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@Mrs. Polish: Hang in there lady! You're a great mom and that little guy is adorable

What cycle are you on/how long have you been TTC? TTC since March '12

What are your plans for this cycle? At the tail end of the TWW of my HSG cycle. BFN so far

How is your attitude/outlook? Trying to remain positive, knowing that I'll have an appointment next week to figure out a plan if I don't get a BFP in the next few days.

What have you struggled with most this week? Impatience and staying positive.

What is your diagnosis? MTHFR, Hashimoto's. Had a blocked tube.

How do you cope with Mother's Day? Last year it came so early in our TTC journey that it didn't really phase me. This year we'll be out of town exploring some national parks, so I'm hoping it goes by unnoticed (except for me calling my own mom).

What cycle are you on/how long have you been TTC? Since September 2011
What are your plans for this cycle? Transferred two frozen embryos leftover from last month's failed fresh IVF cycle. Beta is 5/5, but this time I will probably POAS beforehand.
How is your attitude/outlook? Meh.
What have you struggled with most this week? Thinking it will never happen.
What is your diagnosis? Endometriosis
How do you cope with Mother's Day? It may not come at a good time this year. I may be on the heels of a failed FET cycle and entering another IVF cycle. My mom lives far away, but I have already told DH that I don't want to go to mother's day brunch for his mom. Its not like I don't love his mom. I just don't think I should have to subject myself to a restaurant full of mothers and children right now. DH can go. Hope that doesn't sound too selfish.

@justdarling: Welcome back! About Mother's day, can you "come down" with an awful cold or something that day? Wouldn't want to pass it on to that precious grandchild...

@raintreebee: Sorry to hear you're having a rough time! I hope this cycle is a good one for you so you don't even have to think of whats next. Have you heard of Circle + Bloom's meditations? I was skeptical at first, but I listened to their free session and it really helped me feel more positive, so I ordered the whole set. Might be worth a try?

@Apex: Thats very sweet of you I'm not very religious, but I'll be thinking good thoughts for you too!

What cycle are you on/how long have you been TTC? Don't even know what cycle anymore! We've been TTC a year now.

What are your plans for this cycle? None, I think we're trying on our own for a cycle or two after this yikes.

How is your attitude/outlook? Mixed.

What have you struggled with most this week? We thought we wanted to go away somewhere but can't think of anywhere worth splurging on.

What is your diagnosis? DOR, endometriosis, hypothyroid, low progesterone.

How do you cope with Mother's Day? It's always been bad - I don't have a mom and the last few years it's been worse because now I feel self-conscious about not being a mom, too. We managed to be out of the country on Mother's Day for a few years in a row but I don't think we'll do it this year so I'll have to think of something else.

What cycle are you on/how long have you been TTC? since september 2011

What are your plans for this cycle? we're just starting a FET cycle, so we're starting to move on that, aiming for transfer mid-june

How is your attitude/outlook? okay now. it was a little rough after the negative beta last week, but i'm trying to keep things in perspective and keep moving forward, which is a lot easier said than done

What have you struggled with most this week? the negative beta was on friday, and then tuesday my cousin (who is like a sister) had her 4th baby, and i have a baby shower to go to on saturday. i'm just struggling with keeping a good perspective - that other people having babies doesn't affect or cause me not having babies - and trying to be happy for those around me with their new little ones.

What is your diagnosis? severe MF

How do you cope with Mother's Day? i'm trying to focus on my mom and MIL, and maybe just a nice, easy night at home with DH after some lunches, etc

@raintreebee: It is hard to get your hopes up after what you recently went through, but...it could happen! It could really happen!

What cycle are you on/how long have you been TTC?
TTC since January 2012

What are your plans for this cycle?
No plans this cycle... after three failed Clomid cycles, we're NTNP until we're ready to move forward with IUI this fall.

How is your attitude/outlook?
Impatient but also ok with things... for now.

What have you struggled with most this week?
Trying to mentally get out of the TWW... I'm so used to symptom spotting, tracking everything, but having not done anything "special" this month, I have no hope for a BFP. But some part of my brain hasn't caught on to that, and I still find myself thinking about things in terms of how many DPO I am, etc.

What is your diagnosis? Mild PCOS and Mild MFI (count)

How do you cope with Mother's Day? Honestly, it doesn't bother me. I'll probably go visit my grandmother

What cycle are you on/how long have you been TTC? 18 months TTC.
What are your plans for this cycle? My beta for IUI #2 is on Tuesday, 5/7! With Clomid and Ovidrel trigger.
How is your attitude/outlook? Earlier this cycle, I wasn't very hopeful, especially after my CP last cycle. "How could it happen twice in a row?" I thought. But ever since I saw a dip in my chart at 6 DPO and sore boobs since 8 DPO (I never get sore boobs!), I can't help but pump myself up for a BFP!
What have you struggled with most this week? Just waiting.
What is your diagnosis? PCOS.
How do you cope with Mother's Day? Luckily (or unluckily), my birthday is the day before, so with my beta on May 7, either it'll be the best Mother's Day ever, or it'll just be my birthday. Not too bad.

What cycle are you on/how long have you been TTC? cycle 15
What are your plans for this cycle? in tww AF is due to arrive on May 7th, not going to test before. If AF shows her ugly face then onto HSG and my first consultation with RE mid may:)
How is your attitude/outlook? I'm a mixture of emotions I was very happy to hear my insurance authorized the RE consult, but soon became really bummed to hear that my insurance only covers 50 % of all infertility costs.
What have you struggled with most this week? I've struggled with fear of the unknown. How is the HSG going to be what will they find? how much is this going to cost? willl we have enought money? will I ever have children of my own?
What is your diagnosis? no diagnoses yet
How do you cope with Mother's Day? Thankfully my SIL andMIL will be out of town, so I will spend it with my parents who are being very cool about it and suggesting we go out to dinner the night before. I really do want to celebrate my amazing mom, just don't feel like being in a crowded restaurant on the actual day.

What cycle are you on/how long have you been TTC? Cycle 17
What are your plans for this cycle? No treatments, just going about it the old fashioned way.
How is your attitude/outlook? Ok, I am calmer without all the cycle monitoring and RE stuff so it has been good in that respect.
What have you struggled with most this week? Trying to be patient while I wait for my consult with a well respect ND in my area who has had good success with endo patients
What is your diagnosis? Endo, mild MFI (low count)
How do you cope with Mother's Day? I just try to keep the focus on my mom, MIL and SIL but inside it makes me a little sad that I can't join the party yet.

@Suzimo: Do you happen to know if it's 50% of anything after the initial consult (meaning all visits, labs, diagnostic procedures, IUI, IVF, and medications)? Or is it possible that there's something they cover (like labs or visits) but not IUI/IVF/meds? We learned that there are so many ways to interpret "we don't cover infertility."

@ineebee: heyyyy we're birthday twins!! Happy early birthday!

@ineebee: @spaniellove:@thereeldeal: Thanks for the support and advice. I did call my insurance company again to try and clarify things, considering I have gotten false information in the past. Basically as it stands I do have to pay a 50% copay on all things related to IF. Which means possibly paying 50% for lab work that was once fully covered when ordered by my ob. Its pretty infuriating dealing with the insurance company. I am trying to just stay in the moment and not look ahead to much at this point. All I really want is a diagnoses. I just want to know why I am not getting pregnant, something my ob apparently can't tell me so moving onto the RE is the right decision despite the cost. I am also grateful that I have any coverage at all. I know many people have to pay for IF completely out of pocket.

@mrswin: Thank you! I wrote a separate post because I am on pins and needles. The long and short of it is that we POAS a day early, got a very faint positive and headed straight to the clinic. Beta came back very iffy (15.8 although a day earlier than normal testing at 8dp5dt). We go back Monday. The waiting never ends!

@Suzimo: That is very frustrating. I hope your clinic will strategically code things for you so that you can get some of it paid for 100%. It makes no sense that infertility isn't treated like any other disease.

@Suzimo: That is so frustrating! As @raintreebee mentioned, I've heard that some clinics will work with you to code everything in a way that avoids an infertility diagnosis and that you have to be careful with every single visit and procedure to make sure no one slips up. If you want to go this route it might be worth contacting potential REs to see if their clinic does this before you go for your first visit. I've also heard that sometimes if you go as a 100% cash pay patient, they might give you much more discounted rates than if they were billing your insurance.

@spaniellove: My heart breaks for you. Having to go through both the emotional and physical aspects of your loss seems too much too bear. But you are handling it with grace and strength. Have you guys decided whether you will continue with the new re?

I hope it's ok to join in here.

What cycle are you on/how long have you been TTC? A little over a year.

What are your plans for this cycle? DH will be gone for most of this cycle so nothing, but we were planning on just rolling with it for the next few months.

How is your attitude/outlook? I've had a whole range of emotions, but mostly I'm sad and angry that I can't even get properly diagnosed because insurance won't pay for anymore testing.

What have you struggled with most this week? Deciding where we are going to go from here, adoption or pursing testing, plus also struggling with my job/career plans.

What is your diagnosis? Unknown. My dr thinks that due to previous pelvic infections one or both of my tubes may be blocked.

How do you cope with Mother's Day? This is really my first Mother's Day since dealing with IF and I think I'll cope ok. I've got my cousins baptism to go to and I'm hanging with my family most of the day, my mom knows what's going on so hopefully she'll be a buffer if needed since DH is gone.

@Shutterbug: It is really frustrating, I found one helpful lady at my insurance company that told me to get it coded differently but going to an RE I wasn't sure it'd work (anything dealing with infertility is automatically denied) but my husband is looking to move from his job this summer and I can opt into my insurance if necessary at the end of this year, if neither of those pans out we are saving up, so there is hope it's just waiting longer than expected.