I am overwhelmed and don't know where to start. I would 100% pay for a sleep consult at this point but can't justify the cost right after Christmas. I've read so much information on this topic that I'm now overwhelmed and basically just wish someone would say, "Here's a plan. Follow it."
So here's the situation:
DD is eight months old. She napped in the unmoving swing until, well, last week basically (we'd had her napping in the crib previously, but then she got sick and we went back to the swing). She was a fantastic napper in the swing, typically napping 90 minutes in the morning and two hours in the afternoon. She started out well in the crib but it's just gone downhill. This morning she napped for 10 minutes before waking up, I let her CIO with checks for 40 minutes and then she slept for 45 minutes. Afternoon naps are easier, but still not the best.
I think that nursing to sleep for naps has become an issue and she's now waking up after a short period of sleep and discovering that I've left and flipping out. I've always said that I would NTS until it became an issue...and I think we've reached that point. DH does bedtime, so I know she can sleep without nursing, but it's obviously become a major sleep association for naps.
I don't know where to start in terms of what plan to follow. I just need to come up with a plan and then I think I can stick with it. Do I just start cold turkey? Our current nap time routine is: take her into the nursery, change her diaper, turn out the light, turn on the white noise, put her in her Zippadeezip and then nurse to sleep. What should I do instead of that?
And after I've put her down, I'm totally confused about what method to use to manage her crying...extinction? CIO with checks? Should I stay in the room? I have no idea!
Please help me cut through all the information and stop NTS for naps! What worked for you? How long did it take?
I hear these magical stories about people being able to put their baby down awake and leave and then the baby puts him/herself to sleep.....I dream of that! I dream of being able to have someone other than me put her down for a nap. I can't even imagine the freedom of being able to leave her for more than a few hours!