just go it.

@MrsTal: That room is incredible!!!!!!!!!

@Kelli_Deluxe: that is a beautiful line! i'm so happy for you!

@bhbee:

@alohaorchid: that word stings i'm sorry. i don't like that word either & refuse to use it for myself.

@MrsTal: i love your reading room!! what a beautiful space!

@doxielove: good luck on friday! hope it goes smoothly

@CupQuakeWalk: a 3 month plan sounds great! you're appt will be here before you know it how was your trip?

@bluestriped bee: how did your sonohistogram go yesterday?

@mrswin: if you're reading this in a little internet cafe somewhere in Europe, I hope you're having a blast!

@lazypanda: ***update:--I think I'll POAS on 5/17. I don't know why, but just writing out a POAS makes me nervous.

@MrsTal: Your reading room turned out lovely! Love it!

@Happygal: I'm not sure how aggressive I'd like to be at this point, and I think that's part of the problem! Sometimes I think "17 months is long enough, let's get this moving!" and other times I think, "what's the rush? You're 26, "young," and only want 1 child, anyways - enjoy your time with your husband!" So far my husband has had an SA (normal), but that's about it as far as IF testing...

@bluestriped bee: excellent news!!

@doxielove: no one will know when the 'right time' is but you, but one thing i can say for myself is that i wish i had done the testing earlier, not because it think i would have been ready right then to start treatments, but because then i would have known what we were working with and that would have helped me to decide when the right time for us was. if i had known i needed surgery prior to carrying a pregnancy to full term, i wouldn't have wasted all those medicated cycles. i probably would have done the surgery sooner, then when it felt like the right time, gone forward with treatments. i think of tests as information gathering, once you have all the information at your disposal it can help you decide how to go forward, or choose not to but have an idea of what the plan would be when you are ready. the dr is eager to help you achieve a healthy pregnancy, but it's also okay just to find out what that would take and then hold onto that info until you want to act on their plan. it's a lot to digest, and you're right, you are young, time is on your side

@alohaorchid: i think making the appt for yourself was a great step, knowledge is power! so glad that went over okay with your DH!

@Happygal:

@doxielove: I can totally get where you're coming from (albeit I'm not in your situation). Do you have any specific concerns about your fertility (irregular periods, excessive menstrual pain, history of infections or similar)? I second @mrs. bird: -- whether you ultimately decide that you absolutely want to start a family right now, knowing if there is some specific impediment to you getting pregnant (which you would only know by going through the testing) would come in handy, whenever you are ready. It's so hard to imagine where people are in their lives at any given age (I was totally not ready to start a family at 26)...and there's also a social component, I think-- people sometimes feel driven to raise their kids at the same time as close friends. But there's never a "right time," you won't have the same degree of freedom (presumably for many, many years) once you have kids, and unless you know different, you are still quite young in reproductive terms. At any rate, I wish you the best, whatever you and DH decide!

Okay, one more thing... AFTER 7 WEEKS without so much as a peep, my initial IVF referral finally got back to me about lab they had ordered (and the imaging reports/disc I had sent them) today. They were apologetic, it sounds like there were extenuating circumstances, and they promise to give me their full attention in the future. And I want to believe them... But DH feels they've had their chance and it's time to move on. He's probably right...right?

As for me, I have a couple positives (pun intended?!) to add...

- I got a + OPK this morning so clearly my body was ready to O! We're BDing as usual and just waiting for DH's genetic testing results. Praying it's not an issue but ready to tackle things if it is.
- I gave my notice at work last night. It's extremely bittersweet but I think the best option in the long run.

@MrsTal: I love your room! I would probably have a few naps in there

@LindsayInNY: Exciting news all around! What made you decide to give your notice at work?

@FliegepilzHut: I think I'm with your DH on this one. I wouldn't be ok waiting that long, unless there was a really, really good excuse. What does your gut say?

@bhbee: How are you doing?

@LindsayInNY: All good news! Do you have something new and exciting lined up? Or are you taking a break?

@alohaorchid: My gut says that there's no adequate excuse in the age of email...and in the face of multiple attempts to contact them. But for some reason, I'm still ambivalent about it. The APN gave me some really good information (months ago)...but there have been altogether too many ridiculously long waits and botched communications. Onward and upward, I guess... BTW-- was your question to the board at large? Or to @doxielove:?

@bhbee: Thinking of you! Did you say you have taken progesterone supplements in the past?

@FliegepilzHut: Just the board at large I guess. I'm getting so many "you're so young, you have time" and "you really need to think about your fertility" comments and it's just making me wonder.

@alohaorchid: I saw my first RE when I was 29. he said something like "I'm glad you came in now when we have all our options open". I think after 35 you have more worries about DOR which is why they advise people 35+ to seek help after only 6 months, but of course there are younger people who do face DOR and older people who don't.

eta: for the man I have no idea how age relates, but I'm sure they have longer