I read this earlier today. I'm sure it will be controversial to some, but it makes a lot of sense to me. Then again, I don't have a baby yet. What do you think?
http://jezebel.com/lets-admit-it-we-have-no-idea-if-sleep-training-babies-1694601405
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I think until there is peer reviewed literature that states I will damage my child by letting him/her cry, I wish I didn't have to see these headlines (that I will obviously read and then be made to feel guilty for days). They just prey on the insecurities of parents!
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I think the conclusion that there is no one size fits all is exactly right.
I let my dd cry it out at 16 months and I really think it was right for us, at that point. There were other times I'd tried to let her cry for awhile and it just wasn't right so we found a different solution. I think as a parent you just start to figure these things out as time goes on.
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I hate how these stories make everything sound absolute. Like if you try CIO, you let the baby scream for hours and hours. I don't know anyone in real life that has done that. In reality, I think you do what feels right and usually that is somewhere in the middle of "exhausted zombie" and "heartless monster".
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Sleep training was the best thing we ever did for our family. We have been reaping the rewards since. Troublesome Tots is my go-to for sleep training info and good literature on the subject. So all these other articles just make me shrug. There's always someone out there believing I am damaging my child by doing something-sleep training, working, formula feeding, whatever. Don't curr
I really enjoyed this article on the subject: http://www.troublesometots.com/is-sleep-training-child-abuse/
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I think the key is for your kid to learn how to self-soothe themselves to sleep. Some kids learn it on their own, and others need help. And others just refuse to learn until they're older!
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Considering I am a sleep training drop out, you'd think I'd agree that I'd be anti sleep training, but I am firmly in the "you've gotta do what you've gotta do" camp. Sometimes you are all set to go down a certain path and then your kid arrives and throws the whole plan into the garbage. I learned early on to observe and be open to different things.
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@looch: I absolutely agree with this. I never considered sleep training before having a baby. But when 5 months hit and I hadn't slept for a month, I couldn't function as a person anymore. We did one night of cio for a little bit over an hour. I didn't stick with it and in the end she improved on her own. But I can absolutely understand that sleep training works and is needed for some babies.
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@blackbird: Word.
There's also an argument that you're permanently damaging your child's sleep by NOT sleep training. So...... yeah. It's all bullshit until there is some hard science to me. For every article, there is one refuting it. Just do what works for you and keep an open mind.
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I once read that goodness of fit with (mom and dad's ) parenting styles was the best indicator of a child's happiness and well being. My 14mo is a co sleeping nighttime waking nightmare, but sleep training was not something I felt was right for us, and I was right. It was a DISASTER when we tried it. Maybe at some point it will feel right, but who knows. Only you know what's right for your baby!
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Sleep training at 7m was perfect for us. And honestly I think DS is better off because we did it. But letting an 8 week old cry for 3 hours without comforting them is way outside my comfort zone. But every kid is different and if you've done everything in the world to get them to sleep and they cry for 3 hours anyways, you might figure you have nothing to lose.
But this article and the NY Times article fail to mention that's while an 8 week old could, in theory, go 12 hours without eating, it can only be safely done if they eating enough during the day. Otherwise it's tantamount to child abuse, IMO.
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