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I'm so sorry for your losses. I don't have experience with recurrent loss, but I think it's reasonable to ask for some
Blood work just to see if any things glaringly obvious. its not unheard of that the thyroid and hormone levels can go haywire after having a baby.

Im so sorry. We went down a similar path after the surprise pregnancy and our daughter.

After our second loss our OB did agree to do some routine bloodwork. A general health check can't hurt and you can ask if he can put some other things in there too.

I think your points are great that you be asked to do blood work including progesterone (make sure to ask about this because its not always routine to do betas + progesterone) at like 5 weeks and if that is positive to do an ultrasound at 6 weeks.

Edit, our third pregnancy did require progesterone and baby aspirin but it was a healthy baby.

I forgot to add that I had bloodwork checked for general health things too like thyroid.

I'm sorry for your losses.

I had one loss at 8 weeks. It was passed naturally and we waited the required one cycle to TTC. After couple of months and no luck, I talked with my OB and explained how TTC wasn't working. He said that they don't do infertility treatments until after one year of TTC but bc he heard how I was in a hurry he put me a different course. It was very appreciative bc it took us a year after that first initial meeting to get pregnant with injectables. If I had waited a year of plain TTC, it would have taken terribly longer.

I guess my point is...depends on your doctor and sometimes begging. But it does not hurt to ask.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I have not experienced losses but as for progesterone, I went in for my first appt at 6 weeks just to confirm pregnancy and my progesterone was s low, so I was put in Prometrium. When I found out I was pregnant again, the office wanted to see me after 8 weeks but I asked to be seen earlier so they could test progesterone. They agreed and it was low again so I was put on the meds again. I'm now 22 weeks. Good luck to you

I'm so sorry for your losses :(. I had a similar situation- got pregnant the 1st month we tried with my 1st. TTC#2- got pregnant the first month of trying. That ended in a MC at 7 weeks. The 2nd time I got pregnant, my OB did betas once I had a positive test and put me on progesterone around 5 weeks. We found out at the 1st ultrasound at 8 weeks that it was a blighted ovum. At that point my dr suggested seeing an RE because of my age (37). It's my understanding that it's now 2 or more losses that are considered recurrent- especially when you are older. My husband and I did all of the bloodwork and other testing with the RE- nothing was abnormal. We were given the go-ahead to try naturally again in May. I got pregnant in June- I was on progesterone starting 2 days after ovulation and had bloodwork done as soon as I had a positive test. We had ultrasounds at 5 weeks and 6 weeks- unfortunately that pregnancy was another blighted ovum as well. Since the only thing my MCs could be attributed to was egg quality, we are currently doing IVF (frozen transfer in November).

I know you said you live in a small town but do you have the option of going to an RE? I can just say from my experience that you would probably get a lot more monitoring with an RE than you will with your regular dr. My OB wouldn't do an ultrasound before 8 weeks- even with a previous loss. Their philosophy is sort of that there is nothing that you can really do- if it's going to be a MC, it's going to be a MC. I'm glad that we had the monitoring the 3rd time because we knew very early on that the pregnancy wasn't viable and could have the D&C before the MC happened on it's own (I had an awful experience with misoprostol with my 2nd MC and didn't want to go through that again).

I know it's really hard emotionally to keep going through MCs so for your own mental well-being it may be worth looking into options for testing with someone that deals with infertility. They may see an issue that is fixable.

I think any input I have would be redundant at this point, but I just wanted to say that I'm very sorry for your losses.

@MrsDragon: That's really sucky- I'm sorry . Considering the circumstances then I would say bloodwork at the beginning at least would be something to ease your mind. Maybe you can ask about a progesterone prescription before you get pregnant again? My RE's opinion was that taking it a few days after ovulation is when it's most important. I never took baby aspirin but it's something else that a lot of people swear by that can't really hurt.

@MrsDragon: hi lady, thanks for reaching out on the Nov POAS board. I remember seeing your name on the April due date board, but you were out before I joined (and then I was out not long after) and then again on the Oct board. I'm not sure yet, but looks like we might be in the same boat with the back-to-back mc's. I found this thread when I clicked on your name and it's really informative.

I just went in for a beta this morning, and had to get special permission to get my progesterone tested, too (it was granted, thank god). I've also had my thyroid tested at a crazy-expensive endocrinologist (I have family history), but it's fine. I keep thinking this pregnancy might have been doomed from the start... late ovulation, not-quite-positive opk, late and super faint bfp at 14 dpo, low beta number, no symptoms other than a little crampy. I know it probably sounds insane to conclude this from one FRER and one temp, but I've all but decided I'm fucked. I just wish my period would come so I could de-bloat and start fresh. Then there is this little part of my head that's saying: "wouldn't it be great if it stuck and you looked like a jerk for all the whining?"--and that's basically all I've got in terms of hope. I'm so scared; I thought that the super-fertility and subsequent successful pregnancy was the big consolation prize for suffering a miscarriage. Anyway, I'm sure all of these things are still warm from you having just been sitting there

How are you holding up? Can I ask why you are NTNP instead of actively trying again--are you just too burned from it all? Your healthcare situation up there doesn't sound totally ideal I mean, it sounds totally infuriating.

Sorry, this is so long!

@MrsDragon: just wanted to say I'm sorry, we were in the same position last winter. I have a two year old and we started trying for a second last year. I was 37 so after 5.5 months when nothing happened they did some blood work and found my AMH was low and sent me to an RE. I had my first miscarriage in November and then got pregnant right away and lost that one too. My RE did repeat loss blood work and told me to wait a little and so we took 2 months off. I spent some time just focusing on getting healthy. All our blood work came back negative and I'd already had an HSG and other basic infertility testing. They concluded I had poor egg quality and we started clomid, trigger shot and IUIs. First one didn't work and we started to plan for IVF. The second time we ended up doing no IUI ( just regular old BD ) but still the clomid and trigger and that one finally took. I'm 32 weeks pregnant with our second little boy. I Remember feeling so frustrated and stressed that we wouldn't ever get a sticky baby, especially with my age and limited timeline, but it happened. We just needed to get that good egg! I hope your story has a quick happy ending!

@MrsDragon: yes, I know what you mean about the dice roll. I vacillate between what you thought--"I already had my bad-luck turn, so now I'll get a good one"-- and the more pessimistic "I have the same odds this time as I did before, and I remember how *that* turned out". I hate, hate, hate that you are already thinking that you might need to get a third mc out of the way rather than putting it off if it's inevitable so you can move on to testing. It made me heartsick to read that. I'm so sorry this is happening to you, and that you don't have better care access. And the milestone dates are tough. I keep finding all these notes I excitedly made in my planner (16 weeks!--that kind of thing).

I wonder how serious the ER doctor was about the comment to take a break, and what the opinion was founded in. Did he give you a medical reason? It would be awful for you to feel guilty about trying again, or like it's your fault, if there was really no problem with it and it was just an off-handed remark. I've heard from others whose doctors said to wait 3 months for emotional reasons, as if all of us have the same emotional needs and reactions Anyway, I would love for you to keep me posted on how you're doing. xx

@MrsDragon: so sorry you are going through this. Two MCs will take a toll on your emotions too, even if you are feeling the need to push on, be gentle with yourself. I don't have much advice being in Australia where care model is quite different. But I hope that you are able to find a doctor who will listen to your questions and give you that reassurance.

@MrsDragon: totally understand & agree, I know what you mean about dealing with things either way! Good luck and I hope you get a good plan out of next week's appointment!

@MrsDragon: I am so, so happy to hear you've found someone responsive and decent. She sounds really encouraging, and yes, just the fact that she's available is so huge. Glad you got the blessing to start trying (guilt-free) again I will cross my fingers for you, lady!

Over here, I am indeed having another m/c--they are concerned it might be ectopic, and I'm praying to the miscarriage gods to just have a normal one. fingers crossed it works itself out in the next few days.

My OB insists this one isn't the same cause of the other one, and I just "had the bad luck to have bad luck twice in a row". so here's hoping for both of us to be done with this shit completely.
onward and upward

@MrsDragon: so glad you had a good appointment!

@MrsDragon: Glad to hear you had a good appointment!

@LCTBQE: Just wanted to say that a lot of bees on here (myself included) had two miscarriages followed by a healthy pregnancy. I don't know if it's just odds or what but it seems very true. Hoping you get answers soon.