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Oh dear - are you sad about this? Have you and your husband decided that this is what you are going to do? Many MANY people (some of my friends included) end up moving in with their parents when the baby comes because of financial difficulty. I feel your FIL is being kind and generous...Is he pressuring you to move in? Or, was it simply an offer?

Whatever financial mistakes you and your husband made prior to marriage is in the past and you're working towards fixing it. Try not to beat yourself up. I hope things work out for you!

@mediagirl: they would still be paying rent, though. Although of course the utility bills etc should be a lot more affordable.
OP- I'd think long and hard about it: there are very good arguments for and against. My father lives with us- he's 81 and while generally v healthy, suffers from depression so can't live alone. My husband finds it very very difficult, even though both of them are quite easygoing. I find it hard to be kind of stuck in the middle sometimes between their competing needs. DH often says how much he misses the days when we lived alone: it can be very hard to find "normal" quiet together time.

Of course your situation and mine are very different, and a year is not a long time to spend growing your finances and getting a handle on things. I imagine the relationship between your DH and his Dad would determine how easy the year is.

We are not "well off" either. We do own a home, but could never have purchased it without help of my parents. They've also furnished my LO's room along with some other pieces for our home. My dad buys all of my LO's formula. Not only did they pay for our wedding, but they gave us a certain amount and said spend what you want and keep the rest, so if we eloped we'd have a crap load of money in the bank. Instead we just had a very budget wedding, and used the rest on a downpayment for our house. They do a lot for us, because they can and because they want to. I'm not embarrassed at all! My husband works hard and does make a good living, enough to support me and our baby. But we wouldn't have all of what we do if it weren't for my parent's help. I hope I can do the same for my LO one day.

I'm used to my parents being generous. They paid for my college, they bought my first (and only) car with the money I saved them from getting scholarships, their rule is always that their kids and kid's friends/spouses aren't allowed to buy dinner when we're out with them until we make more money then them. Which will never happen. My husband isn't used to all of that, and he felt weird at first excepting help from them. But he's learned to just be appreciative and happy about it.

@JustlikeHeaven: Glad I could help!