We have been visiting DHs family an while we were visiting my MIL told us not to give her a guilt trip if she misses LOs 1st birthday. She then goes on to say that her new boyfriend may want to take her on a trip and she will do that instead of going to LOs bday. My MIL has always been self absorbed but I'm shocked she will miss LOs bday for such a frivolous reason. She doesn't get to see him a lot so I'm hurt she would so casually dismiss attending the party. What the heck???