Hi all!

So DH and I are expecting our first baby in Dec. We are currently living in a 1 bed apt in NYC but have decided to move before thebaby is born so we are currenty also in the process of looking for our first home! (probably in Long Island). We are hoping to be moved in by the fall.

So basically my mom is moving here this summer (all 3 of her kids, siblings and now first grandbaby on the way are here) so she's finally making the long overdue move (from England where i grew up!). This is obviously a huge move for her and she is worried about where she will be going/buying/living etc. One of the reasons we are looking for a house in Long Island is because its near her sisters and will probably be where she ends up (so we can be near).

There's been many discussions about where she should move and no real answers have been established yet.

So my issue is both my siblings still live in NYC so really the only place she could come to is either one of her sisters house or to my DH and I (when we get a bigger place). Now obviously i don't mind my mum staying with us, even for quite a while. But there's been talk about her PERMENANTLY moving in with us. I just don't know how i feel about this. I love her to bits, but she drives me crazy! i'm so excited about buying and creating our first home together and she would be there constantly (not giving us any space because she doesnt like to be alone), and you know how moms can be (well my mom is) - little things like watching me while i cook and giving me "tips" on how to chop, silly little things.

Urgh - i go back and forth, i know we COULD make it work but we'd all need to compromise pretty heavily. And i feel bad for my DH, although he's said he would support whatever I decide. I don't want to come across as selfish, as i really want to help her out, but i keep thinking of all thigns that could go wrong. Eg my parents are divorced and my dad has now remarried with 2 young boys (my half brothers). She can be a bit funny around them and my wedding was nearly ruined because of it. So what happens when they come and stay ?

Has any-one else ever had a parent move in permenantly and made it work? any tips?