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@travelgirl1: normally what is done is shadowing and then redirecting to avoid biting.
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every time i've been in montessori classrooms i've been amazed at how well behaved the children are.... way better than regular preschools! i would definitely send him if it is an option!
our daycare has a 1:4 ratio, and i think the kids really thrived because of the individual attention
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@littlek: Ah. I've tried that. I was hoping they would have tactics I didn't know about.
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@travelgirl1: there's not a whole lot you can do until they have their words.
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@littlek: I hope you love it and it's a better fit for B!
ETA: meaning he has some better teachers who are responsive to him rather than saying his behavior is a problem
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I moved my DD from daycare to Montessori. The Montessori kids are really well behaved as others have said. It kind of freaked me out at first, honestly! Daycare is so chaotic when compared to a Montessori classroom. In your case, it sounds like your daycare doesn't want to deal with B anymore and is trying to force you out of there. So I would move him, Montessori or not! Hope it all works out!
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Honey - a 10:1 ratio would be reason enough for me to want to move him.
I think you should but not for the bring reason alone, but because they are shaming you:( you don't need that heartache and stress.
But don't you want to find a place where baby #2 can also attend? -
@littlek: can you talk to your pediatrician about it? Or shadow a day yourself?
Chloe has an on-going issue with ONE student in her class. They play wonderfully at private playgroups, but something triggers them at school. The teachers chalk it up as a phase or restlessness (we had a long, cold winter) but I've seen this student attack Chloe unprovoked (like, walk up behind her and ram a toy into her calf). It makes me wonder how much Chloe instigates vs sticks up for herself -- and at two, she doesn't completely understand walking away. Her instinct says they hurt me so I'll hurt them. It's a matter of who the teacher sees first, too, which is kind of annoying!
I'm wondering if B is being provoked and taunted, and his instinct is to fight back. With that big of a child to teacher ratio, I'd be concerned that the teacher is only seeing B bite, but not seeing what provoked him to. I'm a huge fan of WHY and not so much of WHAT.
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Wait. Wait. Waitwaitwait. What? They moved your 23 month old son... to a preschool room... because he bites. And they don't expect him to bite more?! Only now the other kids are way bigger than him and can hurt him if they get too rough? What??? When I taught at a preschool we moved children who bit to higher groups but our classes had about a 6-8 month difference between the two, not a whole year. And 10:1 with an almost 2 year old? I would move him based on the fact that they are obviously playing hot potato with your baby and not really trying to help him. I hate when adults blame children for shit they are doing nothing to help with.
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@littlek: oh, okay. I think you have to just trust your gut on this one, and see if the Montessori school is a better fit.
I would ask the director if you could have your son sit in on a presentation on a material and see if your son is receptive...best of luck on the tour!
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@travelgirl1: we tried everything - books, giving him something he could bite on, talking about it, comforting the biten child and ignoring him - in the end they brought in an extra teacher so his teacher could shadow him all day - it took 2 full days but they were able to catch him BEFORE he bit and redirect him - after that he stopped!
Our ratio was 1:6 - I cant believe a 1:10 ratio is legal for a 2 yr old!
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