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You read my mind! Although I have two (2.5 and 9weeks), I often wonder how my mom, who had 3, and my grandma, who had 6, managed it all. The family planning discussions are now difficult because we love to have more but there is so much more to think about (support, finances, sharing the love, etc.)

On bad days I feel spread to thin, but most of the time we do just fine. I try to go on the not equal but fair premise. When my youngest was born she obviously needed more time. After a long nursing session I would make sure to get down and play with my boys. It may not have been as long and when we are all playing its not individual,attention but it is quality time. One of my sons loves to cook with me so on a day when I am doing more baking or cooking he might have more time with me than one of the other boys who doesn't like to cook. But after dinner I will make sure to do what he wants me to do.

I don't know if that quite makes sense but I try my best to do what each kids likes to do with me even if the time is not equal.

@Mrs. Train: I also operate on the "not equal but fair" mentality. I try to give both kids what they need, but that doesn't always mean they get the same.

Pretty much the only times I feel like 3 might be possible is when DD and DS are playing together on their owm. Luckily that is becoming a lot more common the older DS gets!

@chopsuey119: My mom was very lucky, got to be a SAHM until I was in school, and then she worked for my dad so she set her own hours. I also would love three but hear you on the tough pregnancies.... I'm not looking forward to my 2nd..... which is why we aren't even TTC again yet! My migraines are soooo tough for me during pregnancy I think for us if we want 3 the third will be adopted.

I have to admit that now that DS is almost one and DD is almost three, the idea of splitting time is a little easier. DD can play by herself more, and enjoys it, so DS gets my attention then. DS is taking naps and goes to bed first so DD gets my attention then. In the beginning though, it was tough. I have a feeling that it is going to get easier too (I hope!!).