My son is 14 weeks old and we are having major struggles transitioning him into his crib. It's just been 3 days, but it's been a total nightmare and I'm at the end of my rope. He had been sleeping in his RnP since we were home from the hospital, and we kept him in it this long because of his reflux. He had been napping well in his RnP, and despite bedtime always taking 2-3 hours, once he fell asleep he would sleep well at night- with a 5-7 hour first stretch and then going back down easily after 1 MOTN feeding.

We started him in the crib for nighttime sleep 3 nights ago. To help him transition, we have a crib wedge and made a snuggle nest with a rolled up beach towel. He's swaddled with one arm out and has been for about 2 weeks, but doesn't seem ready for 2 arms out. Bedtime is still a struggle that takes hours but that's nothing new (we've started a "routine," tried adjusting bedtimes, adjusting the length of his last wake-time, etc., all to no avail). He's had lots of wake-ups, and they've been lasting a LONG time. I don't think he needs more than 1 MOTN feeding, but he won't settle down unless I nurse him each time he wakes up. In fact, he screams bloody murder when my DH tries to go in and soothe him and won't stop until I come in and get him. So we nurse, try to rock to sleep, nurse more, try to rock to sleep more, etc etc until he finally falls asleep again. I'm worried this will start a habit of him continuing to wake up multiple times per night just to nurse (even after the transition is "over"), which he never used to do.

We knew the transition to the crib wouldn't be easy, but it's been a miserable 3 days. LO is only getting 5-6 hours of sleep at nighttime, which is terrible!! We've kept his naps in the RnP, and so far he's been getting more daytime sleep than nighttime sleep. So of course now I'm afraid he'll start getting his days and nights mixed up. I'm only getting about 3 hours of sleep per night, I can't function at work during the day, and my supply has completely TANKED - most likely due to my sleep deprivation and stress, which only complicates matters more.

Here's how it's played out:

Night 1:
Sleep for 30 minutes, awake for 1.5 hours
Sleep for 45 minutes, awake for 2 hours
Move him to RnP: sleep for 3.5 hours, awake for 1.5 hours
Back to sleep until he was "up" for the day

Night 2:
Sleep for 2 hours, awake for just over 1 hour
Sleep for 2 hours, awake for 1 hour
Move him to RnP: sleep for 1 hr 45 min, then up for the day

Night 3:
Sleep for 2 hours 40 min, awake for 1 hour
Sleep for 1 hour 40 min, awake for 1.5 hours
Move him to RnP: sleep for 1 hour 45 min, up for 40 min
Sleep for 1 hr 15 min, then up for the day

Can someone please tell me that this gets better? I feel so defeated, so exhausted, and ready to give up on everything: transitioning to crib, nursing, all of it. We wanted to be consistent and give it a week of starting him in his crib at night, but the progress has been so slow I don't even know if we can call it progress.

I apologize for the super long post, but if you've made it this far, I suppose I just wanted to hear from others who have been there, and hopefully hear that it will get better eventually. Or any tips or advice or just general encouragement. Thank you...