After an argument or disagreement with your SO, do you just bounce right back into relationship business as usual or do you need a little bit of time to cool off and get over feeling upset/annoyed/sad, etc?
I need time. DH is a bounce back. Not cool. He's all, "Hey let's cuddle and talk about our day" and I'm like, "..."
pomelo / 5509 posts
I'm a bounce back, I just want to put it behind us. He needs time, though, and I try to respect that.
grapefruit / 4089 posts
We both need our space to bounce back. I sometimes let my temper get the best of me, and then he knows it's cool down time or I'm likely to say something not-so-nice and regret it later.
coconut / 8498 posts
I need time. He bounces back, but often wants to continue talking about it.
honeydew / 7586 posts
I need time. DH bounces back. Unfortunately, this sometimes leads into a second argument.
squash / 13764 posts
I need time...I don't hold grudges but I sometimes need some time to just be mad.
cantaloupe / 6164 posts
We're opposite! I'm a bounce back, and he needs time. So, I just apologize and go to another room until he's chilled out & back to normal.
papaya / 10343 posts
Depends. Sometimes on smaller arguments we don't really talk it out, we both just need a little time to simmer down and then we're fine. But usually if we argue we talk through whatever we're pissed about and by the time the discussion is over we're cuddling.
nectarine / 2994 posts
I always need space. I deal with things by thinking them over by myself, then I go to dh when I'm ready.
hostess / watermelon / 14932 posts
haha it depends what we were arguing about. i need about 5-10 minutes to cool down, then I usually get over it. usually. 
pomegranate / 3980 posts
We rarely argue to the point of anyone needing time, typically when we argue we get over it pretty fast.
hostess / wonderful persimmon / 25556 posts
I'm all "let's have makeup sex" and he's all, "don't touch me." Meh.
coconut / 8234 posts
@Weagle: My DH can talk about an issue forever and ever. I think I've fallen asleep during a conversation once.
@rahlyrah: Yup, the second argument has happened plenty of times because DH still doesn't understand the concept of space!
@mediagirl: You are my DH!
nectarine / 2932 posts
I need time, and space. He is super clingy after a fight and it drives me nuts. It usually makes the fight 10x worse.
coconut / 8234 posts
@IRunForFun: It's good that you respect his need for space. My DH is hit or miss with this concept.
@MrsH: Even with resolution sometimes I just need to sit still. I tell DH my feelings aren't like a faucet. It's hard to turn off anger or annoyance for me.
@cyndistar3: Bottle that and sell it to me. I wish I could be like that.
coconut / 8234 posts
@Littlebit: Haha. That does not sound like fun! I think I would just sit in a ball underneath a comforter so that he got the point 
wonderful pea / 17279 posts
When we rub each other the wrong way I bounce back pretty quickly, but I don't necessarily want to hold his hand. My husband needs a bit more time and wants me to notice hus sulking.
pomegranate / 3658 posts
We're very fast. If I'm really pissed off, I'll need about five minutes. Normally it's no time at all. This continually amazes me and has me convinced I'm pretty damn lucky to have found my DH because I am otherwise a very stubborn person.
persimmon / 1304 posts
Depends on the magnitude of the argument, but I am normally pretty quick to move on. He is too, I guess, but he will stay a little cold.
cantaloupe / 6206 posts
Wow this is such a good question, I thought we were the only ones with this dichotomy! I need everything to be okay ASSOONASPOSSIBLE so the second the argument is over I'm trying to be all chatty and lovey. DH needs time in a SERIOUS way to cool off, process, be alone etc, which drives me insane. It's a constant battle of him asking me for space, which just makes me nervous that he's still angry or something, when I've moved on.
honeydew / 7444 posts
@JoJoGirl: I am the same!! Once I have said my piece I can bounce back whereas DH needs time to chill. It makes me soooo anxious!
grapefruit / 4817 posts
I bounce back but he needs time. I think it drives both of us nuts. I just really like to get things hashed out and to make up ASAP, where he likes to stew for a while.
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
We both need a ill time, he has a bigger temper but once he is done he is good so I usually wait for him to calm down and reach out to me. I sulk for longer haha.
grapefruit / 4136 posts
It really depends on what sparked the argument. If it was something I did (especially if it's something I knew I shouldn't have said/done) then I need more time to sulk in my own skin but I want HIM to bounce back so I know things are okay asap so I don't have any more guilt.
If it's something he did, I can usually bounce back. I have a very forgiving personality, which actually leads to a lot of issues getting worse because I just ignore things in my passive way and then they become bigger issues in the end. Wah.
hostess / wonderful honeydew / 32460 posts
We both bounce back pretty quickly. Haha. We can't stay mad long because we laugh when we look at each other.
persimmon / 1328 posts
We both usually bounce back, even though there are times I would like some time. He can be pretty good at getting me to bounce back though
coconut / 8475 posts
We're very bounce back quick type of people. Actually, he hardly ever gets worked up at all anyways.
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