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I have two friends who accidentally found out at ultrasounds because their doctors slipped. With the 4D ultrasounds at most hospitals it's very obvious sometimes.
I knew we were having a boy but I had a dream before I gave birth that they were wrong and woke up crying because I felt like I already knew my son. Lol, hormones. -
@ElbieKay: what did your DH want? What did you have?
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@Mrs tartan: He wanted a daughter, and we have a son! He is perfectly happy with T now, but I'm glad he had some time to adjust.
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We found out and we will again for LO #2. I loved being able to dream about my little boy. Of course the excitement of finding out when he was born would have been awesome but I loved finding out and preparing for a boy instead of gender neutral everything.
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@rachiecakes: This is definitely a con with finding out. If the tech was wrong and we ended up with a girl, of course we would have been happy, but I would have felt like I lost my little boy I had come to love and know.
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I absolutely loved not knowing! The moment that my husband announced the gender was one of the best in my life. I loved it so much that I'd like to be Team Green.
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We're going to be Team Green for the next. I think it was really exciting to find out for the first. (As I had mentioned before, the doc told us we were having a girl first, so I think I was just as shocked to find out we were having a boy at the actual anatomy scan as we would have been when he was born had we waited!)
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We found out for both. There was no way I could wait. I felt it helped me bond better and have a more concrete idea of the baby growing inside me.
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I am 35 weeks pregnant and my husband would have never waited to find out the gender. He has wanted a little girl since day one. We paid to have an extra early ultrasound to find out.
We only picked out a little girl's name and the little boy would have been THOR... umm no thanks.
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I would have loved to go TG, but DH was not for that at all. I still think it would be nice for #2, but again DH would want to know. In the end, knowing was pretty great. In the few weeks we didn't know, I ended up buying things that were "a great deal!" for both genders :team green:. Once we knew she was a girl, DH told EVERYONE her name and everyone referred to her by name. It was kind of a great bonding thing for everyone. And I got to shop gender-specific.
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We were team green and I loved it. It's weird, maybe, but it just didn't matter what sex she was- I felt perfectly bonded with all the kicks and flutters, etc. like silva said, I think it helped me not put too many gender expectations on her before she was born at least. And it was so fun to find out wen she was born, though we didn't have a big "it's a girl!" Moment- we were both so amazed that baby was finally here that we forgot to look and the nurse had to remind Dh!
That said Dh wanted to find out, and does have a gender preference for #2 so we might find out with the next one. We shall see.
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I found out with one, and didn't with the other. Honestly, both times it was a surprise, just at different times, so I don't think it makes much of a difference.
I think it does depend on how you plan, if you care if you have gender neutral clothes are not, etc. I thought I'd be ok with a gender neutral nursery and then ended up hating it and changing it after the baby came.
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We did find out for our first and we didn't for our second. I loves knowing our first was a girl and not knowing (it was DH's idea to be team green) for #2 was fun too. Everyone was convinced I was having a boy but we ended up having another girl and I was so happy when DH told me in the delivery room.
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I didnt found out with number 1 and did with number 2 only because we were moving and I didnt want to unpack all of the boy things if I was having a girl which I ended up having. I want one more and that one will be a surprise again as I really do think its one of life's best surprises. I did have a guess for both and I am 2/2 so it didnt effect bonding since I already thought they were a certain sex and I was right.
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I think it's like waiting until Christmas to open a present. You're still getting a present either way, but we personally felt there was more magic in waiting for Christmas morning, metaphorically. It was a great motivator during labor, and one of the best, clearest moments of my life was D crying out "A boy! It's a boy! Honeybee we have a son!"
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We found out and I don't regret having found out but I think I want #2 to be a surprise.
Eta I do think it is a surprise either way. Make your Xmas halfway through or at the end. I think it was thrilling to know (and of course verify it at the birth!) but it will e exciting to not know too. It just depends on what you want to plan out and your style as far as gender neutral/specific stuff goes. The other plus was not having to discuss names for both genders.
But then again, Im someone who literally celebrates holidays on the day closest to it that's convenient (ie, dh is off from work.) I'm not worried about things happening at certain times for the magic of it, although I understand the appeal. We just think its be a fun thing to do.
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In would have liked to have waited with #1 but DH really wanted to know. I was a little dissapointes that it was a boy, so knowing ahead of time have me the ability to process it. This time, we are both eager to find out but we genuinely have no preference about what the gender is. I'm so excited for Wednesday!!!
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We did things backwards from most. We didnt find out with #1 and it was so much fun. We chose to find out with #2 and it was very anticlimactic. I will definitely NOT find out with #3.
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We waited and were glad we did. I didn't feel like I was able to bond with or plan for the baby any less. I don't think personhood is so tied up in gender identity, I guess, and I liked that people didn't project expectations before the baby was even here. We got plenty of pink when she arrived! I do think the Christmas morning analogy is a good one - it's a surprise any time, but all of the docs I know have agreed that there's just a different energy and anticipation in the delivery room with TG!
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For me with all the unknowns of pregnancy, labor, parenting etc, I preferred to have one less thing to be unknown so we found out. It was a good choice for us.
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@rattles: my doctors and nurses were so excited that it would be a surprise too - in fact, one of the nurses used the phrase "Christmas morning," which I agree with! Like I said, though, it does totally depend in your personality. I am NOT a planner and I love surprises, so it was an easy decision. .
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We found out with DS. This time around DH was very adamant that he wanted to wait. He's said he always wanted the "it's a ..." In the delivery room. We are 25 weeks pregnant and had our anatomy scan at 18 weeks we didn't find out and don't have any regrets so far. I'll let you know if I change my mind after LO arrives in August.
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We didn't find out, and I loved it. In my mind, not knowing changed nothing about the experience of becoming a new parent for me. As long as all of the tests came back showing that LO was doing well, that was all that I cared about. I have always wanted one of each and so it didn't matter to me which one we got first. I can imagine if you have your heart set on having a certain sex, then it would be imperative that you know. I also find blue boring and can't stand baby pink, so there was probably some motivation there, too.
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We briefly considered going Team Green, but ultimately decided to find out the gender at our 20 week appointment. For us it was an important part of bonding with her, and has made it so much easier to see her as a real person (for example, calling her by name), even though she hasn't arrived yet! We are having a daughter (due in a month!), but we have stuck to very gender neutral decor and clothing for the most part, so the nursery/clothes really had nothing to do with our decision.
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Being Team Green was seriously the best experience. It got hard for a day or two around our scan, but I am so glad that we waited. I was able to prepare just the same, and I'm glad that the things we bought for the nursery were gender neutral, because I love how it turned out. Hearing that she was a girl in the delivery room was so shocking and awesome.
Full disclosure: I did have some trouble bonding with baby for a while when I was still pregnant. I don't think that had anything to do with not knowing baby's sex, though. We also said that if we had found out at 20 weeks that there were health complications. we would have found out the sex in.order to process and be prepared for baby's arrival. Overall, I loved our experience with not knowing. We definitely plan on being
again for our next little one!
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@rattles: @keepcalmcarrie: us, too! Every time we told he L+D personnel that we didn't know, they got so excited. And the nurses at my OB's office were SO excited when I went into labor-they kept checking my chart to see what I had had. It made it feel very special that we had waited
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I just HAD to know haha. DH and I both had a feeling it was a girl and I wanted to be able to buy girly clothes/paint the nursery lavender if it was a girl - and she was!
It does seem so fun to wait though! I just couldn't do it lol the question would just eat at me
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@Mrs tartan: My DH wants to wait. Ugh. I might go crazy waiting!!
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@LovelyPlum: good to hear! Maybe it won't be so bad
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We both loved being team green. I felt "girl" the whole time, and was right, but either way the surprise was totally worth it. It was an awesome moment when she popped out and DH said we had a girl!
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We were SO excited to be team green with A until the tech ruined it for us. With that being said, stick with it if you can!!
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Here's what I'll say. We found out this week (we did some genetic testing and found out the sex), and it was not what I was expecting. I am *thrilled* with a healthy baby, and am now wrapping my mind around the sex of the baby that is different from what I imagined. I am personally glad to have had this information NOW, as it gives me plenty of time to plan ahead, get excited, and deal with whatever emotions I have (good, bad, in between!) now, well before the birth happens and everything gets crazy busy. It also helped DH and me connect more with the baby to be able to think of it as he/she rather than "it." However, if you want to be TG, go for it! I just found this was best for me.
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We were team green, but we (and EVERYONE!) were sure we were having a boy. I got to pull the baby out and make the announcement. I had to keep checking before finally announcing "It's a...girl?!?". Pretty much the coolest moment ever; I'm so glad we waited. That said, if we have another I would want to find out...now that I have so much girl stuff, it'll be nice to know if we can reuse it.
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It was no question for us--we both wanted to know. All of our big items are gender neutral anyway, but I know people love to give clothes as gifts and I didn't want a wardrobe full of green and yellow onesies and sleepers.
It really just depends on your personality. "Magical" is not a term I would probably ever use when it comes to childbirth, and we're very practical-- so we wanted a name picked out, clothes bought, etc.
I did enjoy singing to her and making up songs with her name when we were driving together to and from work (when she was in my belly), so I think in some ways it made me feel more bonded.
It was the right choice for us.
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@CatchAFallingStar: it is not so bad at all!
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Both DH and I were desperate to find out at 20w. I would have been excited either way, but I was convinced it was a boy (he was!) so I wanted to know if I was correct. It made me feel way more bonded to be able to call baby "he" instead of "it".
DO IT!!!
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I was team green the first time, and it was he best! I loved all the guessing, old wives tales, etc, etc. I couldn't have been happier when my husband told me the sex in the operating room. The anticipation kept me going through some really scary times during my induction/csection. We will 100% be team green for all of our future babies! including the bean growing now, because it was so amazing!
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My take on being Team Green is the same as my take on running a marathon - I wish these were things I wanted to do, because they seem amazing...but my heart is just not 100% in either one, and therefore I think I'd be awful at (and therefore probably give up halfway through) either one because I wasn't totally committed to the idea to begin with - I wouldn't have the discipline!
I feel like finding out your baby's sex is a surprise whenever you do it - you just get to choose when you have that surprise! Like others have said, I'm a huge planner, and I like gender-specific clothing and decor, even some gear/toys. While I would have been thrilled with a baby of either sex, I've always been particularly attached to the idea of having at least one little girl, so with my first, I wanted to find out so that if it was a boy, I'd have time to think about what it would be like to parent a little boy. Purely by coincidence, I've only ever babysat girls, and I only have nieces - no nephews; having a boy would have been totally new territory for me. Then after #1 was a girl...I wanted to find out if #2 was a boy/girl purely for shopping and planning purposes.
We always said that if we had a boy and a girl, we'd go team green for #3 because at that point, it wouldn't matter at all from a planning standpoint (we'd already be set for either sex), but since #2 is a girl, I think we'll find out again if we opt for #3.
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We want to find out with #1. Everyone was anxious also. When we TTC #2, we will find out then also. We want a girl so we're already dying to know. hahaha! BUT if #2 is a boy, we'll probably go Team Green for #3. It'll be our last and final one so it is what it is!
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I would looooove to be Team Green if there's a next time! @lovehoneybee: 's birth story always gets me all choked up
again for our next little one!
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