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Surprisingly, it's better. No, we don't get a lot of couple time anymore but we're working so much better as a team now. We are both trying to be better people for her. It's really quite curious when I think about it! My dad even mentioned to me after thanksgiving that we had a great relationship from what he could see - we worked well together.

Way better!! We bond more and share a common interest! We get each other more now that we're both parents. Idk if it will always be like this as we encounter hard parenting challenges - I mean really the first year is probably the easiest!

We still make time for each other but we were never big on going out before baby anyway so I don't feel we're missing much

Better but we could still make more time as a couple!

I'd say its the same....if anything, it is better because before I had LO, I was super selfish and anal. I would bi-atch and nag if things weren't perfect because I was a little princess. Now that LO is here, I've realized things *are* perfect the way they are;) So, I have become....softer?/nicer?
He's remained the same...which is perfect for me.
If anything...the only downfall to our relationship is that we still haven't DTD because I am not 100% healed up yet:/ So, that is a major damper...Oh well, It's a blessing in disguise cause Lord knows I don't have energy for that stuff, anyways!

I would say...different? Sometimes I feel like it's better because I love love seeing DH as a daddy and he is SO appreciative of everything I do and how draining it can be taking care of LO 24/7. But sometimes I feel like it's worse because we have no alone time at home and I feel like us as a couple has taken a backseat to me as a mom Definitely something I need to work on.

It's different and not always better. Parenting has brought out a lot of communication issues that were not as big deal before kids, but now they come to the surface a lot more and it's so much harder to find time to deal with them.

Definitely different - we have to work harder to find time for just us and don't always agree on everything in the parenting dept but it's wonderful seeing him as a dad - so heartwarming!

Better in that we have a huge new bond over our daughter. It's an entire other level of intimacy, raising a child, and it's really drawn us together. It's awesome. I love seeing him as a father, it's the sweetest and sexiest thing ever.

The flip side is that there's so little time without her. We never have enough time or energy to recharge and to meet our own needs for togetherness and alone-ness. He's really not been pulling his weight with the housework because there's just so many things to do all the time, and that drives me crazy. When he's tired he tends to withdraw and then I feel ignored. We have to be going going going all the time and he hates that, and it's hard on us.

There are a ton more challenges in our relationship now and way less time to deal with them. So that can be really, really hard. Overall I'd say we're way better, but that has meant a lot of working through the hard parts.

@bree72: My response is pretty much exactly this. We're struggling. A lot.

@littlecasita1122: I feel the same! My workload and responsibility has increased a lot and his only has somewhat.

DH and I had an amazing relationship, I seriously never questioned whether we should get married or not. I'm not saying that I am now, I'm just saying that things were so different before. DS has been an unbelievable blessing and seeing DH as such an amazing father is more than I could have ever imagined.

With that said. I work full time and still do a majority of the housework. I get up with J early every morning. I do all the laundry. I generally wash all bottles. Any time we go anywhere I have to be the one to pack DS's things (DH doesn't think of any of the essentials, bottles, wipes, etc etc), I pay the bills...yadda yadda. DH is a full-time student and I realize he's busy, but come on! I need some help. I get so frustrated and I think one of the worst parts is that I don't feel like he appreciates everything I do.

Tonight I asked him to fill up the humidifier before he left (we had a ugly sweater party to go to but it conflicts with J's bed time so DH went) anywhodiddle-- he said "You're not doing anything, just do it and it'll be done." That's one of the F E W things he does and it just really pissed me off

Don't get me wrong, I love love love my husband. He's an amazing father. I just need him to pull his weight and help me out to feel better. I've tried to explain it to him with no real results. *sigh.

Wow. LONG RANT! Sorry...I'm a thread-jacker...

@winniebee: Honestly, for me it all came down to honesty and communicating my needs. Id been feeling neglected a bit by DH and I was straight up and told him I wasnt feeling enough passion between us and playa stepped his game up right quick! Lay it on the line sister, all fair in love and marriage!

I think better, but we went through a rough patch before conceiving and that made us stronger even without the girls. I love him so much more now that I see what an amazing dad he is.

We get snippy when we're tired, and we're tired more but it's no big deal.

We are only 2 weeks in but better! My husband has been incredible. He is so in love with LO he'll fight me to get to change a poopy diaper just so he can take her from me. But even more amazing to me is how caring he is for me! He's always encouraging me to pump as much as possible so he can have bottles and handle her at night to give me a break. Sometimes I think he wishes he had the boobs!