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@kentuckygirl: Good luck with the IUI this week!

@MrsCB: I am so sorry about the ultrasound. That happened to me last month. I had two follicles at 15 and 16 and then went I went in for my second ultrasound, they had gone down to 11 and 12. Apparently this happens. Hopefully yours turn around and get bigger!

@sweetooth: I know exactly how you feel! I am so sorry that the first IUI didn't work. I think we get our hopes up more when you start going through things like IUI to get pregnant and then it hurts even more when it doesn't work. My doctor has told me that we will try at least 5 or 6 IUIs before even considering going to IVF. Apparently it's prett common for the first one not to work. Hopfully next cycle gets a BFP!

Here's my answers to the roll call:
Cycles trying: I think I am on cycle 14 but I stopped counting. We just hit the one year mark.

Current treatments: I have tried Femara with a trigger shot for 2 IUIs now. My next cycle will be menopur with a trigger shot and IUI. During my last cycle I developed a cyst which we are waiting to resolve itself before we can do the injectibles. I am now on CD 2 and will most likely go in for an ultrasound today to check on the cyst. If it is still there, then I will have a month of birth control before we can do the next IUI. Hopefully this cyst is gone!

Next blood work POAS date: Mid februrary sometime, hopefully. This is all depending on that cyst.

@bluestriped bee: Great! I'm sure she'll be able to fit you in at some point. No need to give my name, but thanks for thinking of it. Let me know how it goes!

@cascademom: Aww, that's great. I know I have trouble buying things for myself because there are always other things for other people or household needs that I need to buy. Plus, sometimes it's hard to think of something I need. So when I buy something I don't need, I feel guilty. But that's a good way to think about it.

So just putting this idea out here, since I'm a HB hostess (although, I'm not being the best hostess right now because I'm pretty down with my struggle with IF and I think my posts shows it) and I'm always thinking of ways to help HB. I'm coming to you guys first to see if it is a good suggestion or not. If it is, I'll ask MrBee what he thinks.

What do you guys think about making a suggestion of having a section of the site dedicated to Infertility. Similar to the Dad's board. Sometime separate from the main boards? Yay or nay?

Pros
-We are around other HBer who have dealt with infertility or are dealing with IF.
-Dealing with IF, I realize that we have a different mindset from people just starting TTC or people who didn't have trouble conceiving. (One thing is we can be a little sensitive to certain threads.)
-Sometimes I don't feel like starting threads because I'll get responses from everyone. Not that I don't value everyone's opinion but sometimes I want it directed at people who went through IF. Yeah, I can post it in the 'fertility treatment' board but everyone can still see it.

For instance, when I first started TTC, my view on adoption and IUI/IVF were very different from my view on it now. Now, that's it's possible, it changes everything.

Cons-
-We will be a separate board. I don't want to be separate because I love HB but sometimes I wish we had one. I don't want to be labeled as 'that other group.'
-Probably more work for MrBee to monitor 3 boards (main, dads and IF).

Anymore pros and cons that you guys can think of?

Maybe I'm having a harder time with IF right now and sometimes I don't know where to turn. I post on HB because there's a lot of user who get where I'm at and the users here are awesome and supportive. Also, talking about toy kitchens with other mommas is great. Really helps me think of future toys to get whenever I do become a mommy. I have joined a Infertility support group on FB but it lacks the community like HB has. I looked into other Infertility forums but it's the same problem. It's not HB.

Anyway, just an idea I've been thinking about on and off.

@Mrs.Someone: Oh, cool. Thanks for sharing Mrs. Pretzel's (her name from WB) post. I met her once at a WB meetup. I did read her blog once but haven't had to chance to go back.

That post is pretty much spot on.

As for your suggestion, I'l make sure you suggest that to MrBee. There is a way for you to go directly to the "fertility treatment" board. It is http://boards.hellobee.com/board/fertility-treatments

@Mrs.Someone: Yeah? What do you think MrBee should change it to? Or should we split it into IVF, IUI and Fertility Testing, maybe? What are your ideas? I can forward them to MrBee.

@spaniellove: What about renaming it 'infertility'?

@spaniellove: Cool. I'll let MrBee know. Thanks!

Actually, I just realized something like that you can let MrBee know yourself by suggesting it here. http://suggestions.hellobee.com/

I, also, like that idea as well. I'll back you up on it once you post.

@justdarling: OMG, I had no idea they could shrink!

@bluestriped bee: I like Infertility as the category name. And I just want to say I'm really sorry for everything you're going through. I'm not as far into the process as you are, but I've had my share of struggles and disappointments and I know how rough this is to keep going.

I saw your other post about asking the general board if they would go to fertility treatments if conception wasn't working. I just want to say not to listen to what anyone else would do - just do what you think is best. Not everyone will choose IUI or IVF, and that's fine. But if you want to do every single thing possible in order to have a biological child, don't let anyone make you feel bad for that. Not everyone has to go through the struggles we do, and not everyone has to make the tough decisions that we do. It kind of sucks that other people have it easier, but that's the way life is. I have to remind myself that there are other areas in my life that I have it easier than others do.

AFM, I'm really trying to stay positive this week. I started 7.5mg of Femara last night, and I'm really hoping to see some improvement on Saturday. And in good news, my husband convinced me to go visit my parents in Florida in a couple weeks. I could really use the warm weather and something to look forward to. I've had so many disappointments with the fertility stuff and being unemployed, this'll be something positive. I wish DH could come, but he just started a new job, while I'm unemployed. And this way I'll get some mother-daughter time.

@spaniellove: That's awesome news! So happy for you!

Hi everyone Thank you for your kind words after my negative news on Monday. I've just been taking some time to cry it out and work through the negative thoughts in my head. I know we're going to get back to it soon enough. I just had to process it all. It really is harder to hear that it's a negative pregnancy test once you jump in to the medical side of things. As least, for me, it's harder to deal with.

@Tidybee: Thank you for sharing your story I hope that in a year's time I have my little miracle hanging out with me on my couch

@bluestriped bee: I've been buying things like crazy. I can totally relate! I totally feel like it's a coping mechanism. I also appreciate your efforts to get something organized for the infertility side of things on Hellobee. Sometimes I wish there was more than just a single support thread to keep coming back to. But at the same time, I am so thankful for this thread. It is a real source of support for this difficult time. I don't know what the answer is, but I'll keep thinking about it and share my thoughts with MrBee. I'll let you know when I do.

@spaniellove: So glad to hear that the trial transfer re-do was a success!

@bluestriped bee: Hah!! Thanks for getting it done

@bluestriped bee: Thank you! This is something I've wanted to see for a long time.

@sweetooth: I wish it didn't describe me either, although by now I'm so used to it that I just think of myself as an Infertile.

Let's start some threads to get this board bumpin'!

I just had my annual well woman exam. My doctor said "we have to get you pregnant!" She gave me a referral to an RE and as soon as I got in the car I made an appointment. It's for next Thursday. I guess we'll be starting some more invasive stuff soon. I'm pretty excited. I haven't felt this happy with TTC in a few months.

@Leialou: Yay! I'm excited for you!

@bluestriped bee: I'll take a look and let you know. It's great to have a hostess on this board. Looks like @Leialou is one too!

@bluestriped bee: I think it's mainly the posts that include TTC in the title. I guess I would have to go back and read them to see if maybe they do talk about infertility or are related. But it seems like they should fall under the "trying to conceive" category. That's all - otherwise, I can't complain It's really nice to see all of the relevant posts under infertility.

Wow, you all have been busy, chatting, renaming boards, all kinds of good stuff!!! Thanks to everyone involved in getting our board renamed, although, I too wish none of us needed to be here. Since we are here, I am soooo very grateful for all of you and your support!!!

Speaking of being an "infertile", that was a term Tertia Albertyn used for herself in her book "So Close: Infertile and Addicted to Hope". I read it last weekend, and it was great, heart-wrenching, happy ending book about her journey through IF. I would be happy to ship it to anyone who would like to read it, I have also downloaded some other books with stories of IF. I feel like I need to read stories that continue to give me hope.

@kentuckygirl: So exciting that you're already at your next IUI! Did you trigger this cycle? I hope it works out this time!