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Oh no mama!! That’s terrible!! I probably would have tried to stay and sent spouse home
Not really a fail but the one thing I requested was to sleep in and .... nope. Up at 6 am to DS screaming for me “MOOOM!! I’m about to pee in my pants!!”

I got the cold E has been sniffling around with plus the start of my period so I feel like bumming around in sweatpants and doing nothing but of course we are going out for a nice dinner with both our moms.

I also didn’t get to sleep in like I wanted— girls both ended up in our bed around 5:30am 🤦‍♀️ Otherwise it’s been a good day! Kept my expectations low so I’m not disappointed lol

Up at 5am per usual, took the 3yo to urgent care at 8am (he had an ear infection with a ruptured eardrum), then a bunch of exhausting family obligations... I mean, a normal day, I guess. Sleeping in would have been nice.

@crazydoglady: omg noooo! I get so upset when I'm hungry and something (or someone 🤣) gets in the way of that.
My fail was the weather was horrible (again) so we couldn't go hiking. Then I had to buy stuff for/visit my mom and MIL, so I was a grumpy, disappointed bitch all day.

Not necessarily a fail but DH had to work 7:30-6... So that just sucked. Yesterday he worked noon-9:30 and tomorrow he works 7:30-5. DD and I could really use some space from each other haha. Thankfully we did lunch with a bunch of my family so I wasn't alone all day.

Thanks for this thread, it made me feel better about mine. And @crazydoglady: I am so sorry to hear about your misadventure.... and @catgirl: sorry your DH worked throughout weekend.... That was us LAST weekend, and this morning I was so thankful they didn't make him work THIS weekend.

I really shouldn't complain about mine, it was uneventful and nothing majorly went wrong. I had way worse. DH did plan a brunch on Saturday (can not get tables on Sunday lol). Just in general I didn't feel special, weather was crappy, DS threw the usual tantrums, nothing out of the ordinary, just can not bring a smile on my face... which was OK. Then I talked to a few moms today at a birthday party drop off (yes, there was a birthday party on mother's day, couldn't get DH to do the drop off /pick up either, bleh) and some of them went out of town to this nice little bed and breakfast and came back on Sunday morning. Sigh. Then DH and I fought earlier tonight on some trivial stuff. Ah well.

Mother's day is like setting ourselves up for failure. Regardless if one year we had such a great time, then the next year it didn't match up (it never would) and we'd be so disappointed (or at least for me) lol

@crazydoglady: sorry you got vomited on.

Day started good, DH made a nice brunch and we spent so e time as a family. DS1 made us a beach party in his room which was cute.

But DH never did the dishes from brunch, they are still there! Then he didn’t plan or make dinner I made sandwiches after the baby was in bed. When he asked earlier in the week all I said was that I didn’t want to plan or cook dinner.

I guess this is why it is a good thing Mother’s Day is before Father’s Day! Lol

Like others, I had zero expectations and it was nice. We slept in too late, got ready slow so the wait at my favorite brunch spot was too long. So, we ended up eating day old donuts

Lots of playing this weekend with my little family. The worst/hardest part is that I was supposed to be pregnant but had a loss. 2nd Mother's Day in a row where we're just not making strides toward completing our family.

I told my husband last week what I wanted - I wanted to sleep in, get homemade cards, have some time to myself, and to not have to do the grocery shopping or cook dinner. Plus I made reservations for brunch. And it was a great day! The only "fail" was that both boys wanted to climb in bed to snuggle with me and talk about how they'd bought me flowers at 6am, but that's hard to be upset about. We had a lovely brunch, my husband took my older son to the grocery store while my younger son napped so I got to take a nap and read a book, I drank rose all afternoon, and while I did end up making dinner it was because I wanted to. Plus my husband went above and beyond by taking the boys to pick out flowers and doing all the laundry on Saturday while I was out so I came home to everything clean and folded.

@PurplePeony: hahaha smart girl!

So ya'll, with the talk of low expectations or no expectations, what do you think of my list? Low medium or high?

Fwiw we did everything except replaced the campfore smores with cinnamon rolls at church; and I asked DH to get the leafblowing done since it was put off all week.

@crazydoglady: so sorry to hear, that really sucks! Hope you guys get a "re-do " next weekend.

@Becky: that is definitely a lot of event! It sucks that delegating still involves giving so many directions. DH is pretty good at getting the kids ready for always forgets 2-3 things and when those get discovered, he gets grumbly.

@erinbaderin: aw sounds so nice.

@SweetCaroline:

@catgirl: bummer! Will he be home next weekend? Time to reschedule mother's day!

We have been super busy and I am so far behind on laundry we basically have a pile the size of Mount Everest that needs to be folded. I walked past and changed a load and said oh man look at all this laundry, who is going to do it all? My kids said you mom. My husband said "not today, it's mother's day.... It'll get done another day." Made me laugh but also the truth is a little painful. I spend the day after mothers day running around doing all the stuff I would have normally done. I should have just done it yesterday.

My day was normal. My dh isn't great at holidays... We went to a wedding Saturday so we were both a bit hung over yesterday. LO stayed the night at Grammy and Papa's house and didn't sleep, so I went over and got her earlier than I had planned. I picked up breakfast & dinner (breakfast was at lunch time lol) and I did laundry. So...yeah. I try to have no expectations but I was still a little bummed.

Any one notice or just me that a main component of Mother’s Day fails involves husbands? I read an article about how Mother’s Day is really for wives. My fail had to do with plans I made (spend the day solo with my LO) that did not turn out the way I expected and to a large extent I controlled because my LO can’t plan/ execute an activity or gift something on his own. I feel for all the single moms who have zero or very low expectations for the holiday because of their circumstance and children’s ages.

@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Yes, I agree. I obviously didn't expect anything from my LO since she has no idea lol I also feel for the single moms out there. It's the same for Fathers day though, I will do something for DH since LO can't do it herself. But I will involve her, get a card and have her color on it or something like that.

My sister organized a lovely brunch at an upscale restaurant for our parents, her and her fiancé and my family. It was wonderful until a roach bumped into her lip while she was drinking her coffee! We had all been served from the same carafe. Mother’s day brunch fail! 🤢

My kids and DH were awesome, so no complaints otherwise.

@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: @muffinsmuffins: really interesting question, because my DH takes a similar approach. he let me sleep in yesterday morning, and bought a card that he got our 3 year old to sign, and also helped the 3yo make a little picture for me (10 month old got her name signed to the card too : ). but otherwise we pretty much spent the day celebrating our mothers. of course, that meant he made lunch for his family and ours, so that was super nice, and then we went over to my parents and ordered in. so overall i definitely felt like, relatively speaking i get to take it easy, but he doesn't get me a card, flowers, or anything like that from himself, and has been explicit yesterday and on previous mother's days that since i'm not his mother, he doesn't really feel like it's appropriate for him to do much beyond facilitating our kids doing age appropriate things for me. sometimes i feel like others either get or expect more from their partners, but i like this approach (also it takes the pressure off of father's day which i appreciate cause i'm terrible at selecting and executing gifts!). i had a super nice day even though i think others might be disappointed that DH didn't do as much to celebrate me specifically. but it's interesting how it has transformed that way. also it feels like mother's day has amped up in expectations since i was little? maybe this is a social media thing?

@rattles: omg ewwwwwwwwww!