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  • poll: How often do you go out on dates?
    Once a week : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Every 2-3 weeks : (7 votes)
    9 %
    Once a month : (14 votes)
    17 %
    Once every other month : (11 votes)
    14 %
    Once every six months : (15 votes)
    19 %
    What is this "date night" you speak of? : (33 votes)
    41 %
  1. Cherrybee

    papaya / 10570 posts

    This is a very sore subject right now. My inlaws used to watch my DD1 three days per week so we didn't feel we could ask for weekend help (and they never offered). We booked a sitter a few times but a night out is no fun when you have a curfew and an early start with kids the next day. When I went back to work after DD2, I had an honest conversation with my inlaws and they stated that week days and weekends were all the same to them, they just felt they couldn't cope with any extra. So we put DD2 in an extra day of nursery (DD1 is in school now). That way, we would get regular Sunday afternoons (we figured every other), and a monthly overnight stay. We agreed this last Christmas and, in that time, we've had one overnight and ZERO Sunday afternoons. And they're still moaning they're tired, so we don't feel like we can ask. Worst part is, the extra childcare is costing us an extra £250 a month and so we actually can't afford a babysitter now - we could have paid one every other weekend for that money. Gutted.

    In short, we've had one date night in 2017.

  2. 2littlepumpkins

    grapefruit / 4455 posts

    @Cherrybee: MIL complaining after tons of time offering to watch LOs a few days a week was a factor in me quitting working ft. I don't blame her or anything, since they are our kids, but it was disappointing so I get that aspect. Bummer!


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