I was hired at my company 7 years ago by a very fantastic woman. Through working with her and as her assistant for a lot of years I really grew to cherish her and her opinion. I also learned that she was connected to me from when I was about 3 months old. She had met me at that time, and then I ended up working for her years later. She's one person who taught me that no matter what you believe (she was going to be a nun and then married an Agnostic man) that your main object in life was to live life to the fullest and be open minded about everything and anything and learn as much as you can about all cultures and religions and people. I truly love this woman. (sorry, just a little back story, I'm a bit emotional...).

Anyway, I can't remember when, but sometime over the summer she told me that she had lung cancer, and then back in November she came down with a bad case of Pneumonia. It's pretty much guaranteed that if you have cancer, and you get pneumonia, you won't make it, I know this. One of my coworkers who is even closer to her than I am went to visit her last night and she pretty much told my coworker as much. I'm not sure how long she has left but I am a little bummed out this morning.

She's also the HR person here, so she's the one I need to talk to about being pregnant and what to do and stuff. I have no idea what to do. I'm considering emailing her today, even though I'm only 10 weeks, because I'm not sure she's got 2 weeks left in her. I also don't want to get F'd around by the other bosses (they're known to be shady!) here because I don't know our policy and she is the only other person really knowledgeable in that area. However, on the other hand, I feel reluctant to tell her at all because ... I dunno. Just reluctant I guess.

She has been working from home, but is going to call the 2 bosses her soon and tell them she won't be coming back. I have zero idea how to deal with this. I have not dealt with a lot of death and honestly I'm even just scared to see or even talk to her because I have no idea what to say or do or anything.

What would you do and how do I deal with this?