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It's important to me that he stay healthy by continuing to work out. I want him to live a long time! I think that goes hand in hand with staying attractive. I like it when he walks around in his boxers though. He has a nice butt!

Hmmm, I don't know... I still find him pretty attractive when he hasn't showered and has bed hair or morning breath... I'm not sure there's a lot he could do (or stop doing) to lessen my attraction for him...

Nah. As cheesy as it is, he'll always be the hottest thing in my eyes. But then again, I didn't marry him for his looks - it was his wit and stubborn personality that did me in

Yep it is important to me. We had this conversation last night because I told him he was drinking too much pop (we currently have diet coke in the house and I see it as a "treat" to have on hand cuz I like to drink it once a week or every other week). He was having like two a day! I told him that he can't stop being health conscious just because he is married.

Yes and no - DH and I are both into living healthy lifestyles and keeping fit, so if he started living a super unhealthy lifestyle, I'd be concerned - but more from a health aspect than an aesthetic one.

As for keeping groomed - nope, don't care. When we're home, we're in happy pants 95% of the time (pj pants for him, yoga pants for me) and it doesn't bother me at all. We're pretty low maintenance though.

That being said, if DH was walking around the house with BO and morning breath all day, I'd withhold all affections....which would get him running to the shower quite quick! lol

I will always find DH incredibly attractive, but if he let himself go health-wise or with personal hygiene, that's a different matter and one that could be addressed.

Yes. It is to both of us. There's a difference between being sick or having a rough couple of months and just letting yourself go to hell in a handbasket because you can. It's also about sense of pride

I would be pissed if my husband got mad at me for wearing grubby clothes around the house or having morning breath/bed head. If I can't relax in my own home, that's a deal breaker for me--so I would never get upset if he did the same things. If it were a case of chronic bad hygiene, then yes, I would be concerned.

Yeah, it's kind of hard. I take a lot of pride in my appearance and how I dress and such, and my husband just . . . doesn't. He dresses well because I buy him flattering and stylish clothing, but he could totally care less. He's really handsome and fit too. He appreciates the way I dress, but honestly he barely notices it. As I've grown into my self and found my sense of style and confidence, I've really started to enjoy fashion and clothing and my looks. I think it's a fun way to express yourself, and I wish he'd see it a bit more.

I guess I'm glad that images isn't important to him (AT ALL) because I'm overweight and used to be really overweight. But now that I really make an effort, it would be nice if he noticed a little more, or made a little more effort once in a while. I really appreciate that substance is what matters to him, and deep down it's the most important thing to me too. But style is fun!

@sarac: lol it's probably not the jammies that are unattractive, it's the red nose, wet sneezes and croaky voice. In sickness and in health though right?

@Coco Bee: I don't think it's shallow. I think couples are happiest when there are no significant changes after you get married. DH and i both care about leading healthy and active lifestyles, so i don't foresee either one of us gaining too much weight. But we dress like bums at home...i still find him attractive!

@SweetMamaM: Yeah, sickness is never pretty.

The only thing I'm dissatisfied about is his belly flab! He definitely let himself go in that department, but I guess I'm more annoyed with how he got the belly in the first place, and that was due to lack of self-control when it came to eating sweets and junk food! Grrrrr!

Weight is no where near as big of a deal as looking nice. My husband and I are both very casual people. I love it when he wears a button down (whether it's with shorts or with pants) and he knows that so when we go out, that's what he wears most of the time. If he started going out in sweats and didn't brush his teeth or shower, I would have a problem. If he gained weight, I would not.

The only thing that bothers me about my hubby's appearance is the extra weight he's gained since we've been together. He's put on about 30lbs of happy weight. Yikes! It doesn't change my perspective of him, but I wouldn't mind if he lost all that extra weight. He doesn't even really have to be fit and muscular (although I wouldn't mind), but I would like him to be at a healthy weight for his sake. Doctors have deemed him to be in the overweight BMI and is starting to become a slight health issue. Sadly, no matter how much I hint at it or tell him directly, he just doesn't seem to care. Sigh.

we both lounge around in our shorts etc, thats doesnt bother me, also not combing hair or brushing teeth doesnt bother me either.
I do want him to make an effort to look nice if we go out and maintain his weight but thats about it and he already does that

DH does a good job staying in shape and keeping himself "attractive..."