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@josina: It's a tricky time to figure out. I'm 43 and we've been done for a few years. My family has a strong history of stroke and heart attack, so I don't want to go back on hormonal birth control. I had assumed that DH would have a vasectomy, and he was sort of open to it, but now he's basically refusing by doing nothing about it. I also don't want an IUD because of the horror stories. For now we're using condoms unless I've just very recently finished my period, and then nothing. It's not ideal, especially since menopause could still be years ago, but it's working for now.

I don’t know what “feed the cancer” means. I’m 40 and on hormonal birth control pills and my OB told me (and I’ve confirmed through research) that they are actually protective against cancer. They also help with symptoms of peri-menopause. So I’m likely going to stay on the pill. I haven’t had any negative side effects (have been on for over 20) and I love that I barely get my period.

My husband got a vasectomy, and it was seriously a non-issue - they have an almost completely non-invasive method, they gave him, like, two advil and a xanax for the anxiety, and then sent him home with two more advil for "pain management". It was easy, quick, and like a previous poster said, done right in the office, not in a hospital. No offence to any husbands but I have very little patience for men who balk at doing this, after everything women go through. I'm sorry, I grew some amount of humans inside my body and then got it outside my body either through a phenomenal feat of endurance or a major surgery, and you're hesitating about a minor in-office procedure?

@erinbaderin: I totally agree with this.

My husband will be getting a vasectomy soon. My youngest just turned one, and DH is just waiting on my to tell him I'm for sure done with kids. He had his intro appointment though, and he's on board. I currently have a IUD, but will have it removed when the time is right and probably not do anything else afterwards.

I had a tubal done during my last csection, it did not impact my recovery at all (I had three c sections so I knew what to expect). I would not have done that if I wasn't already open though, if I had vaginal births my husband would have gotten a vasectomy. I feel the same as @erinbaderin. I grew and got three humans out of my body, so I think the men can take an afternoon of discomfort.

That being said I hate having regular periods! They are much heavier now that I am older and just linger for so long. I've considered going back on an IUD just so I don't have to deal with it (I had mirena for years before I got pregnant and had no issues) but I'm hesitant to put hormones or a device back in my body when I don't really have a need to.

My husband had one as soon as we were done having kids. We are the ones who are pregnant for months on end and give birth...he can handle five minutes of discomfort. Tell him to man up and get it done. I'm sick of periods tbh but I don't want to go on hormonal bc again (risk of issues since over 35) and I refuse to get an IUD. Too many horror stories of them migrating and just the pain of insertion alone.