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That's so scary. No advice, just hugs. Glad she's ok!

That is so scary! Thank god your daycare providers knew just what to do. big hugs.

Big hugs. Glad she is ok. I can't even imagine how scary that would be.

Oh my gosh. I cannot even imagine how terrifying that must have been. I agree that getting help is totally warranted...I know I would need to. I am so so glad that your daycare provider knew what to do and that she has made a complete recovery. Hugs, mama.

@yellowbeach: oh no, that's terrible. You went through something incredible and big hugs to you. I am very glad she is fine, and I hope they figure out what is going on before something happens again... (hopefully not). In the meantime, brush up your CPR skills...! Thank God for daycare teachers for knowing what to do.

I had little episodes here and there that were 1000 times less serious than yours. DS used to have a period which he would cry, hold his breath until he turned purple and pass out. One of the first times was food trucks at a park. He didn't get what he wanted, he cried and turned purple. Next thing you know he rolled his eyes and became limp. I was eerily calm at the moment and tried to remember what to do. I laid him on a flat solid ground and thank God, without me having to tried anything he was back in 2-3 seconds but it felt more like 10.

Then just a few weeks ago, school called in the morning and said DS slipped on a leaky water bottle and fell on the ground head first. There is a goose egg bump on the back of his head and he was very upset. Two different teachers called me. The first one said "the nurse said there is no reason to worry....... OR you can come pick him up". He repeated that three times lol. The second one is our class teacher. She said he didn't want to get a donut (it was 100th day of school and they had morning treats), which was odd for him, and he didn't want to write his journal, which was also very unusual. She said as a mother to a mother, she would recommend me to pick him up and take him to the doctor as that was what she would do if it were her. At that moment, his life literally flashed before my eyes. I picked him up and ran to the doc's. He turned out really ok (as the nurse had said), thank God, but it was scary. I can't even imagine how scary it was for you...... big hugs again....

@yellowbeach: So sorry you went through this. The way you're feeling is totally understandable and normal.

My middle daughter had an instance of suspected (but never diagnosed) meningitis that we nearly missed - I'm so thankful that our nanny at the time spotted the purple mottled "stained glass" pattern on her legs, which is a sign of sepsis. We went to the pediatrician, who sent us straight to the ER, where DD2 was admitted to the PICU immediately for a spinal tap and host of other tests. We had no idea throughout the ordeal whether or not DD2 would be ok, and actually to this day never had a positive identification of exactly what was wrong. Her discharge papers say "gastroenteritis", which seems like a ridiculous diagnosis for the actual symptoms she was experiencing (and the fact that she coded multiple times during her stay) - so I can relate to the underlying feeling of "now what"? and waiting for the other shoe to drop that comes from not having any real diagnosis/outcome from a serious medical episode. It's so frustrating and scary.

But basically I wanted to tell you that once we got her home from the PICU, talking to people about what had happened helped, as did making sure all her caregivers had a VERY solid emergency plan in place for what to do if a similar incident were to occur again. I felt the things you're describing feeling now for awhile (my big hang-up was "What would we have told DD1, who was just 2 at the time", but it gradually went away - so much so that I can tell you that by the time she was one, I was able to let her stay with family while I traveled out of the country, and I wasn't worried in the least about "something awful" happening...and now, at 3.5, I honestly never even think about it, to the point that when giving her medical history recently, I nearly forgot to mention it when asked about hospitalizations (she was in the PICU for about a week!)

ETA: This same child also broke her arm this past summer....and while a broken bone is much less serious than the other things we're talking about, there was still a feeling of waiting for "next time" any time she was doing an activity similar to what she was doing when she broke her arm. That incident is about 7-8 months behind us now, and I don't worry seriously anymore. Again, it (unfortunately) just took time to get that pit of of my stomach/the thoughts out of my head. I think that's just natural.

@yellowbeach: I"m so sorry this happened to you and your darling girl. Hugs to you both.

Oh mama. I am so sorry. I would find therapy for myself. You're so strong.

I am so sorry you had to go through this. Also wanted to echo other posters and say to not be afraid to see a therapist to help you process the event and get some coping strategies for the future. DS spent 8 days in the hospital last year for pneumonia and I had a lot of difficulty after we were discharged. I was hyper focused on his health, the what if’s, etc for a long time. I saw a therapist to talk through it and gain some strategies to cope which was very helpful. I’m an anxious person in general but have heard that it’s not uncommon for people to have trouble coping after these events, even when everything turns out to be ok. Also, time has helped too so know it will get better.

Wow. That is horrible. I’m so sorry! What a terrifying experience. I would check with your EAP benefits (I think that’s what it’s called?) for a couple counseling sessions just to give yourself some structure to cope. And I know it seems impossible but see if your program can give you a few days off to just snuggle your LO and soak her in for a little longer before going back! Oye. Hugs!

@yellowbeach: That sounds like such a tough situation AND a tough job. I don't have really any advice but I think if it were me I'd keep the option of seeing a professional on the table and just see how I handled it for a little bit and see what I needed... take care of yourself! So sorry for your scare but glad she is ok!

@yellowbeach: so sorry you had to go through this! I can't imagine!

Our DS was air lifted, sedated and intubated at 10 days old and we were in the hospital for 8 days. It was traumatizing and it took time to get over. I'll admit I probably check in on him too much like @Bluemasonjar: just mentioned and I am paranoid about him getting sick. But talking about it and sharing his story helps me. I literally just wrote a post about it bc it happened one year ago. others might not care but it makes me feel better somehow.

Hugs to you and your DD, I hope she remains event free!!

@yellowbeach: so sorry this happened! Did you get any answers as to why it happened? both my little ones have experience fever related seizures that are terrifying to witness. Its not the same as your situation since they are able to keep breathing through the seizure but we didnt know that the first time and panicked. I dont have any good advice other than that it does take time. I hope you can get to the bottom of what triggered that so it never happens again