Two people I know have done this--when you sign up to bring them a meal, they let you know that if they're resting, there will be a sign on the door and you can leave a meal for them in a cooler. Anyone else seen this/done it?
While arranging for people to stop by postpartum was stressful at times, I still wouldn't feel right doing this (even though it is somewhat appealing). At a minimum, I wanted to say thank you to friends for the meal.
grapefruit / 4649 posts
Our local moms club does this. Honestly, I don't even mind as the person dropping off. If I know the person with the baby well I will set up a time to visit but sometimes it's nice to just drop and go, I definitely don't think it's rude.
Eta- Everyone sends a thank you text, no ty notes needed either! A photo of baby is always appreciated though.
eggplant / 11716 posts
@Happygal: Not someone who is post partum, but a coworker that has cancer has been doing this. Or rather, her family has been.
I think it's fine. If people are busy and not up for visitors, but that's the only time you have to drop off food, then put it in the cooler.
nectarine / 2173 posts
I think it's fine. I want to help someone by dropping off food and if it's not a good time I don't want them to be stressed about it.
pomelo / 5228 posts
Nope! I make the trip, I'd at least want to say hi for a few minutes. We can arrange a convenient time for everyone.
persimmon / 1396 posts
Nope. This would be considered super, super rude in my area. If I take the time to bring you dinner, you can open the door and say thank you.
wonderful clementine / 24134 posts
I would be miffed unless it was a really really really bad time. I mean some times those meal trains may be people from work or people you don't want to see when you haven't showered.
hostess / cantaloupe / 6486 posts
I think it's rude. I've been on both the receiving end and giving end of a meal train and no one ever stays long.
apricot / 287 posts
I'd probably be a little irritated - I've always done/received meal trains through my Bible study (so we knew each other pretty well), and people would usually text to try and coordinate a good time to drop off. I usually don't linger unless the mom seems to want to talk, but I still think it's polite to invite someone bringing food in and say thank you.
grapefruit / 4355 posts
I would find this to be a little rude. If I am taking the time and effort to make you a hot meal and bring it over to your house, you can at least open the door and say hi to me. I don't think that is asking much.
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