Help calm my nerves, alleviate my mom guilt. My husband and I are traveling for a destination wedding for 5 days. I have a three year old and a one year old. I haven't left them for this long before and I'm feeling so guilty and sad. We leave tomorrow and today my DD got pink eye and has a cold, so I'm sure my youngest will get it when we are gone and I feel terrible. I'm also worried my one year old will forget about me. My parents are staying with them, and they watch them when I work, and earlier this month we spent a week with them. So I know they will be alight, so why do I feel so sad?! Help calm my fears and my nerves, please!
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Awww I'm sorry! It will be okay! I feel like the lead up to leaving is the worst part. We left DD with family for five nights last year when she was almost two, and I was dreading it. We were sad and missed her, but we really tried to focus on enjoying having adult "us" time. I'm so glad we went on the trip, and DD was just fine. She was thrilled to see us when we got back.
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I have only done one night, but your sadness is justified. I cried the first time I left my baby for a few hours...
Your one year old won't forget you and they'll both be so so excited to see you when you get back! And you'll feel so rested and reinvested when you get back to them.
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Awww, sorry you feel so sad!
100% the lead up is the worst. I feel that way even though I've spent plenty of long weekends away from mine. I still feel guilty and sad. BUT it does get easier once you get to your destination and enjoy the freedom and time with DH a bit.
We went away for 4 days a couple of weeks ago. What helped was talking to him about it starting a couple days before we left. I told him we were leaving but focused on the fun and said ONLY positive things. "Grandma will be here and it'll be so much fun! You'll get to show her your work at school and she'll tak you to the park! I bet grandpa will come a couple times too. And the best part is - after 3 bedtimes we'll be back and we'll have a surprise for you!" We brought him a few souvenirs and he honestly became so focused on the "surprise" he didn't even care that we were gone.It'll all be ok and I bet it will even be better than ok. You'll enjoy yourself and might even want to get away more often. It's good for all of you!
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Not quite the same but I've gone on three business trips where DD stayed home with DH. I really missed her but everyone survived. Try to FaceTime/Skype if you can - it really helped me!
It's a silly fear but I also thought DD would forget me. She didn't (of course) and she was so happy to see me when I got home.
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@Miss Flamingo: totally normal! Dh and I have both done solo trips and one trip together when our first was a baby, and our kids are bonded to us, never forgot about us, everything is fine!
you're going to be just fine and so will your LOs! I think it's great for kids to develop a relationship with select others where they're comfortable enough to stay with them overnight especially in case of emergency. Everything will be ok!! 
enjoy your trip!
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This is going to sound dumb to say but I'm proud of you! I also have a 3 year old and a 1 year old and the only time I've ever left the B overnight is when I spent 2 nights in the hospital having W. This is not bragging, I think it would be healthy for me, my marriage and my kids to be left with their grandparents or somebody else they trust, I just can't let go. I think this is going to be great for you and for your kids - they won't forget you, this will help them see that you always come back even if you go away for a little bit! And for you, it will be so nice to have free time again and to be able to do things without considering snacks and naps and early morning wake-ups. You're going to have a great time, so are your kids, and your reunion when you see them again will be so happy!
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I agree, I am proud of you for going away for 5 days! The only time I had been away from my 2.5 year old was when I went to give birth to my 2nd! I know there's pretty much nothing you can do about the guilt; but know that they are in good hands, and that the trip will probably do wonders for you & DH and you will both come back refreshed and ready to love on them!!
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The first time I went away for more than one night my oldest was 16 months. DH and I did a 4 night trip for my birthday. The first night was tough and I did cry. But As long as I was busy it was so much easier! Of course I missed him, but it was nice to have that time to reconnect with DH and not have to worry about taking care of a little one.
After that first time it was so much easier! My mom offers to watch our older one all the time. The little one is only 5 months and I have. It left him yet.
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@LemonJack: @Mrs. Goose: @SweetiePie: @skinnycow: @2littlepumpkins: @erinbaderin: @snowjewelz: @KT326: thank you guys! This really did make me feel a little better!
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@Miss Flamingo: the leaving part is absolutely hard, but I bet your kids will love the time with your parents and vice versa. We left my son (at 2.5) with my parents for 4 days and he still talks about how much fun they had. There were moments he missed us but he had a great time overall and so did we.
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