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@MrsTal: I think I just plan to celebrate my mom and mother-in-law. I've never really thought about Mother's Day as a day for me (since I have no kids yet). As hard as it is on a daily basis, Mother's Day won't be any different for me. I totally understand how you feel, though.

Hibernating. My mom is not in the country for it, and she's not talking to me right now, and I really don't want to see anyone, including my MIL.

it doesn't bother me. i think of it as a day to celebrate my mother, but i can see why it could be a painful day for some.

Mother's day with my mom is non existent. I love my mom, but we never really celebrated Mother's day. I've missed Mother's day for years and I don't think she realizes what that day is.

For my MIL, we send flowers.

So yeah, I don't need to promote my love for my mom or MIL on Mother's day.

As for me, I did this last year, but I stayed away from social media. I pampered myself and watched movies last year. I just did not want to see all of it on FB. I think Mother's day is great for my friends and family, but it's just so hard for me to witness.

@mrs. tictactoe: I like that, me and DH had many "let's do what we can't do once we have a child" days! Those are fun!!!

I think FB will be the thing that is hard for me--all the pictures of my friends who are moms getting celebrated. So I should plan on taking a FB break for a day or two!

Other than that, I feel ok with it. The commercials don't bother me, and I'm happy to celebrate my own mom.

I have the same feelings too. I always feel worse when I go to church on those days because they recognize mothers. In the past, I have made it through some how. However, this year I am planning to do the same thing, and hibernate.

I am completely dreading this. I don't want to go. And since neither my mom or my mil have any clue what's going on, I can't just hide without offending them. And even if they knew, they'd probably be offended by my not going anyways.

Last mother's day I was certain I would have a baby by now. Or, at the very least, be pregnant. I'm more than happy to celebrate my mom on mother's day, but I do still get a bit blue wondering if I'll ever be celebrated. My one tip/trick is to avoid a negative trigger. For me, that's DH's whole family. Most years they do cookouts on mother's day (they did last year). They have no filter when it comes to hounding for babies so I will definitely be avoiding any mother's day gatherings with them this year!!

@doxilove I thought the same thing last Mother's Day, I can't believe, here I am, still not pregnent.

I do feel self concious on that day, I feel like it reminds people that I still don't have kids. However, I have a really understanding family who is supportive, I'm really greatful. My MIL always gets me a gift anyway, I love her for that. We are inviting both our moms over for dinner this year.

@bluestriped bee: I love this.

DHs family always goes out to eat to celebrate and I usually join, but I'm now the only one who's not a mom yet. I thought we'd be there by now, and with that along with losing my own mom not too long ago, it just seems like too much this year. I don't want fake being happy again. I'm thinking of skipping out on celebrations this year and instead taking the day to go visit my mom's grave at our family plot- planting some flowers, doing some clean-up etc. It's about an 1.5 hour drive through the middle of nowhere and I often find it relaxing to take the trip alone. Sounds much better to me that 'celebrating'.

Like @MRSTAL, this is my third Mother's Day trying to get pregnant. We usually go out to brunch with MIL and have dinner with mine. I have a harder time with FB so I usually stay off FB for the day. Honestly, I think I had a harder time last year than I will this year. After my last failed IUI I started to have an easier time keeping it together (after getting all my emotions out for a few weeks). I am not sure why. It doesn't hurt any less...I don't know how to explain it.

@bluestriped bee: I hope so!!!! Hugs to you both too!!

For some reason, it's Father's Day that really gets to me. This year will also be our third Mother's Day/Father's DayTTC

@bluestriped bee: I gave my husband a card last year and crossed out "are" and wrote "will be" so it read "You will be a great dad." He's kept it under his keyboard.

I hope it's okay to come at this from the other side...hopefully it helps...
I had four Mother's Day's of TTC and miscarried on Mother's Day 2009. The ONLY way I could get through it was to do something I was really proud of...something that would inspire me and help me remember that anything is possible. One year, DH and I hiked to the top of Bandera Mountain (near Snoqualmie, just east of Seattle) It was a hike that I had previously failed at, and it was one freakin' hard climb, (I'm SO not a hiker!). Anyway, we took tons of pictures at the summit and they're now hanging in our twins' nursery.
I looked at those pictures a lot during our IVF cycles, reminding myself that I was more capable than I ever thought.
HUGS.

@twoofeverything: I really love your story. Makes me want to go climb a mountain!

I saw some lovely inclusive things on social media yesterday, praising the "women who've helped us raise our children" if even for a short time, etc. It was a nice thought.