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I voted for the long time since baby #1 option but then I got to thinking that if it's a different father and it's his family having the shower because it's his first I would be okay with that too, if that makes any sense.

Definitely if you're having a baby of opposite sex. Also, I think baby sprinkles are always fine for #2, #3, etc.

I think it's always ok. It's not something I would do because it's just not something we do in our culture, but to each their own. There's always something that a new mommy needs, even if you just have a diaper shower.

I think a smaller one is okay if it's been a longer time, or if it's the father's first child and his family wants to put on a bigger shower.

I have a hard time when people expect showers for a different gender or with each child. I know in some circumstances it is okay, but I feel it comes off greedy in a way.

However, I'm a little bitter due to the wife of a cousin on this one, she expected our family to throw this big shower for her second child & buy her gifts when she has never returned the favor for weddings/showers/ect.

I think it's always ok. it's a celebration of the new baby! and who doesn't love celebrations, you know? if this baby & the first are close in age or are the same gender or whatever though, you can always have a "sprinkle" instead of a shower, like @chopsuey119 suggested

@Adira: I was invited to one, 1st baby isn't 2 and they are the same gender. No thanks, especially since she didn't come to mine!

I think it depends. If we have another baby soon I won't expect one or make a registry but I'd love it if someone put together a small gathering. I think even if it's the same gender, close together each baby deserves a few new things but sometimes people will just gift you without there being a shower.

I had a second one and it was thrown by my family even though it was a different father than my first.
I'm not sure if anyone would decide to throw one for us if/when we have our third.
I'm not going to be upset either way.
I think it's always ok.

@highwire: We did that too. And bought a house. We decided against a housewarming party because 1. There's no time with a baby and 2. I don't want to seem like I'm fishing for even more gifts!

@highwire: I think it's fine to have wedding and baby shower close together. People should be happy... they're done buying you gifts after those two events for a while!

I'm the grinch that said never! I say never in respect of a big deal, complete with present, shower. I don't think it is appropriate and just comes across as a gift grab, especially when people expect guests to stump up for big ticket items. Actually I don't get that either. I decide to have a baby, I pay for it.

I think a celebration for a new baby is lovely, just not the expectation that others will fund the arrival.

I guess I don't know the etiquette on this one. But I have been to two showers for second time Moms-to-be. Mom #1 had recently moved to town so our friends wanted to show her a shower for the second baby. And Mom #2 was a newer friend having her second baby and her friends were throwing a shower. So in both instances I had not been to their first baby showers.
Both showers were complete with food and drinks and games, plus good friends! It had been made clear that presents were not expected as much as hanging out and celebrating. Each times I got a cute stuffed animal for the new baby as the families seemed to have most of what they needed already.

My reaction is that it's great to have one if there's a lot of time between kids or if it's the father's first baby. Showers for #2 just aren't otherwise done in my area or in my family/friend circles. That said, I always get a little something for someone having #2 (or #3...#4...)