I told my good friend that we are expecting again. She congratulated us and immediately rattled off a list of 6 names (all common names) that she doesn't want us to use as a first or middle names since she is saving them for her future children. I told her that it wasn't fair and is a bit silly for her to put any restrictions on what we can name our baby. She got upset and ended the call shortly after that.
Ugh. We really like 2 of the names on her don't use list!
bananas / 9118 posts
That is ridiculous , ignore her. Names aren't territory to protect, whoever has the baby first gets first pick. She'll get over it.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21616 posts
OMG I didn't know you are pg again!! Did you make a formal announcement?! How did I miss this!! lol
ugh that is sooo annoying. I think you said the polite thing and kinda made light of it. That is so silly.
I was dating this one guy and his sister and I loved the same name! We had a running joke on who could get married and have a baby first to use the name 
funny thing is that both of us are married with a kid now and neither of us even used that name!!!
I wonder if she'll even use the names she picks now... we totally didn't use any of the names we picked out when we were first married.
hostess / wonderful honeydew / 32460 posts
Uh. What a beeotch. 
I hate when people claim names when they're not even expecting!
hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts
@Coco Bee: LOL, no formal announcement, but I started posting on the April 2013 boards.
Yeah, I don't like any of the names I had as runner ups for my LO.
Plus the names on her list are so common...John, Emma, Thomas, etc!
@chopsuey119: She is engaged!
cherry / 188 posts
Oh, that is so silly! If she loves the names and has six to pick from than she'll just have to choose whatever is left. This is why I don't normally share the names I love with anyone. Then, I can't blame anybody for knowing something they couldn't have possibly known. Plus, I would never talk to a friend like that and put limitations on them...not fair at all.
blogger / pomegranate / 3300 posts
My sister used a name I wanted. It was our grandmothers middle name. I was not pregnant yet. I was a little sad but I got over it. Not only was I not pregnant but there was no guarantee I would have a girl. So I was like awe bummer... And moved on. Don't worry about it. Name your child whatever you want.
GOLD / squash / 13464 posts
That's absurd. You can't claim a name until there is a child to have it! Just ignore her and name your baby what you want. If she gets upset that's her own issue.
hostess / watermelon / 14932 posts
that is really weird. the only time we mentioned "claiming" or "owning" a name would have been if say, my SIL announced her pregnancy and we already had a name chosen (or were down to a few). I never told people when I wasn't pregnant that names were off limits! So bizarre!
that said, there was one name I loved and a friend of mine (also was not even engaged at that point) told me she "called dibs on it" and I couldn't use it. I used to just say, "I'll never have a girl anyway so it's not a big deal" but then I got pregnant, with a girl, and she reminded me of her name choice! so strange. she turned me off to it anyway.
apricot / 427 posts
I'd tell her until she's pregnant she can suck it. No one has dominion over baby names for crying out loud.
pomelo / 5073 posts
@JessicaMcB: Love this response!
@autumnlove: seriously, I don't know how she thought that was okay....that's just crazy. Now I do know some family members that had friends and they went on and on about how they were naming their daughter Kimberly. That's what they picked, everything was monogramed, etc. The family members didn't say what name they were use, but promised it wasn't Kimberly. Well, the family members ended up going into labor first, didn't call their friends, and had a girl--that they named Kimberly. So, the friends come to visit and they tell them that they are using that name and they never spoke to each other again.
clementine / 990 posts
Wow. That's so weird.
My husband's boss' wife and I were pregnant at the same time, and discussed names one day. When I told her my choice for my girl, she was like, oh... that's nice, and you could totally tell she thought the name was horrible. She was expecting a girl, but ended up having a boy (ULTRASOUND BEWARE!), and named him a name ONE LETTER different than what I named my girl........... I don't care, I just thought it was weird that she didn't like my name, but the name they chose ended up being SO close.
cantaloupe / 6146 posts
Eh. Ignore her.
My grandma and her brother named their sons the same name and no one caress. 
Yup, same first name. No one cares! No one even mixes them up (different last name). So if family can do it, so can friends.
coconut / 8430 posts
@pastemoo: My brother and cousin have the same first name, different last name. It's never been an issue in our family either!
GOLD / wonderful grape / 20289 posts
Glad you told her you're not going to listen to her! That's a crazy and silly request. You can't save SIX names! Selfish much?
pomegranate / 3225 posts
She sounds crazy. Name her what YOU want! You are pregnant first so it's just too bad for her, as far as I'm concerned.
bananas / 9227 posts
Eww! Calling dibs on 6 names?! She's not thinking straight, are you sure she's not pregnant too?
hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts
@Crumbs: I don't think she is. She is getting married next year and is thinking about TTC around their 6 month anniversary. She has her life planned!
pomelo / 5331 posts
Wowwwww. What a crazypants reaction to your news!
But congrats to you!
nectarine / 2127 posts
My SIL told me she'd kill me if I got pregnant before her (they'd been trying for 7 years). I'm sure she was joking but I took the opportunity to tell her DH and i's top names. DH was named after his dad but isn't a junior and SIL was REALLY close to FIL and I figured she'd use DH's first name to honor her dad. But she agreed not to use it as a first name because DH and I hope to have a junior someday. It wasn't a nasty conversation, it was just friendly coordination among sisters shes due four months before us and plans to name her son after her husband but with FIL/DH's name as his middle name. My favorite girl name is so far from her favorite girl name, it wasn't an issue.
coconut / 8299 posts
That's so lame! I say who cares if the name you like is on her list. She can't claim 5 names. I could see if the wanted to claim one name that she loved forever and was her grandmoterh's name or something. I could understand that. But 5 names? That's ridic! Go for whatever name you like!!
hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts
Ha, crazy pants emailed me last night to ask when I'm having a gender scan. Um...go plan your wedding!
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
My friend already called a name too that I really like. But it is her Mom's maiden name so I can't really take it 
pomegranate / 3272 posts
I feel that among friends, all names are fair game. Do you know how many friends I have with boys named Michael or some form of Jack all within months of each other? Within a family, it might get a little tricky. But really, it should be first come first served.
GOLD / squash / 13464 posts
@MUI831: This! I don't really see why it's a huge deal if friends name their children the same thing. It's not like your kid is going to be the only Emma, Olivia, or Jackson in the world.
GOLD / papaya / 10206 posts
@autumnlove: OMG that is like stalker level cray cray!! I would totally try and freak her out and tell her I'm planning on using all 6 names.
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