Okay Ladies,
I need a little input. We have been trying for over a year and we finally are pregnant. Through 2 sessions of iui's we finally got the BFP...only to find out later that our prayers had been doubly answered. Twins!! We are absolutely elated! Couldn't be happier 
We told our families at 8 weeks but holding off on telling anyone else until we are for sure positive that everything is okay with both babes. The 12 week appointment is when they are measuring necks and results should come in the following week. We hear thats pretty good time to share but I don't know if Im fully comfortable in sharing until the 18week appointment when they do all of their testing. I also know that with twins, I will be wearing a little bit of a belly and there is only so much "blaming it on a big lunch" that people will believe. I also don't want hurt feelings for not telling co-workers before its fully visible. When did you start sharing? I especially want to hear from those mama's that had iui's and/or twins!!
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@newatthis: Congrats on your IUI twins!! I love hearing IF success stories!! I'm moving on to my 3rd (or 6th, depends on how you count them) IUI soon. I hope you continue updating us on your pregnancy! Gives those of us in the IF stage some hope.
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I don't have any personal experience with twins (although my husband is a twin so his mother does). But I wanted to say Congratulations!! And welcome.
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Congratulations! I'm no help. I was pregnant with twins. One vanished at 9.5 weeks. We made the Facebook announcement after the NT scan and a family friend's wedding at 13 weeks.
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@bluestriped bee: Thank you
We are beyond excited and just a little overwhelmed. Mostly just SUPER excited!
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@MrsMccarthy: Thank you very much! I feel like I'm meeting and seeing more and more twins everyday. Might just be because I am more aware of it though
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Congrats! There a handful of twin moms on the boards, hopefully they will be able to help you with any questions. When is your due date?
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@swedishfish: I am so sorry to hear of your loss
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@Radish: February 12th. Valentines Babies, although twins tend to come a couple weeks earlier
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@newatthis: Nice! I'm due Jan 30th. I am a twin, but my mom only had us a week early.
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@Radish: Congratulations! I am beyond excited for them to share that special bond together.
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Congratulations!!! I have twins from IVF & ended up telling everyone around 11/12 weeks. Closer family/friends knew a bit sooner. It got kinda hard to hard to hide pretty quickly for me & so we decided to make the announcement.
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Congrats! My BFF had twins and she waited till around 20 weeks because of the chances of vanishing twin.
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@Caly: Yay! Im so glad to hear of your success. Did you do it after the NT scan or did your doctor give you the go-ahead, or did it just become comfortable for you to tell people at that point? I am so very cautious because of the journey we have been on.
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Congratulations!
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@Leialou: Thank you!
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Yay!! Congrats! I told my family I was pregnant with twins at 8 weeks and waited until 14 weeks before telling most people. I started showing pretty quickly tho so some people already knew.
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@littlehunny: Good to know! That seems to be the consensus of when to tell people. Thank you
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@newatthis: I honestly can't remember if we'd had the NT scan, I think we had done it but not positive. We'd had a few ultrasounds at that point & decided we felt comfortable sharing. I completely understand being cautious! We'd had a previous loss & 4.5 years to get there so I totally understand.
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@newatthis: Congratulations X2!
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Congrats on your twins! I have nearly 11 week old IVF twins. Because a lot of people knew we were going through IVF, we told family, friends and some close coworkers immediately. I made a "public" announcement at work and on Facebook at 12 weeks. By then everyone at work already suspected because I had already gotten big. However, my sister is pregnant with twins right now (also IVF babies) and she did not tell people at all until much later. She is tall and very slim and wasn't obviously pregnant until 16-18 weeks. Her coworkers were shocked she was having twins because she was so small. So you might be able to get away with telling later. Good luck! You're in for such a fantastic adventure!
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I have IUI twins! Congrats to you! I told my mom the day I got a positive test, lol, and then some friends at 11 weeks bc we were all having dinner together and it was obvious I wasn't drinking. Everyone else I waited until after 12 weeks. Out situation was a bit unique and we ended up doing CVS testing, so once I got the results from that back, I just slowly started telling people. Specifically kept it off social media. By about 15 weeks, I looked noticeably pregnant
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Congrats!!
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No advice, but congratulations!!!
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@newatthis: congrats! My cousin and his wife had ivf twins this winter! They told us at 12 weeks and his wife is petite but I couldn't really tell until they told us. Hoping for continued good things for you!
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Thank you so much everyone! I really appreciate the advice, well wishes and stories
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@twodoghouse: Wow! The grandparents must be so thrilled...2 sets of twins!
@newatthis: Congratulations!! So exciting. I'm 14 weeks with an IUI baby girl. We told our parents immediately. I told one friend immediately because she knew I was testing. Then, I gabbed to a few more people around 7-8 weeks and everyone else at 12.
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@CatchAFallingStar: Haha, yes, my mom especially is beside herself!
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Congrats! I'm currently pregnant with IVF twins. I told close friends and family and close coworkers right away. Similar to @twodoghouse, our friends and family and some coworkers knew we were doing ivf so they naturally wanted to know how it went. We did a Facebook announcement around 15 weeks, and another gender reveal announcement at 18 weeks. I thought I was definitely showing by 18 weeks but some ppl said they couldn't really tell I was pregnant. Good luck to you!
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Congrats! I have 2 year old ivf twins! We told our parents and brothers that we were doing ivf. My mom was the one with me during transfer! But, we didn't tell our parents until we confirmed with beta. We told our bros at around 6 weeks? Our first real us. And we never announced to other people. Just started telling them in 2nd trimester if they asked.
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Congratulations!!! My opinion on this issue has changed somewhat recently. Before, I was firmly in the "not before 12 weeks" camp. But then I had a miscarriage and wish I had told more people about the pregnancy when they could have celebrated it and said "congratulations" instead of "I'm so sorry". So I will tell people much earlier next if we are lucky enough to get pregnant.
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@newatthis: Congrats! I'm pregnant with an IUI singleton right now. I think you'll know when the time feels right. Twice I told my husband that I was going to share the news, and twice I held back! I now feel more comfortable sharing the news since we heard the heartbeat on Wed.
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Congratulations! No advice, but I am a twin and I remember my mom telling me that she showed pretty early on. My hope is that people will be polite and not say "hey your belly is big!" before you've announced.
If/when I'm lucky enough to conceive, I think we're waiting 12 weeks to tell everyone. Maybe talk to your doctor about waiting 12 weeks vs. 18 weeks?
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Congratulations! We shared our twins news early- 8 weeks in person, 12 weeks to the world. I didn't really show until 16-18 weeks, though. At 16 weeks, I just looked chubbs:)
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No advice, but congrats!
@Happygal: that is so awesome
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Congrats my cousin had twins who are now going on 4 bug she told everyone around 9 weeks.
When I got pregnant I told my mom, dad, MIL, and SIL around 4 or five weeks which was as soon as we found out and then family around 8 and fb around 13 after the nt scan
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@msmug: OMG! Congrats!! I didn't know you were having twins! I need to catch up on the IVF thread!
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So I don't have twins, but I am changing jobs so I held off telling a lot of people for awhile. I only had one friend who was annoyed I didn't tell him until 15 weeks, and that's because we are on a council together and it does kind of severely impact how we plan for the next year. I work in a 3 person satellite office - I told them at 8 weeks because I was really sick and because I would need to tell them if something went wrong and I was going to be out of the office. I told my immediate boss at 12 weeks because I wanted to give a ton of warning so they could prep for maternity leave. My boss didn't tell many of my other coworkers so I told one of them and then another saw me at an event and was like, "whoa!" but not upset that I hadn't told her.
I work in a courthouse where I work closely with a lot of other people. I was wearing maternity pants and loose fitting clothes from week 13 onward, so around week 15 people started to ask if I was pregnant. I could have hidden it a bit longer by going up a shirt size and wearing the demi-panel maternity pants (the gap ones are pretty nice) because they kind of sit on top of the belly instead of emphasizing it. If you are clearly not trying to emphasize it, most of your coworkers will be polite enough to not say anything, I hope. I don't think they will be upset that you waited, particularly if you explain (not that you need to) that twins are a higher risk and you wanted to make sure things were okay.
Are you doing an NT test? Usually with twins, they will do that because it's high risk, right? I felt pretty comfortable sharing the news once we got the all-clear on that, but we didn't make a Facebook announcement until I was 20 weeks. You may find that you feel more comfortable sharing the news earlier anyway - I had my own mental limit where once I got past it, I was comfortable - also, once you get to a certain point, if something goes wrong, you will probably need to take some time off work and need your coworkers to not be jerks about it. (My sister had a miscarriage but didn't tell her coworkers but couldn't help with their big office move and they were all jerks to her.)
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