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I think you're a better mom to not pick her up! She's learning to self soothe, that's important. As long as she's not upset you shouldn't be either.

no way are you a terrible mother! this was the biggest mistake i made! LO slept next to our bed for the first 8 weeks and i fed LO anytime she made a peep thinking i was being pro-active by feeding her before she started crying, but i probably just set up bad habits and didn't give her the chance to fall back asleep on her own. you are doing everything right, no need to feel guilty at all!

I eventually moved my daughter out of our room because she was keeping us up! She slept fine in her crib from then on and I got better sleep because I wasn't waking up with her stirring and only got up to feed her when she cried.

Babies fuss and cry in their sleep all the time. If A doesn't open his eyes, I don't pick him up. Even if his eyes are open and he's just squirming, I wait a while to see if he cries.

Unless DS was/is crying I don't pick him up.

It sounds like you're doing the right thing! Babies wake up a lot during the night and will resettle themselves without assistance. They flip and flop like we do. Unless my daughter starts screaming, I let her work it out. We do NOT do CIO in my house. I know her cries and know when she is going to go back to sleep and know when she needs me. Sounds like your lo is a good sleeper!!!

Be glad she will go back to sleep! I would kill for my LO to do that.

Wagon Jr. has woken with at least one crying night waking every nice ever since he was a baby. I went through years (literally!) of guilt over it. We tried everything-- earlier bedtime, later bedtime, water/milk before bed, no water/milk before bed, changing bedtime routine, spending more time, spending less time, adding a nightlight, adding two nightlights... honestly everything you could think of. But most nights he stirs (and most nights cries) at 9pm and midnight on the DOT.

The times we tried to go to him and help him it only made it worse. When we try to comfort him and hold him he just gets absolutely hysterical. So after learning our lesson multiple times we now just leave him be, and if he gets hysterical we talk to him over the monitor. He's 3.5 now so we tell him to use his words and tell us what's wrong, and usually he doesn't respond, so we tell him to lie down and stop crying. When he's really bad, the only thing that will snap him out of it is yelling sternly at him.

So awful

I have noticed recently, now that he's dropping his only nap, that the nights he DOESN'T have a waking is when he has a nap. So it could totally be tiredness related. But in the past, he's had great nap days and still had horrible wakings. So I really have no idea. I can only come to the conclusion that some kids are really active sleepers with lots of nightmares

you're doing great! i need to give DD a couple more minutes of fussing before i get her up. there are times where i think, hm, maybe i should have waited longer.