What would it be?
Mine would be to try not to couple feeding and sleep. For 5 months my DS would only sleep if he fell asleep nursing. In my arms.
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To do what you think is best, not what others think you should do.
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I would say 'trust your gut'. That got me through soooo many awful things, and really my gut has been right so many times.
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To enjoy them being little and newborn - they grow so fast!
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Hold the baby as much as you want because time flies faster than you ever think it will!
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To do what works for YOU, and YOUR baby, not necessarily what the books/general public/your mom says.
Also, to do without guilt.
(okay okay i cheated)
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Try not to stress and trust your instincts. You know your baby better than anyone else.
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Everything is a phase that will eventually come to an end. The good and the bad... so enjoy it
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Don't go by everyone else's baby follow your gut and don't worry/ compare your baby to others
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If you're breastfeeding, meet with an LC ASAP if things don't feel right. Also, accept help from others, because it means that you'll have extra time to snuggle that teeny newborn. (Also two pieces but the first only applies to bf'ing mamas!).
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Don't fret. Babies change so quickly and a new phase will come before you've adjusted to the last.
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Sleep when the baby sleeps. I know everyone tells a new mom this and then you think you need to get stuff done while the baby sleeps but really you need the rest too. Never again will you have this chance because when baby #2 comes you won't be able to sleep when he/she sleeps because you'll be taking care of #1 or in my case #1 and #2 (twins).
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Be flexible and go with the flow of your baby.
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Take what the "experts" say with a grain of salt.
Also I would say...it gets easier with time! I just needed to hear that over and over when my LO was a newborn!
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To take any help anyone offers, and to not listen to anyone else about what you "should" be doing.
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Dont drive yourself crazy if something youre doing isnt working, just try something else.
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Take daytime naps with the baby for the first year. They are my favorite thing, plus you earned them! Don't stress over a clean house or your To Do list, just sleep and snuggle a little.
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Relax!
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To accept offers for help. If your MIL is loading your dishwasher differently than you do, don't sweat it....at least the dishes are done!
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Accept help. People wouldn't offer it if they didn't really want to help.
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it is YOUR baby and you don't *need* to do what other people tell you to. you really do know your baby the best.
babyhood is so fleeting. hold them, rock them, stare at them - you can't spoil a newborn and they are only this little once. you blink and they are off and crawling!
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The best youtube clip I watched while pregnant . . .
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Take pictures with your baby together! I know you may feel like crap and gross but I so regret that I have almost no pictures of me and my LO together. I have a ton with him and every other person in the world but me and it makes me oh-so-sad.
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Along with taking pictures, take videos!!!! I have one short 20 second video from when LO was a week old. All others are from a month or older and he looked so different. I wished I took more the first couple weeks but I was in a daze
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Take pictures, sleep while the baby sleeps, accept help even if it's hard to, write out your laundry procedure, etc.
If you have overbearing guests, visit them. If you have overbearing guests, make it clear that it's your house & baby rules, not theirs from everything from lights on to duration of daily visit.
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Trust yourself and, more importantly, trust your baby.
@MsLipGloss: Thanks for sharing that! It was beautiful!
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not really advice but more of a mantra: IT GETS BETTER! the first 6 six weeks were hard but once you're past that it just keeps getting easier and better.
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"Normal" is generally what your baby is doing right now.
Can I have two?
Successful parenting doesn't require a book and generally doesn't go "by the book" - do what works for your family.
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Like the Johnson's commercial, I'd just tell her that she's doing ok!! I feel like we question ourselves so much, and people don't tell new moms that enough!
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Do what's best for your family because every baby and every family is different! Try not to compare yourself to others and cut yourself some slack because we're all doing the best we can!
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@lisa1783: Oh, that's a good one! I have several pictures of he and I taken at the hospital, a self-portrait I took when he was 3 weeks old but pretty much none of the two of us together for the first 3 months or so. Tons of him and my DH, though.
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I'd tell them to trust their gut. It always surprises me how I can sense when something isn't right and when it's later confirmed it's like I knew all along.
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Involve and trust your partner a LOT. Except breastfeeding, make sure you both can do everything for the baby - diapers, playing, bathing, bottles if you use them. As long as it's not life-threatening, don't hover or second-guess your partner's way of doing things. Just enjoy that they're bonding and take advantage of your downtime to go out with friends or have some alone time.
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@MsLipGloss: Love this!! Esp. the one that said, Google doesn't have children.
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Teach them to fall asleep on their own (ie: without rocking, nursing, etc). This was by far the hardest thing we've had to do so far, but it has been life changing
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Not to worry so much about the little things that will seem so big. Baby will learn how to eat, sleep, self sooth all in time sometimes because of what we do and sometimes in spite of what we do. In the end it will all work out.
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This too shall pass in regards to any phase...
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@Smurfette: I like that one too. The ones that brings tears to my eyes (now) are the *she will have your eyes* and the *you are about to meet true love* messages. Because she does, and I did.
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Don't stress. People have been having babies for millions of years. You will survive and so will your baby. Don't get caught up in the latest and greatest fad. That might be more than one thing but in my mind it's all connected.
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@MsLipGloss: omg! STOP THIS. I am so hormonal still....so.damn.cute.
I'd just say: ENJOY IT! Everything bad will pass. Everything good must be cherished and remember because it too will pass (too quickly).
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