My mom always brings 'gifts' when she comes - way too much stuff that we don't have room for or already have in our smallish house. The last few times it's been food, like enough to fill several refrigerators. I have no idea where she thinks we're going to put all of it - it ends up spoiling and sitting out and the dogs steal it because it's sitting out and it just stresses me out. This time though I got really upset - it was stuff like 5 lbs of meat (we're vegetarian), jars of Prego (I've made our own tomato sauces for probably the last 5 years), and just a bunch of stuff we already have. I have 8 loaves of bread now - thankfully we just moved so my freezer was somewhat empty. Then she wouldn't eat lunch, maybe she wasn't hungry but I was starving so I ate my homemade lunch in front of her, it was awkward.

I'm being sensitive and interpreting her need to bring tons of food, despite me asking numerous times not to, that she thinks we're poorly off. We don't make a lot of $$ but one thing we do is eat well and I spend a lot of time cooking so it just feels like a slap in the face.

So now it's an awkward visit, she thinks I'm ungrateful and I think she's being a bad guest.