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We live in Austria, my dad lives in the US, my ILs live in France.

How often do you see them? Dad, once per year, ILs 3-4 times

How long do you stay (or they stay)? Dad, at least 2 weeks, sometimes more, ILs minimum 4 days, usually up to a week.

How often do you want to see them? I'm ok with the frequency. I would rather see my dad a little more often and my ILs a little less though

When we lived abroad, we would see my family once a year, sometimes twice, but not usually. We would travel to see them, my brother doesn't fly and can't really be left alone, so my parents would have to come one at a time. Usual lenght of trip was 2 weeks.

Now that we live abroad from my inlaws, we see them once a year as well, either with them visiting or with us visiting. I personally would rather have them visit us for ease, BUT when we visit them, our son gets to see his cousins and aunts and uncles.

When my inlaws visit, my MIL cooks and does the ironing, my FIL takes care of the pool and yard and paints stuff around the house. So, we love it when they visit. Last visit was 10 days, this year will be about 12.

@sunny: oh wow, my inlaws come from Switzerland as well! Is your MIL Swiss?

We're just a 3.5 hour plane ride away (seems like nothing compared to some of your plane rides!).

I generally see my family anywhere from 2-5 times a year. It will probably start slowing down since all my friends are married off and I won't have anymore weddings to fly to.

My parents come out here for a long week to come to the lake with us. I go home for Christmas every year for about a week. Other trips are usually long weekends when we can fit them in.

I would like to see my family MUCH more often! We see my ILs every weekend (if not more), and I'm so sad I can't see my own family anywhere close to that often.

Parents are a trans-atlantic flight away, so we've been seeing them only about once a year. If they come to us they stay for a week or so. If we fly there, minimum 2 weeks to justify the flights/time change etc.

We live in TN and my parents and my ILs all live in the Boston area. I would say we see my parents about 5 times a year and we see my ILs maybe three times a year? It sort of depends on what kind of events are going on, but in general my parents come to visit more, so we see them more. We usually do a couple of weekend trips a year to Boston, and then one longer trip (usually around Christmas, though this year's long trip will be for my SIL's wedding). When we are in Boston we stay at my parents house as much as possible because my ILs smoke and we don't like being there. When people come visit us it's usually for about 4 days. Though my dad came last fall for a whole week and it was glorious. He cooked for us every night, and picked the baby up from school early every day and took her for long walks in the park. My dad rules.

We did until recently, and I was pretty much okay with us going home for Christmas and maybe one more time, not for more than a week. And I was fine with either no one visiting, or just long weekends. I don't really feel a strong need to see my family a ton. Honestly, being back home now has put more of a strain on my relationship with my mom.

My MIL lives far away (no direct flights so it usually takes like 6+ hours due to connection). Despite being together 7 years I don't feel like we have a set routine with her. We've gone as long as 2 years without seeing her, but have also seen her 2-3 times in one year if more stuff is going on (like the year we got married). I suspect once the baby is here she might be a bit more insistent on more frequent visits, but I wouldn't imagine we'll see her more than twice/year generally still. Visits are usually around a week, although she is coming for 10 days when the baby is born (save me).

I think ideally we would see her 1-2 times/year but only for like 4 days. I have a hard time being with family for extended periods of time (any family). I get why it is always longer because if you are paying for a plane ticket better make it worth it... but a week+ is just really hard for me.

My parents are a 2.5 hour plane ride away, so not across the country. They visit about once a month, for only 2 days each time.

My in-laws are across an ocean, and they visit us once a year, and we visit them once a year. Their visit last year was about a week, and our visits will probably be about the same (so we can get some of our own travel in, once we're there).

I would love to see my in-laws more, I feel bad that they only get to see LO twice a year! I like the many short visits from my parents, they get to see LO in all his stages of development which I know is fun for them.

My parents and I live on opposite coasts.

I usually see them once or twice a year, though lately I've seen my dad every couple months because he travels out here for business.

When I go to visit I usually stay for a week. When they come to visit me it's usually a shorter trip, because they have to stay at a hotel and it gets expensive.

I would love to see my parents at least once a month, maybe more often if I was able.