How often do you, ya know....BD/DTD? I’m just curious what the average is? I don’t know why it doubled the last few answers.
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i would say 1-3 times a week. DH works 24 shifts though and sometimes 2-3 in a row so we may not even see each other enough. try not to go more than a week in general although DH would do it every time he was home.
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Once a week, scheduled. Anything beyond that is considered bonus yeah! Scheduling it has helped our communication dramatically.
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This is something that we need to work on... once every couple of months
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It was about weekly. We've dropped to 2-3x/mo. I, unfortunately, have zero drive & dh feels bad initiating all the time. It's a big problem & I feel so guilty for not missing sex. I do worry about damaging our relationship, so I need to really try harder.
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It varies, sometimes it's nearly every day, sometimes it is once a week or every few weeks.
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I voted once per week but it really varies. When we get in a groove it's 2-3x per week but we get in ruts where it's more like once every few weeks...
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I think we would more but one of us is always sick. That’s our biggest problem.
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@GoGoSnoGirl: Basically the story of my life. I tell DH that it just doesn't occur to me most of the time. I think I have a really low drive due to taking an SSRI.
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Id say 3x a week. Sometimes more but not usually less. It’s been a HUGE problem in our relationship. We’ve been working on it for years through counseling and it’s done some major damage to our relationship.
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Typically every other day. My husband swears that's on the low end. He is crazy!
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@babypugs: um?
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Ugh, this is a big stress in my life - both of us have a fairly low drive but going for weeks stresses me out because I feel like we should be having more sex, so I’ve instituted Sexy Mondays, which isn’t fail proof (two kids, lots of colds) but has helped.
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Before DS, multiple times a day
. Since DS 3 times a month. Poor DH but my libido when right out the window with birth and two years later it still isn't back. I've read that lack of D3 and iron can cause low libido after birth. So I'm working on consistantly taking both to see if that helps. Sometimes I try to fake it, but I must not be very good because DH doesn't buy it.
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@babypugs:
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Can I still be considered post partum?! Baby is 4m old....
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Between #1 and #2 it was anywhere from 2 times/week to 2 times/month. I'm still not released for action after #2 but I expect it'll take us a while to get back into the swing of things (esp because #2 is still in our room, and will be until 6 months probably).
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@travellingbee: @arosebyany: Right?? I keep telling him to ask his friends so that he can get his reality checked! If it were up to me I'd vote twice a week, but he'd pick daily, so this is a decent compromise for us.
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@babypugs: I don’t know how y’all find the time! That’s sounds exhausting!
I think maybe some people don’t have marathon sessions... I can’t commit 2 hours a day to DTD. I’ve got laundry and lunches and work. And most importantly sleep! If we ever had quickies it’d be easier but that never seems to happen.
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@Babypugs: we're pretty much every other day and my husband is always mentioning how we need to be having more sex! He wants it at least 2 x's/day, I tell him all the time that he's a sex addict, crazy!!
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Sometimes 2x in a day sometimes not for a few weeks. We are good communicators so it works for us.
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@travellingbee: two hours?! i would die. we're a "hit it and quit it" kinda couple 9 times out of 10.
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I need to be better with this. We are 1-2 a month usually but since DS it's more 1 every few months. I am still pumping and bf'ing and honestly I just don't feel into it!! DS is almost 9 mos so hopefully i'll get back into it. I feel bad for DH but not that bad. I try to explain it to him but, eh, he's a man.. he doesn't get it.
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@travellingbee: 2 hours
wow, that is some serious endurance! I think that has to count for at least 3 or 4 x. I'm currently third tri, so yeah, the next time my pregnancy app informs me that my sex drive has never been higher, I might need to toss my phone out the window
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We are usually once a week, sometimes more, sometimes less. My libido has definitely suffered, I'm blaming the birth control pills...
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It's been three months. It's depressing.
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@periwinklebee: lol. Totally!!!!
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We're about twice a week, although that was over the summer when we were both relatively healthy. And it's also possible because our youngest is almost 3 now, so we have a bit more time for each other.
Now that it's cold season, I suspect we'll go down to once a week.
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DH works a shift schedule so we're about 2-3 times a month. Each of us would like more but with his schedule and 3 kids, it doesn't happen.
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@babypugs: My husband shall never know you exist, lol.
@avivoca: I can't really remember, but it's been a while for us too. I know it's when DD2 started waking a few times before I even go to bed. And I have negative drive, if that is possible!
@travellingbee: Marathon sessions... What are those?! I just don't have energy for that anymore haha!
I didn't vote b/c it varies so much. I've had a tough time since we had DD2. I'd say if I'm in a good place, at least once a week is no problem (or even more), but DH & I had agreed to help me work on getting me better first (happier, more down time, etc) so sex is currently kinda off the table.
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@snowjewelz: Ha! Well, I always tell my husband that he'd get better quality of he was willing to sacrifice quantity....I guess it's a trade-off.
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@travellingbee: Two hours?????? That is impressive! Yeh I'm always like...I'm tired, make it snappy!
wow, that is some serious endurance! I think that has to count for at least 3 or 4 x. 
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