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Maybe some heartburn or reflux? have you tried giving up dairy?
Will the 5Ss work for her?
ETA: I would ask to see the ped sooner...it seems a little extreme.

With both of my son's the first two weeks were horrible for us. Lots of crying! Also both of my son's (2.5 and almost 5 weeks) only seemed to be happy at the boob almost all of the time. They were/are lazy nursers and terrible sleepers so they both fought sleep and then when it was time to eat they would fall asleep nursing and then would wake up and cry because I believe they are hungry and not satisfied. And the cycle continues....uuuuggghhh. I wish I had some advice for you but I'm right there with you and I know with my older son it just took time and he got better. My ped said I may just have fussy kids! Hugs to you!

Sorry this is happening! First of all, do you know if your supply is in? Like are you sure she's getting enough to eat? The first few days of DS's life we had NO idea why he was screaming so much until I gave in and fed him some formula and he GUZZLED the thing and fell right asleep afterwards. Then I tried pumping and realized nothing was coming out!

Second, I had the same problem during DS's awake time when he was a newborn. The seocnd he woke up he'd be screaming for a bottle. There was no in-between time. He was either sleeping, eating or screaming. We tried everything: gas drops, bicycling, bouncing, rocking, swaddling - you name it. The only two things that helped were the rock n' play and tilting the crib mattress and making a nest.

Good luck!

I agree that it seems a little extreme so I would call the doctor sooner. I have no experience with acid reflux in babies but it seems like something is bothering her. I tend to be cautious and if something doesn't feel right I call the doctor.

My older son didn't sleep much as a newborn but he was generally content - any fussiness could be solved with the 5s's. This baby only cries when he is benign changed. He sleeps and eats - that's it so far. Each baby is so different!

Colic calm is another option. I have several friends who say it had really helped their babies.

@Mae: is she latching off and on or won't nurse if you put her on? I hated pumping and dd wouldn't take a bottle either and 5s did not work for her at all but did for dd. Babies are such a mystery! I'm with foodnerd. Nothing was wrong with DS he just cried a hell of a lot and it had no idea how much some babies cried. Dd is exact opposite. It's just so crazy!

@Mae: Assuming nothing is "wrong" the things that worked to sooth C were bouncing vigorously on the yoga ball, and putting her in the Moby and walking and walking and walking outside.

On the plus side, once she got past her incredibly fussy stage she is seriously a very happy baby. I never ever thought she would be-- I have photos of her sleeping and looking so grumpy about it- but it was really just a phase.

@Mae: my daughter went through a phase where we were transitioning to formula that didn't agree with her where she did what you're describing. It was so difficult. We ended up getting MIL to help us and then figured it out through trial and error. I know you're bf'ing but I'd look into the "medical" and feeding stuff first.

Just know that it's also within the range of "normal" for newborns to need feeding/tummy stuff sorted out. Our ped said it develops and the gas calms down at 12 weeks. I remember how incredibly LONG that felt but you will get there! My LO did and was a really happy baby at about 4.5 months and it just got better. Hang in there!

@Mae: Cluster feeding is so tough! Sometimes LO would nurse on and off for *hours*. BIG ((hugs)). And if she's sleeping, I wouldn't wake her for a feed . . . or I would let her go at least another 15-30 minutes (ETA: or a little longer, because, you need a break too hon!), before I started worrying about waking her to feed.

When DS was first born he was never happy when he was awake unless he was eating. Luckily he slept a large majority of the time. I don't think it's that uncommon for newborns to not have much happy awake time. DS also hated the RnP. I heard all these great reviews about it, but he hated being put down.

Have you tried babywearing? Also, I wouldn't worry about pumping for a while. You've got so much going on trying to figure out your baby. My LC recommends waiting until 1 month PP to start pumping.

And for us, the 2 week growth spurt was no joke either. We had thrush, which made nursing painful after too much, and he would just scream and scream at me. Many times I ended up giving up and handing him to DH to give him a bottle.

If it makes you feel any better, crying is a stress reliever for some newborns.

Oh , and since you don't have enough going on, you can make a strong sage tea and dip some cotton pads in them and put those in your bra. I found them really soothing.

Hope everything is going generally well, though!

@Mae: Yeah . . . everyone says BFing shouldn't hurt . . . and it doesn't . . . EVENTUALLY. In the beginning, my nipples were sore all the time, and one side took such a beating that I had to use a nipple shield for a while. Lanolin and gel soothies are great, but I also had some of these freezable jobies that also helped, and didn't require me to peel anything off of my sore bewbs. (My DH brought them home for me . . . he felt so sorry for me!)

@Mae: good, its worth it. At 8 months its about the only time he wants to snuggle with me

@MsLipGloss: exactly...it doesn't hurt eventually. I had multiple LC's tell me in the middle of my struggles, it shouldn't hurt uhh well it does.

I'm so sorry. For us, having a newborn was utter hell. It gets better, I promise.

My LO was colicky so she very rarely had awake time when she was not fussy. I had low supply so for the first week it was hunger. I would make sure she is gaining properly & I would also nurse constantly if that's what works. I know it hurts though!

My LO also did not sleep well from day one. Overtiredness makes it much harder for newborns to fall asleep so its a vicious cycle. Does your LO sleep in the car or the swing, or while being worn? I would try some kind of motion to see if that helps. One we got a swing I wished I had it from the beginning - it changed our lives.

I'll say that I was desperate to solve the "problem" & tried gas drops, gripe water, bicycling, diet changes, etc. as well. Ultimately she just outgrew it. I know that is not encouraging though

@Mae: I don't know much about any of this since I'm only a couple weeks ahead of you, but I was wondering if you saw the LC or just talked on the phone? If you could go in for weighted feeds it may help to see how much she is getting from you. Alice had some of the same issues as Fiona and honestly, I think I was just starving her. We were supplementingn with formula, too, but only 20 ml and that was just not enough for her. We've been on a high calorie formula recipe for one week + a higher quantity of formula offered after BFing. The first time we gave her that higher amount, it was like she was a totally different baby. She stills screams from 4-8:30 every day, but I think that is just her witching hour. The rest of the time she is satisfied and sleepy. Also I think Alice is pretty gassy. Maybe Fiona is too? I read some helpful tips on Kellymom that sometimes work for her.

Also, on the eating thing - I had a lot of issues eating the first two weeks. I had no appetite, lost all my baby weight + an additional 10 lbs, had no energy, etc. My husband took to sit next to is while I was nursing and feeding me. It was ridiculous, but I had to get some calories. My OB said once my hormones evened out I might be able to eat better, and sure enough in the last 4-5 days my appetite has returned. It has greatly improved my supply and my mood! I hope your appetite comes back soon! And I hope some things get figured out with Fiona's sleeping/eating soon!