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We're kinda the opposite in that everybody thought we'd wait a lot longer. We didn't tell them that we moved up our timeline, and it was a huge surprise to them. I'm wondering now if we'll get any pressure from them since we're about to TTC again, but I think Hubs' parents overall attitude is to let us do whatever. My mom has told me that she would like another grandbaby, but on our schedule.
Good luck Adira!

well, my in laws (more MIL than FIL) used to mention it in the beginning. i kind of "shut her up" by saying it's in god's hands, not mine. we were trying but it wasn't our choice we weren't getting pregnant. which was true, but i kind of mentioned it before we were really trying. she always looked like she wanted to say something, but after i mentioned that it's not in my hands, she definitely didn't say much about it. i just told her to keep praying. lol.

Eeks. That's a hard one. Could you hint that you were having problems just to keep her quiet? Or could your husband just tell her to leave it alone? I've had to get my Hubs to tell him mom to chill on a few things, and she's been super respectful of that.

My husbands parents have been great-my MIL has made it known that she is excited for us to start trying but she has also said that we should take our time and be ready.

On the other hand, my two brothers wives are more persistant and nosey. A few months ago I was having some medical issues that if they had not been resolved, we may not have been able to have children naturally. I made a comment more or less saying that if for what ever reason having children wasn't a possiblity (and adoption wasn't financially feasable), that we'd be ok with not having children (we have 10 nieces and nephews & 1 great nephew between us). SIL was very offended! Like how dare we even consider the possibility of not having children!

Anymore when people ask when we are starting a family I'm either very blunt (depending on who it is) and tell them to mind their own business or say practice makes perfect and we haven't quite got it right yet.

Jeez - it's all about her plans to travel with kiddos? Yeesh. She sounds like a real charmer.

We headed off the chance for any pressure to develop when I got pregnant unexpectedly a couple months after the wedding, but we're now experiencing number 2 pressure! It's pretty benign right now, but yesterday was sad because my MIL's dad died, and she just stared at me and the baby for a few minutes then said, "I wish you were pregnant. To see that life goes on..."

@adira - you should tell your husband to tell his mom that you didn't want to see her anymore because she keeps badgering you and let's see how she reacts lol.

@Adira - that's what I said to my Mom for a long time. Maybe we won't have kids!! And then I would add - just stop it. Stop asking. It's annoying me. I would just be blunt with your husband - tell him that you don't want to talk to MIL about it and if he doesn't tell her to stop the comments, you will. My mouth does get me in trouble sometimes, though.

@Bykes187 Oh my gosh. That's a really random comment but I guess you never know what grief will bring.

@PBandBaseball - I love the over/under. That's awesome.

I like @Tessabella76's comment because if you say practice makes perfect or anything that eludes to the fact that you actually have to have sex to have babies, maybe that will make her stop. Does anyone REALLY want to know their kids are having sex??

@adira - okay, you win.... lol. she's CRAZY! i'm fairly certain if my parents or PIL found us naked together, we might not have gotten married haha.

she seems like the type you just have to be blunt to. so i agree with jbhops - tell your husband to tell her to back off or you will.

adira, i'm so sorry for you! =T

@Adira - I definitely think you win with the MIL craziness!! I hope that your husband can have a talk with her and get her to back off a bit. TTC is stressful enough without having someone constantly checking in with you and making it such a deadline type of situation.

@tequiero21 - Over/under betting is a sports thing where people try to guess if a team is going to score over or under a certain number of points (I think this is right). At our wedding it was determined that 14 months from the wedding date was the set amount of time from wedding to baby. I guess people assumed we'd start pretty quickly. If we're successful this month it'll be 15 months.

@JBHops @Adira -- I'm not holding it against her (woman just lost her dad and all) but yeah, it was pretty random! We aren't hardcore TTC #2 yet (we've been trying three months and I only charted the last month) but I had just started my period and was kind of bummed about it. But other than that both sets of parents have been great with withholding pressure!