We just hired a nanny who started this past Monday (so we are only on day 5). She is a mother to 5 grown kids, and has nannied for 10 years. I called her most recent 2 families and talked to the mothers, who recommended her. The 2nd mom was very chatty and said they sometimes had to "confront her" over things, but they always worked it out. That was a red flag to me, but I asked for elaboration and the mom said, 'Oh no, don't get me wrong...if I were going to continue working, she would still be our nanny. It's just that everything has to be in writing or she forgets, so we would have to have meetings sometimes to get issues resolved". Okay. But this nanny seemed the best out of the ones we interviewed, so we offered her the job.

The nanny has our 5 month old baby full time, 5 days a week. She also has our 2.5 year old Tuesdays and Thursdays (LO attends daycare/preschool the other 3 days a week). Here are some things that have cropped up this week, and I don't know if these are just kinks from the adjustment phase or red flags, for lack of a better word.

Some of these things are pretty minor, and some are bigger, but I want to give the overall picture.

-Day 2 she showed up 20 min late. She said she was downstairs waiting in our lobby, but got the start time wrong. The start time vary depending on the day, but the schedule is in writing and we'd just been over it.

-she asked if she could take the baby out for walks if the baby is bundled up. I said that's okay, but she does need most of her naps at home because she's just gotten used to sleeping in her crib, and I don't want to mess that up. well, LO takes 2-3 naps while with nanny and usually at least 2 of them are in the stroller while nanny is somewhere else. I think I'm paranoid about SIDS and stuff, but sometimes LO2 is sleeping for like 2 hours in the stroller while LO 1 is playing somewhere (in the play room of our building, or outside at the park). I see nannies doing this all the time, so I figure it's relatively normal but....I'm used to the baby sleeping at least her long morning nap at home in the crib. Is that something I should expect her to change to fit my preferences, or do I let her do her thing?

-her only household duties (again, in writing, that we agreed on), are taking out diaper trash when full, washing bottles, and washing children's clothes if needed. I told her verbally that the laundry was least important and really only necessary for laundry "emergencies" like spit up or poop or pee everywhere. Well, every day she leaves the last bottle unwashed on the counter, and she hasn't taken the diaper trash all week, and yesterday LO1 had a pee accident while sitting on the bed and the nanny did not strip the bed or put the sheets in to wash. She also didn't call me at work asking what to do, she just left the soiled sheets on the bed.

-yesterday, they played with playdough and when I got home, the playdough and tools were all left out on the kitchen table and the playdough was dried out. LO1 said they'd played playdough in the morning. I don't care so much about the tools being out, but is it so much to ask that playdough be put away in the can after it's played with?

-She constantly puts our heat way up on 72 and complains that our house is cold (I keep it on 68). And I come home and the girls are wearing a onesie, with their clothes over, with a sweater or jacket over--indoors. I already told her I prefer for the thermostat to stay lower, but yesterday I came home and it was on 72 again.

SO. red flags, or are these things that I should just address today in a "okay the first week is over, let's review" type situation and expect change?

Background info: We pay her 8-5, even though most days I am home before 4:15. But we decided to round up for every day because about once a week I have faculty meetings and I get home a bit later. But this week, she has consistently been done at her job 45 min "early", so I'm thinking even if her day is super busy, when I come home she could take out the (1) diaper pail if it's full and wash the last bottle since the girls are with me. Or is that unreasonable to expect?

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