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@winter_wonder: my LO is a little over 2 and no, I haven't changed my mind. before I had LO, I wanted 2 or even 3! however, I will say that 4 months is very young and you have a lot of time to change your mind! I think it's perfectly normal to go through a phase of, man the baby phase is hard and I don't think I want to do that again!
In my case, there were/are other variables and I firmly believe that being one and done is the best situation for me and my family!

We talked a lot about being one and done after having her. About when she turned 2, I told DH that I wanted another, I didn't feel we were complete. Couple months later he agreed, then we talked time lines. I am due two months before her 4th bday.

Yeah. We in theory wanted 2. Our son is 11 months and I can't imagine having another. But I guess it is still early, I am not making any permanent decisions for a while.

We love DS but he has been an incredibly difficult, high needs baby - not his fault, he has crazy bad reflux, doesn't sleep (see = uncontrolled reflux), MSPI (plus other stuff so I have been on an elimination diet for almost 11 months)... it has just been really, really, really hard. I guess everyone has a tough time but I feel like from talking to others that we've had a rougher time than most! LOL.

And I can't imagine having another baby like him and an older child to care for. He's having a terrible reflux flare right now so we were up all night with him. It's almost 7pm and I'm still wearing my pajamas from last night which tells you how our day has gone.

If someone could guarantee me that we would have a baby who wouldn't have all these issues, I'd definitely consider another. But I feel like the odds are against us...

I'd always wanted two but after LO was born I became ADAMANT that I was one and done. It took forever but around her second birthday I slowly started changing my mind back...I definitely haven't forgotten what a challenge the first 8-ish months were, but as time passed, I realized that it was such a short phase in the scheme of things that I would be willing to get through it a second time.

I always wanted two, but at 4 months I could not FATHOM having another. I always thought I wanted a two-year gap, but when she turned one, we absolutely were not ready and settled on TTC for a 4 year gap. However, we had an oops and now our kids will be three years apart. All that to say, 4 months is quite young, so don't shut the door just yet.

Four months is a really tough time. If I'd gotten pregnant when DD was four months old, I swear I would have have to be institutionalized. By six months, I was thinking "Well, it wouldn't be the end of the world if I got pregnant again soon..."

Whatever you decide, I'm sure it will be the right choice for your family.

@muffinsmuffins: I literally could have written this verbatim, except for the PROM (although we were induced unexpectedly at 37 weeks for Cholestasis).
Seriously, your timeline and thought process is identical to mine!

When I was pregnant we planned on 2 under 2 then done.

Then LO was REALLY hard. We were both 1 and done.

Around a year I started thinking maaaaaybe but husband was still a definite no. Around 16 months I realized I did want another, but not badly enough that I was willing to fight about it. I told my husband I wanted another, and I wanted him to consider it. He was still thinking 1 but said he'd keep an open mind. Just this weekend at 26 mo he told me he's starting to come around to the idea of another (but isn't quite there yet).

Give it time. For the first few month's of my first LO's life I literally could not comprehend how any one EVER had a second baby on purpose. Like, I assumed all subsequent children were obviously accidents because who the F would choose to do this again.

I really think that it's better to wait until your baby is at least 1-1.5 before you seriously think about another. The baby days are so rough sometimes especially with the first. I definitely did not want another child in the first year of my kid's life because he was a higher need kiddo and it was hard. I could not think about another until he became a toddler and got much easier and more communicative and I realized that parenting was actually fun and not just thankless hard work.

As everyone else said, 4 months is SOOOO early. It may feel like you've been a parent forever, but you're still in the tiny baby stage. As LO gets older you'll be able to get more perspective on how fast the time flies, and how everything really is a phase. Right now every hard thing feels like it's going to last forever.

You may ultimately decide 1 is right for you, or you may look back at newborn days and wonder why it felt so hard at the time! (Which is what I do, lol).

@winter_wonder: I already gave my experience but I do want to echo what others are saying - 4 months is still so early and it's HARD. 4 months was actually the peak of sucking for me. The 4 month regression hit, I was at my wits end for sleep deprivation, etc. and like @ShootingStar: said, everything felt like it would last forever and never get better. But now at 22 months I look back and think about what a blip on the radar that all was.
Sure, it will definitely suck again. But now I'll have perspective about how short lived it is and it keeps getting better and better!