My kindergartner (age 5) has started taking in the third person non-stop lately. I’m not really sure how/why it started, but it’s been this way for the last month and a half. We haven’t made a big deal about correcting it, other than modeling back something like “oh, you want a snack?” if she says something like “E wants a snack!” But it’s driving my husband nuts (and I don’t really want this to become a lasting thing…) So I’m on the hunt for strategies to help her break the habit, if that’s even something we can/should guide. Is this the kind of things kids just grow out of, or something I need to be more proactive about? Generally I feel like the more attention I draw to anything like this with my kids, the worse it gets…so I’ve pretty much ignored the third person thing and hoped it’s a phase, but I’m curious if anyone has been there before and can offer me some hope from the other side.
pomelo / 5563 posts
I wonder what would happen if you made a joke about it? "Oh, E wants a snack? Ok, when you see E can you ask what kind of snack she wants? Tell her she has to ask me herself. Oh, YOU want a snack! I thought you must mean a different E!"
grapefruit / 4043 posts
There is likely another kid in her class who is talking like that. My daughter started doing baby talk and I know exactly which kid she got it from. It was like nails on a chalk board. I would tell her that we don't talk like that and to please stop doing it. There are certainly other approaches.
apricot / 410 posts
@erinbaderin: I'll give this a try and see. If she'd even just use "I" sometimes at this point, I'd happily take it!
@agold: I have a hunch it might be coming from a friend at school too. Or possibly a tv show? My kids have been home sick so much this school year, and I've left them binge watch more cartoons than usual while I try to get some work done. It might have backfired on me!
pomegranate / 3595 posts
@caitcat: that sounds tiresome, and probably picked up from another kid.
It also sounds like Elmo. Elmo always talks in the third person. I don’t know how your kids feel about Elmo but by kinder my kids thought it was for babies. If you wanted to try to redirect the behavior, you might be able to use that to say “oh you sound like Elmo. Are you talking like Elmo right now or a big five year old?”
apricot / 410 posts
@MamaCate: It is so much like Elmo! Our Sesame Street days are so far behind us, I'd kind of forgotten!