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I would be VERY offput if DH was watching porn, seeing as how i'm always here and am avaliable haha. Once every great now and then? Whatever, but if he was watching it daily, or even weekly we would have issues. I voted NO to actual cheating though.

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I couldn't help but notice some new traffic to my blog from your site...I love it when these discussions spill over into circles of women who haven't been hurt by pornography!

I also love to crash a good party so hope you don't mind I invited myself to join you! and of course I have to weigh in on this issue....

Lying in bed this morning i asked mr scabs if he thought looking at pornography was cheating. Without a second thought he said, "yes." Then he thought about it and said, "no, but it's a sneaky way to build a wedge between a couple."

I agree, I wouldn't call it cheating. For years I accepted porn as normal and ok. mr scabs wasn't a binge porn viewer. He looked once in awhile, for a few minutes and then rubbed on out. I had no idea the claws pornography was digging into his brain and heart. It destroyed his ability for emotional and sexual intimacy. For real love.

But there is another side to porn that really gets me. It's the abuse, exploitation and use of people. It takes advantage of women, men, children, sex-trafficked teens, the curious, the hungry and poor, the addict, homosexuals, the lonely... Its a perfect tool for the abuser and molester. Its a industry built around coarseness. Some of the worst, most graphic and disturbing information about porn I have read are the interviews of former "porn stars"

@Mrs. Scabs: thanks for sharing. i'm interested to read more about your story.