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I'm good. Been getting 6-7 hours of sleep a night. (woohoo!)
My days bleed together and sometimes I feel like I should be doing something productive with my extra time, but! Eh. One day.
How are YOU?

I'm ok but I struggle with some guilt...my home should be in better shape, I need to exercise more, eat out less, spend less time on my phone and make more time to hang out with friends!

I'm still trying to cope with being a stay at home mom. It wasn't my first decision, but it has, through various channels, ended up being where I am in life. I can't decide if I am struggling with the fact that I am not working, or that I am enjoying that I am not working.

@Nskillet: Those are good ideas . We are discussing career changes which can be stressful but its a good discussion to talk about the future and our hopes/dreams.

I am super nervous as my induction is tonight! I don't know what to expect and that freaks me out. So I'm trying to relax today but it's been incredibly hard!

@Shimmer: LO is 8 months old but I remember that day for me like it was yesterday! The anticipation is just the worst! I went out (I was on strict bedrest for almost a month) shopping and got my nails done just to distract myself, haha. I'll be thinking of you

For me, work these days is super-stressful. I wish I could work from home like DH and spend my days with DS. When works not so stressful I don't dwell on this thought, but these past couple weeks, it's just been downright depressing, ugh.

@shimmer I will never forget the day of my induction with my first LO, do something fun! It will be the last time you can indulge yourself for a while. Have lunch with friends, get a mani/pedi, go shopping. And don't worry too much about the induction, you'll do great! Soon enough you'll have a little baby!

@MamaBehr: Thanks! I fully intend on shopping as soon as these storms pass. I have been obsessed with finding comfy PJs for some reason, so I'll be on a mission in a little while! haha

@Shimmer: retail therapy is the best. maybe I should take my own advice and try that, too, haha -- I know it sounds silly but the nice new pjs and robe I bought specifically for the hospital made me feel pretty after giving birth. Get yourself something nice
My vacation and personal time was used for maternity leave so I don't have any time off this year. I live for the weekends!

I am feeling over worked. It's hard to juggle working full time, child care, home care, DH care, etc etc. Too many things to do all the time I suppose. But I'll curb my complaints. I have another one on the way and I'll have to fit more into my day so I probably have it easy right now. Woohoo.

@Lozza: I am very glad that I waited until DD was 2 to TTC at least. She wasn't a particularly easy baby and I knew I had to wait until things calmed down for my own sanity. I'm not gonna lie, the 1st trimester sucked big time, but now I'm in the "golden trimester" so it's better. It will all be worth it in the end right?

I could be better. My job stinks--tomorrow the new person starts--yes, the person who was hired to do a chunk of my job. I feel slapped in the face about that, but it's not personal, the new head of the organization is bringing in "his people" so now both my boss and I have to report to this person.

I'm stressed because I don't feel like I have much time to myself, I come home and spend time with baby, who doesn't fall asleep until 9:30/10 and then I'm tired, too. I am basically working, taking care of the apartment, and being with my baby.

I'm also stressed about money! We're moving soon and trying to find an affordable, yet safe neighborhood is hard.

I love my friends but I don't really feel like I have any right now. It would be nice if one of them picked up the phone and asked me how I'm doing.

I've been struggling with a lot of depression/anxiety lately. I have an appointment with my psychologist tonight, thank goodness! There's been a lot of family drama going on that seems to finally have subsided a bit, so I'm finally ready to work on healing.

I also finally got back to my best stress reliever last night: exercise! I'm hoping I can incorporate that back into my life more regularly along with a cleaned up diet and some more yoga. Hopefully that combined with the therapy will make me feel better.

But I'll tell ya, mental issues combined with pregnancy are tough! I'm having to find a lot of strength in new places.

@Nskillet: He's salary, so he can't get more hours. He's tried for raises, but it's a small company that he works for, and the pay sucks, and they rarely have raises. But I agree, time not together will start hurting us. He took on a part time job as well, so we arent together that much anymore....Just working.

@Nskillet: aw thanks! Thanks so much for starting the thread, great idea. I just read through most of the earlier posts and saw that you have some job interviews coming up. Best of luck!!

My mental health is struggling. But I'm back at work now, which I think is helping. My doc diagnosed me with post-partum depression last week and I've been taking Prozac for a few days (am still waiting for it to really have an effect). Today is my first counseling appointment.

What really made me seek help is that I was hating being a mom and wishing I could take the last year back. I was also getting frustrated with not being able to calm LO down or knowing what she wanted. Even though it wasn't every day, it was happening enough, and I was feeling "down" often enough to know it wasn't normal.

So, here's hoping for some progress! It's so easy to fall into the "mommy" trap and forget to care for yourself first.

Edit: I just looked down and realized how huge my post is, Sorry, guys. You don't have to read the whole thing.

@Goldilocks1107: It's going to get better! You're such a trooper.

@highwire: Hang in there, good for you for asking for help. I know that for me, it felt like everything was falling apart during my pregnancy. Those hormones can make you feel like you're going crazy on top of everything else.

I am doing really well, actually. I feel that i have never been so happy in my entire life. I love breastfeeding and I love hanging out with my baby all day. I have yet to feel like I need any 'me' time, I want to take her with me everywhere I go.

I worked three days last week, and it wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. We have reached a point in our finances where I have pretty much no option other than going to work for a couple days a week. Things are just so tight and my DH is sick of living that way. (To be honest, I am completely okay with it. I am used to not spending a lot of money, and I never had a lot of money growing up. But he is really into nice things, and wants to get a full tune-up on our cars, finish our backyard, and pay off student loans, which all require extra income).

I guess the only bad part is that I have been getting really frustrated with DH lately. He barely does anything with DD other than play with her (I always feed her, change her, put her down for bed, etc.) but when he does, the way he parents drives me nuts, and he totally disregards any sort of routine or schedule I have DD on. Every time I bring it up, he says that everything can't be "my way or the highway" and I need to let him do what he wants. ugh.

This is usually what happens if I am trying to multi-task and I ask DH to put DD to bed: He changes her into PJs, changes her diaper, and talks/plays with her the whole time. Then, he takes her into the front room where it's bright and the TV is on, and tries to get her bottle ready. However, he is incapable of warming a bottle while holding her, so he either asks for my help or sets her down. Then, he tries to feed her a bottle, but it usually doesn't work because he is talking with her the whole time and she gets distracted. He then sits her on his lap and lets her watch the TV for about an hour. Of course, by this time she is so stimulated and awake there is no way she is going down to bed. Then, when he "feels" she is tired, he takes her to her crib, plops her down, and walks away. She screams bloody murder of course because she has completely missed her bed time routine. He then calls for me and says "W won't go down. I need you to do it." SERIOUSLY?????????