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@mrsjyw: I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

We had a loss in July and another in August. We were told to wait two cycles, and I went back on BCP while we waited to start IF treatments at my REs office.

We started in October, bfn
Chemical in November
Sticky baby in December

The worry never went away for me. I didn't fully enjoy my pregnancy bc I was consumed with worry. I wish I would have relaxed a bit & allowed myself to enjoy it more!

I posted this thread and got lots of helpful answers, maybe it'll help? http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-bfp-ended-in-a-mc-how-many-cycles-later-did-it-take-to-get-pregnant-again

But to answer yours questions, I had a chemical in October. Started trying the very next month, BFN, got my sticky BFP the second month in Decmeber. I was very early in the MC process and my period came back quickly. I was terrified I would have another chemical, and it was actually really hard for me to 'connect' to the pregnancy. It wasn't until I started feeling him move and found out the gender that I started worrying less.

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It can be very isolating. Feel free to PM me if you'd ever like to talk to someone. November was a very dark, sad month for me.

I am so sorry for your loss. I had a natural mc at 7.5 weeks. We waited until I got AF again, then tried that next cycle (so sat out that first ovulation between the mc and my period). My daughter was conceived the next time we tried. I got a positive at 8 DPO. I continued to test early because I was concerned about having a shorter LP (11 days with spotting before) and wanted to know if I was having a CP/miscarriage. I was very anxious in the beginning, but still enjoyed my pregnancy (sickness aside). I had spotting at 6.5 weeks which terrified me, but had an US and saw a heartbeat. Dr. was "cautiously optimistic", which did not really ease my fear. I remained pretty anxious until my 9 weeks US when the Dr. said the odds were very good. I bought a fetal doppler and checked on baby A LOT between 10 weeks and 18 weeks or so, when I could regularly feel movement. My sister really encouraged me to have a positive attitude and to expect the best, which I believe helped me.

My second miscarriage was a chemical (on Christmas Day, no less) and I got pregnant on the second cycle. I still took an HTP early because i'm crazy like that.

With my first miscarriage, it was later on at 10 weeks so i had to have a D&C. My memory is super hazy but i had the D&C in early May and got pregnant in late July.

I may have mentioned it in your other thread, but i waited it out just in case i ended up with another CP.

We will be on our third cycle post loss this month and will see what happens. I was more hopeful early on.

@mrsjyw: I'm sorry for your loss. It is good you'll meet with your OB. M/c is common (which I only learned HOW common after my own in May), but I think it's good to keep an eye on what's happening with your body.

We tried again the first cycle after a normal AF, which fortunately returned for me 29d after the m/c (@6w2d). We just got a BFP in our 4th cycle post m/c. I'm excited, but so cautiously optimistic & not ready to allow any worry to go away. I'm now under the care of an RE (mostly b/c of my advanced maternal age), & hope to get plenty of monitoring, whereas with the first pregnancy I hadn't even yet been seen by an OB.

I'm so sorry

My doc told me to wait a full cycle before trying again, which we did. My period came back 6 wks after the loss and we started trying again and it took 3 more cycles to get pregnant (almost exactly 4 months post loss) I did test early and went in for betas and repeat betas. I also got an early 6w ultrasound. I never really stopped worrying until I could feel the bay move regularly. This pregnancy I didn't worry nearly as much though.

I'm so sorry - no matter how early or how late, a loss is always devastating. I had a D&C at 8 weeks early September. My doctor said we could go on trying when my cycle returned. My cycle returned in October and we did try but didn't succeed. The cycle after that, I got my BFP. The time between the BFP and the first ultrasound was the hardest - it was at the first ultrasound where it was discovered I had a blighted ovum with my first pregnancy - so I was convinced it would be a repeat. But even after the first ultrasound, I didn't really feel at ease and able to enjoy the pregnancy until after the NT scan at 12 weeks - and here I am on maternity leave with my LO now! The worry, really never goes away - when you experience a loss you kind of lose that innocence in a way, but you just have to learn to push that aside! Good luck to you

Big hugs and so sorry about your loss I had a chemical pregnancy at 4 weeks in August 2013 after taking a few months off from a blighted ovum in March. The chemical happened on the first day of a cruise vacation so I didn't get to speak with my OB until a week later and she said I didn't need to go in since it sounds like everything happened naturally. She also said we didn't need to wait a cycle. We ended up conceiving DD#2 the next cycle but it took a long time for the worry to go away. I didnt take weekly belly pics like I did with DD#1 because I was afraid to get too attached. I greatly regret that now but at the same time it was really hard to not worry.

@lilteacherbee: fwiw I wasn't very anxious at all for my second successful (?) pregnancy.

I miss carried at 8 weeks just after christmas, waited about a month and then had a D&C. We ended up waiting a few months because that just felt right. I got pregnant in June and realized at about 10 weeks that I needed to let myself fall in love with this little bean. I deiced that taking the risk and feeling the joy and hope was what I needed. I wasn't until i heard a heartbeat at 15w that I really let myself relax a little. I still have moments of worry but I am trying to welcome that as a natural part of motherhood and not let it grow to big.

It's hard. But helped me to think about it like falling in love and that always comes with risk and great joy.

good luck!

After my first at 9.5 weeks, they recommended we wait a couple cycles, but only for emotional reasons (that's all they told us at the time), so we only waited until I got AF back (so basically skipped the first ovulation). Conceived immediately, but lost that one also, at 5 weeks. We waited until some testing was done to see if I had clotting issues or anything (all negative) and were told to wait one more after that (to allow my endometrial lining to recover), so I believe it was a total of 3 months before we tried again. That time it took a little longer, but not much, we conceived on the second month trying. Because that one made it so far (33 weeks), we were told to wait at least 3 months after AF came back before trying again. But a pregnancy that lasts that long is much harder on your body than a short one, so I'm actually surprised we don't have to wait longer.

And I agree with what several above said, that you never really stop worrying entirely, but you can still enjoy the pregnancy. Even once we found out about our daughter's issues and knew there was a good chance we'd lose her, I still was able to enjoy it some of the time. I just found I had to choose to enjoy the moment. Especially with my showers, which happened to fall right after we got the news that things were looking pretty bad, I decided that every baby deserves to be celebrated, and that I was going to celebrate her life, no matter how short it might turn out to be.

Though, all that being said, I'll probably pursue some counseling to keep my anxiety under control next time, and there's definitely no shame in that if you wind up more stressed than you expect in the future.

I've had two chemicals and am not pregnant 2 cycles after the most recent loss. I'm just over 20 weeks and I still worry all the time. Honestly, the 3D ultrasound pictures, baby kicks, and the heartbeat have made my worries worse since now I know what I would be losing. This journey is a long one.