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Baby was breastfeed, so it was never for us. There wasn't really a need for him to help, especially since she went right to sleep afterwards almost all the time.

Nope. DD was breastfed so I always managed the night wakings. Even now that she's mostly weaned, I tend to take care of them because she looks for me and gets upset if he goes in.

If feedings were every 2-3 hours and I needed a break, DH would give a bottle in the early morning. Now with LO2 waking up only once in the middle of night, I always feed him. When I was sick though with mastitis, I got DH up with me to help.

Like @AprilFool:, DH changed her diaper for me in the super early days and brought her to me so I didn't have to get out of bed.

When she was a little older, he stayed in bed until she wouldn't go back to sleep (which was often), and then he'd take over for me. He was always better at getting her settled down anyway. She hated for her food source to leave the room!

Only once in the past 5.5 months and that's when we were dealing with a bad allergy related diaper rash. LO is exclusively breast fed and cosleeps/sleeps in our room, so there's no reason for him to get up. He'd be in the way.

My DH didn't help with any nighttime feedings, but DD was ebf & I preferred to sit in the glider in the nursery, so even when DD slept in the PnP in our room, I'd take the baby into the nursery to bf, then we'd come back to our room. There was no reason for DH to wake/get up.

DD is breastfed so I handle the majority of the wake ups. When she's up but doesn't want to eat DH goes in. He can't hear her cry so I have to wake him.

LO1 (Breastfed) - DH got up, changed her diaper and brought her to me to feed until we stopped changing diapers so much at night.

LO2 (Bottle fed) - I take everything before 3 am, DH takes everything after

When she was a newborn, he would change her diaper while I got set up to breastfeed. Later, I would often pump and then go to sleep, and he would stay up for her first waking to give her a bottle. But if we were both in bed already, I handled all waking a from the time she was a few weeks old.

I handled the majority for the first six months. I was breastfeeding and we coslept, so there wasn't much for him to do. LO usually fell back asleep while nursing, but if she was awake/restless after feeding, then I'd wake him and he'd take a shift rocking her.

Since we've moved LO into her own room, DH goes to her if she wakes in the middle of the night. If I go in, then she wants to nurse right away, but often she will settle very quickly for him without eating.

When our kids were tiny, DH helped a ton. I have twins, so we went through phases where I just couldn't do it all by myself because we were up so much. They were combo fed, but mostly just breastfed in the motn, but he would rock one while I'd nurse the other, do diaper changes, re-swaddle, etc. From about a year on, they only wanted me in the middle of the night for comfort nursing so anymore I handle everything in the motn. Sometimes if it's a really bad night and I've been up 3 or 4 times already I'll have DH handle a wake up, but usually it just means LO will cry for me until he or she wears himself out and then DH will finally get them down. Luckily, at 2 they sleep better, aside from when they are sick, so I usually only have 1 or 2 wake ups per night now.

We EBF but in the beginning there was still plenty for both of us to do. I think for those very early first few weeks DH would do the diaper and bring her to me to feed her. As we went along we stopped doing MOTN diapers and then yeah for a long while the nighttime wakeups were just me hauling her from the cosleeper up next to me, letting her eat, then plopping her back into the cosleeper.

These days on the rare occasion she needs us in the MOTN, it's a toss-up which of us will get up to go help her.

Yes unless he had a really early meeting or flight. He worked from home for the first six weeks on his bosses suggestion- so that was really nice. T was ebf for a year.

DH did most diaper changes, even when LO was exclusively breastfed. I'd often have to nudge him awake when LO woke up, but he'd get up, change the diaper, reswaddle, then hand him over to me to feed. It worked out pretty well. There were a handful of occasions when I didn't bother waking DH up and took care of the diapers myself. LO started STTN before we switched to exclusively formula, so I guess DH was pretty helpful in those early months.

In the NB stage he was right there in the trenches. We took turns in 4-5 hour shifts when the baby was very small. At that time I was pumping, so we were both able to participate in feeding and changing the baby. It wasn't until I stopped pumping and exclusively breastfed that I took over night time duty all together.

I bottle feed but I still handle all night wakings for both children. DH has given one night feed in 15 weeks. DH is a heavy sleeper and doesn't wake up unless one of the children is full blown crying, enough to wake the other. I, on the other hand, wake at the slightest snuffle..... it just seems silly to wake him up when I'm already awake.

Yes! Always! I breastfed both babies, but as soon as they were taking a bottle consistently he would take over at least one night feeding. If they weren't on the bottle yet he would get baby and hand him/her to me in the bed.

I said rarely, but it's probably between rarely and sometimes. There was usually an explicit reason for him doing it, like I was sick.

In the very early days, I would go to bed really early and he'd do any wakings until midnight or so. I don't necessarily consider those night wakings since they are during our normal awake hours (i.e. he didn't have to wake up). But it was certainly helpful for me to get a nice stretch from 9pm - 3am or so.

And when LO was about 4 months he was waking once a night (on the verge of sttn), I got the flu. So DH took over then, until he got it (or he claims he got it . He didn't test positive like I did so I still internally roll my eyes when he says he had the flu).

I'm sure he also randomly helped here and there and I don't remember. But the vast majority was me. And I'm ok with it since I SAH. He's helpful in so many other ways.

ETA: I EP'd for the first month and then supplemented and eventually FF. So he was always bottle fed.

Nope. He has a super stressful job right now. He sleeps in a different room while we have a newborn. I do baby wake ups (she's 3.5 weeks) he gets up with the toddler in the morning before he goes to work giving me an extra hour or so of sleep, longer on the weekends.

If I needed him he would get up, but I don't. It works for us! He tried sleeping in our room this weekend when we had company using the guest rooms. He left for the couch after realizing our newborn is the loudest creature.

ETA: both kids ebf.

I bottle feed, and I do most of night waking during the week since I'm off right now (he helps out when things get out of hand, or going and making a bottle sometimes), and we split it up on the weekends. When I go back to work after maternity leave, he will help more during the week as well.