How would you have them?
The more I think about it, I probably would give birth to 2 children and adopt another.
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I would probably give birth to them, but I am interested in adoption. My husband is not interested in adoption.
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If I had the money time and resources I would foster. Although in this scenario I would not want to have any biological children still at home. Just because I would want to be able to devote myself entirely to the foster child/ children.
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I would give birth to two or three and maybe hire a surrogate for a couple more (though I know it is not that simple). Just wouldn't want to be pregnant that many times! It stresses me out too much!
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I have one child and don't want another biological child. Hated pregnancy and childbirth. So we do want to adopt in the future, once LO is older and we're more financially stable.
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i'm 38 weeks with my first and have hated everything about pregnancy but really want two kids. if i could choose i would get my husband to carry the next one. considering that's not possible, we will probably just have one. i'm adopted and don't want to adopt and probably don't have a strong enough desire to look into surrogacy.
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I'm actually interested in adopting #2 but deterred b/c it's so costly, plus it shouldn't be an issue for me to have another one...
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@loki: haha I bet the husbands will have a much harder time with pregnancy! then they'll know we're superior, lol
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No one hate me, but I really like giving birth. Like, I'm sad I'll never be doing it again (we're 99% sure we're done). I've even considered surrogacy because I love labour and delivery.
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Four or five? Birth three, adopt two!
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@snowjewelz: if only that were an option. i told my husband the other day i just want him to experience what i'm experiencing for 15 minutes so he can understand!!! he seems to think he'd handle it better than me. pffff.
@prettylizy: you can have my next one
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@prettylizy: you can have my next one, too!
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@prettylizy: Me too.
I would have all of my kids biologically because, to me, there is something so incredibly awesome about going through labor and delivery and being handed a tiny perfect baby. I love that moment. It was also especially impactful to me as I was adopted so it was the first time I ever got to meet a biological relative.
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@loki: Yes, mine too! I'm like, no, I doubt you can handle 9 mo of pregnancy, labor, actual birth, recovery AND breastfeeding.
The other night he was joking around offering DD his boob and she scratched him and I was like dude, this is NOTHING!
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@coopsmama: i'm adopted too and your comment on that just made me tear up... i'll blame it on my 38 week hormones
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@loki: I can't wait to hear that your baby has arrived -- and I'm sure it will be a special moment for you, too.
You're almost done!
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@prettylizy: lol you're going to have HB members lining up for you to have their babies!!!
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@coopsmama: same!!!! I know it is different for everyone but I have never felt more alive, empowered, self assured and in general amazed with myself as when my girls were born. I want to bottle that feeling and feel it all the time.
@mediagirl: lol!!! Uterus for hire!!
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I might entertain having one more but I would definitely adopt either way. I dont know ideally if I could have as many kids as I wanted how many Id really want ( we are going to have 3 and sometimes I wonder about having one more physically so if I wanted to adopt it would have to be at least 5 or 4 if I choose to not have one myself but I want to adopt no matter what)
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@prettylizy: I dont love birth, Im actually scared about that part but I love being pregnant. I have easy pregnancies given so I dont mind at all growing a baby. Part of me wants to look into surrogacy too for that reason but I dont think Im an ideal candidate as Im getting older anyway
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@coopsmama: I wish I could have felt the same way! I had severe pre-e and was on a cocktail of drugs - and one of them made me feel like I wasn't even present, oh but I was feeling the pain every second. So I barely remember the moment he was born and I was so out of it I couldn't "live" it. I feel like I missed the first 24 hours of my child's life.
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@prettylizy: That's awesome. We have some friends who've been struggling with infertility for a number of years. I wouldn't do surrogacy for them, but I wish that someone would since they're such great people.
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@prettylizy: @coopsmama: same here. I loved pregnancy and giving birth. But it also gave me a new appreciation and awe of surrogates and birth mothers, because I had a pretty easy time of it and it was still really hard.
But I'm with you two, I have never experienced anything as amazing as giving birth and the rush afterwards. It's the act of parenting more than two that slows my roll.
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@prettylizy: I agree about bottling the feeling. It's amazing! It's so surreal - going from oregnancy to being handed an infant. An amazing moment for sure.
@Mrs. Pen: Ugh, that sounds horrible.
I'm glad you were okay after all of that! I actually felt similar after the birth of my first. I'm thankful in that I do remember the moment he was born but it was a traumatic birth (home birth turned transport to hospital) so I was soooo exhausted and slept through much of his first few days -- only waking to nurse. It's also hard for me to remember those first days and feel like I missed them so I know what you mean. 
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I'd have 3 and give birth to them all.
I also am pretty in love with childbirth.....in a strange, empowered, awe-struck kind of way. 9 months of pregnancy, not so much.
You're almost done!
I'm glad you were okay after all of that! I actually felt similar after the birth of my first. I'm thankful in that I do remember the moment he was born but it was a traumatic birth (home birth turned transport to hospital) so I was soooo exhausted and slept through much of his first few days -- only waking to nurse. It's also hard for me to remember those first days and feel like I missed them so I know what you mean. 
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