Have you ever wondered if your parents would spank your LO(s) if they had to look after them?
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Yep. But then again, my mom won't even put E down for a nap in case she cries. So. I don't really kjonw
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yes and I flat out told my mom that we do NOT spank in our house - if I found out she did I would never leave my kids alone with her again.
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Yes! We were spanked on occasion growing up, as was DH by his parents. My parents, DH's parents and my sister all have our permission to discipline LO. I don't think our parents would ever actually spank LO though because he's their first grandkid and can do no wrong in their eyes!
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My mom only spanked us a handful of times and I know she regretted it. I know she wouldn't spank my kids.
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Yup, I wonder this about MIL and LO 2 when she has grandma anxiety.
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Yes. We gave both sets of parents clear instructions that it was an absolute no, and they would never be left alone with our children again if they disregarded our instructions.
My parents agreed to never ever do anything against our wishes, and so we do let them watch DD when they are in town.
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Yes, we were both spanked a handful of times and we will not be spanking. I don't think DH's parents would do anything against our wishes, but I can see my mom doing it and I would be so pissed. I've told her that she would no longer be watching LO again.
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I do wonder but from my current nieces and nephews, I don't think my parents have spanked any of them.
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I did but I don't think my parents would spank my kid(s), probably just cause they're not theirs, and they've probably mellowed out from their own parenting days.
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I did, but DH didn't. My in-laws and mom would not, but I know my dad would. I have younger cousins and when my dad is in town and watches them, he will spank them if they really act up. My dad doesn't live too close to us for this to be a future crazy issue for us, but we will cross the bridge when we get to it. I know DH would flip if he knew my dad spanked our kids.
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I wondered. But I've made it known that if they are watching LO, they stick to our rules: no spanking whatsoever. You spank my kid, your privileges are revoked. She's at the age where she can tell me now, too.
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My parents are too busy stuffing LO with every treat they can get their hands on to spank her. I think the grandparent lens is way rosier than the parent one!
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No, because my mom stopped spanking with my little brother. I also don't think she feels too comfortable disciplining my daughter other than just telling her no or redirecting. I would be pretty livid if anyone spanked her!
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No. My mom would always respect my parenting decisions
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I was spanked with a hand, wooden spoon, belt, switch from a tree, etc. and I have made it abundantly clear to my parents that they are not to spank my children.
I still have not broken it to them that we are not spanking, though, because I think my mom would be so disappointed that she would cry and lecture us on how we're being bad christians.....
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I was not, but my husband was and I do worry about his parents spanking my kids. I know they have spanked his sister's kids, but she spanks, too.
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Both DH and I were spanked. My parents are firmly in the camp that they don't discipline children (except by redirection or by saying no in cases when a child is hurting themselves, an animal, another child, etc.) that aren't theirs but I can definitely see my ILs spanking them which is part of my hesitation with leaving them alone at their place.
Heck, MIL already thinks it's her place to verbally rebuke (loudly!!) DS for normal toddler behavior right in front of me so I wouldn't put this past her.
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I was spanked but I don't think my parents would spank my (future) kids. My dad has mellowed A LOT and become a much different person than he was when he was raising us. And I was a problem child. Hopefully my kids won't put my parents through half the stuff I put them through! I just really can't see them ever getting to that point... but we will have a discussion about it when the time comes, I'm sure.
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My parents would NEVAH give my kids the eye, much less spank them.
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I was spanked here and there by my mom and DH was also by MIL. But neither of our moms would ever do it to their grandkids. Especially since it's going against our wishes, they're both very respectful of our parenting decisions.
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@mrsjyw: I totally read part of your first sentence as your DH also spanked you here and there.
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@Adira: HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
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@plantains: true! My mom always tells me how well behaved my kids are for her!
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@Adira: @mrsjyw: LOL
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They won't and haven't. They know it's not their place to discipline like that. And actually, they don't believe in spanking anymore.
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I never thought about it! I think my parents have mellowed out so I hope they wouldn't. There really isn't any opportunity for them to be alone very long with LO though, so I don't know if I'd specifically bring it up. If they ask, I would tell them not to.
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We were both spanked by our dads but since no one in our family has ever been left alone with LO, it hasn't been an issue yet. I will have a conversation with anyone looking after her though, when the time comes, that we don't smack. I know my sister smacks her kids' bums occasionally, but I hope she wouldn't do it to other kids.
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I remember being spanked 3 times, it wasn't something they did regularly and no I don't think they would punish my children that way. They might swat her hand away if she's endangering herself, and i'm okay with this as long as it's used to protect her.
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I was spanked, but not often. I dont think they would spank C.
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I've been spanked and have no qualms about spanking my own kids but I'm certain my parents (or inlaws) will spank their grandkids. But, let's say they wanted to or felt the need, I would tell them that they could not. I think that sort of discipline is for parents only.
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I really highly doubt my parents ever would spank her. Especially not my dad. I think my mom would just send LO home & have us deal with it how we choose. I really really trust my parents though. My grandmother went behind my mom's back with us for a lot of things (but never spankings, though we were pretty well behaved) & she hated that & she really works hard to respect the way we choose to parent. I doubt MIL would ever spank LO but she might & I'm not MILs biggest fan so the chances of LO even being left with her are slim
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@LuLu Mom: same here.
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My parents spanked all of us growing up, but only a handful of times. They haven't spanked any of the other grandkids and seem to respect that discipline beyond "no" is up to the parents.
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My mom spanked us. But I'm not worried about her spanking my kids. If we as parents decide that is not how we will raise our kids, she will respect that, and has done so with her other grandchildren. My MIL is the same way, she respects BIL's choices to not spank their kids.
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Nope. My parents were so lax when it came to spankings i think with grandkids the child would have to set fire to them before they would spank.
I think my in laws would spank though.
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I need my husband to have this conversation with my MIL. She hasn't been alone with the baby yet, but that is a concern I have.
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My dad spanked us, but I know they (mom and dad) would never spank my kids. They are total pushovers when it comes to the grand kids.
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We were smacked regularly but I doubt my parents would do this to our children when they are old enough, a grand parent's role is different than a parent's and the culture around that type of disiplin has changed anyway. I have to say though that if they did do it for some reason, I would trust their judgement and would not remove LO from their care. My parents were great parents.
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@plantains: Hah, for real!!
DH and I both had crazy strict parents with lots of spankings. However, there is no way any of them would spank their grandkids - even if I told them they could!
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